Actors: Wesley A. Ramsey, Steve Sandvoss and Rebekah Jordan
Synopsis: Christian (Wes Ramsey), a hunky, 20-something, West Hollywood party boy gets more than he bargains for when he tries to seduce 19-year-old Elder Aaron Davis (Steve Sandvoss), a sexually confused Mormon missionary who moves into his apartment complex. When Christian exposes Davis' secret sexual desire, Davis' rejects Christian for being shallow and empty, The encounter shatters each boy's reality and draws the two into a passionate romance that risks destroying their lives. Latter Days is a charming, sexy, and moving tale that will leave you believing in the transformational power of love.
My Comments (5/5): Truly touching movie with a clear and deep message about self acceptance, diversity in character, mindset & personalities and really about finding your true self. You can't help but to identify to some degree with them, regardless if you are a closet or vice-verse. It also enlightens us as to both sides of an ongoing issue: homophobia. It is a show to be recommended to everyone you know, and the DVD is definitely worth the keep. "Audiences, young and old and straight and gay, have been moved to tears by this beautiful story of the transformational power of love and family".
Trailer:
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Latter Days: Side A Latter Days: Side B
Songs From the Movie:Nita Whitaker - Tuesday, 3:00 am
Warning full of spoilers...Catch the Movie first.
This song is not featured in the movie, however beautifully edited,
Trust me, this show is nothing like Bishonen, and way better).
Song: Evanescence - You
Tuesday, April 10, 2007
Monday, April 09, 2007
(Issue 41) Take Me For What I'm Worth
Can we gage anyone's relationship commitment level from his behaviour and actions when he is Single? I personally do, but realise that it would be rather unfair, due to the different freedom and responsibilities both status offer. When we are single, we tend to explore into areas we are restricted during couplehood, as the only person we would have to answer to is ourselves.
With the temptation and freedom, our actions and decisions would tend to be different. However, is it fair to say that you will not be attracted to the same temptation when you are attached?
Another issue is that I was critised for having ONS, even it is only in my singlehood dayz. I believe that many of us moved into the territory of One Night Stand during Singlehood, while others condem the idea, but why tied yourself down to a statement that you can't foresee, as it would just leads to gossip or even "friends" testing your abilities to do so. I do envy the determination and mindset of these group and respect their decisions. Their contradictions to me is that "If you can't control your temptations during singlehood, what difference does it make when you are attached?".
I guess the difference is your love towards your partner that will prevent you from doing so, you will know which line can be cross and which have to be clearly drawn. Why One Night Stands questions your ability to commit during couple-ship? I believe that temptations would be stronger and harder to resist if it is something new to someone, but ultimately it all comes down to the mindset, faith and commitment of a person that speak for ones actions.
Coming to terms with (puzzled and confused) Me, (clearly aware of the lines to cross and not to) Myself and (why am) I (letting this issue getting into me once in a while now and then).
Dancing to the tunes of: Madonna - Nobody Knows Me [Aviddiva Remix]
No one's telling you how to live your life
But it's a setup until you're fed up
It's no good when you're misunderstood
But why should I care
What the world thinks of me
Won't let a stranger
Give me a social disease
Nobody, nobody knows me
With the temptation and freedom, our actions and decisions would tend to be different. However, is it fair to say that you will not be attracted to the same temptation when you are attached?
Another issue is that I was critised for having ONS, even it is only in my singlehood dayz. I believe that many of us moved into the territory of One Night Stand during Singlehood, while others condem the idea, but why tied yourself down to a statement that you can't foresee, as it would just leads to gossip or even "friends" testing your abilities to do so. I do envy the determination and mindset of these group and respect their decisions. Their contradictions to me is that "If you can't control your temptations during singlehood, what difference does it make when you are attached?".
I guess the difference is your love towards your partner that will prevent you from doing so, you will know which line can be cross and which have to be clearly drawn. Why One Night Stands questions your ability to commit during couple-ship? I believe that temptations would be stronger and harder to resist if it is something new to someone, but ultimately it all comes down to the mindset, faith and commitment of a person that speak for ones actions.
Coming to terms with (puzzled and confused) Me, (clearly aware of the lines to cross and not to) Myself and (why am) I (letting this issue getting into me once in a while now and then).
Dancing to the tunes of: Madonna - Nobody Knows Me [Aviddiva Remix]
No one's telling you how to live your life
But it's a setup until you're fed up
It's no good when you're misunderstood
But why should I care
What the world thinks of me
Won't let a stranger
Give me a social disease
Nobody, nobody knows me
Sunday, April 08, 2007
(Booty Shaking 14) Dolce and Gabbana Fall 2007
Love, Love, Love Domenico and Stefano for their clever uses of colors (mercury, bronze, brass, copper, gold and silver) to fit their Inspiration from Stanley Kubrick's innovative film, 2001: A Space Odyssey.
Kick start is three white Chic Astronaut's Jumpsuits to mark their theme. Notice their detailing from the buttons, belts and accessories. They never fail to add a spin of the highly charged homosexual spin to their style with a masculine touch to their clothes, that clearly define the beautiful structure of a man.
Inspirations are clearly shown from the neckline to the shoes, making man look good in shorts and trucks in the season of Fall. Attention are drawn to bulges with their how waist pants and body hugging suits, even a Heterosexual look tasteful in them.
Again, they used music from the hottest icons in the music scene, this time they moved on Madonna to Justin Timberlake with a great remix of "My Love" and "Damn Girl", and just when you think the show had end, they change the mood from futuristic pop to Orchestra sounds of the "On The Beautiful Blue Danube", with another 3 Jumpsuits on top of suits in colors of copper, bronze, gold. Fabulous.
Part 1:
Part 2:
Kick start is three white Chic Astronaut's Jumpsuits to mark their theme. Notice their detailing from the buttons, belts and accessories. They never fail to add a spin of the highly charged homosexual spin to their style with a masculine touch to their clothes, that clearly define the beautiful structure of a man.
Inspirations are clearly shown from the neckline to the shoes, making man look good in shorts and trucks in the season of Fall. Attention are drawn to bulges with their how waist pants and body hugging suits, even a Heterosexual look tasteful in them.
Again, they used music from the hottest icons in the music scene, this time they moved on Madonna to Justin Timberlake with a great remix of "My Love" and "Damn Girl", and just when you think the show had end, they change the mood from futuristic pop to Orchestra sounds of the "On The Beautiful Blue Danube", with another 3 Jumpsuits on top of suits in colors of copper, bronze, gold. Fabulous.
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Part 2:
Saturday, April 07, 2007
(Issue 40) Singlehood
Some say that couples do crazy things simply because they are in love, however my stand is that Singles does more crazy things to hide their discomfort with their status, and I am referring to those that desperately looking for love, either to spite their ex, peer pressure from his friends, afraid of growing old alone or desperately wants to be loved and cared.
Regardless of, whether it is to make him jealous or to make him regret his decision to dump, first and foremost, put yourself in the shoes of the innocent party you drag into your unresolved relationship, what goes around will eventually comes around to you one day. I prefer to come to a clean cut with my previous relationship, no matter how hurtful it could be, it doesn't means having zero contacts with him, but instead have a common understanding that the love for each other is different from the past and slowly accept each other as friends thru forgiveness, remember the good moments we once had together and blessed each other's future with grace. Once you learn to let go, you also learn how to handle difficult situations with 'better solutions', improving/controlling your flaws, understand what you are really looking for in your partner and love someone without comparison.
Others hurry love due to peer pressure from friends who had all 'coupled up' but him. I couldn't understand this pressure because many times these group of singles come back complaining that the couple are pretentious, incompatible, won't last long (and all the other sour grapes statements), while others complain that they are not as 'lucky' as their friends to have found their true love. Everyone knows that luck do sometimes appear, but if you do not learn how to grasp hold of the opportunity and appreciate it, luck can also slip away. Have they ever question those we envy about their endless commitments and compromises?
It is important for us to figure out why we rush for the search of love and come into terms with it.
On the other hand, I have come to know a number singles who are constantly searching for love while rejecting many hopefuls the same time. Their only aim is to look for a perfect guy through trial and errors. Could it be their worries of getting hurt by a "imperfect" guy or their fear of commitment that restrains them into taking the risk?
Many of them end up loving themselves less and start to give up hope, either because they couldn't understand why it is so difficult to find a "perfect" guy, while other grew tired due to the countless short term relationship he has been experiencing (either due to his own 'unacceptance' of the imperfect man or he got his karma back).
But I have a strong point to make, sometimes it's not the 'heart-breaker' that doesn't believe in the relation, many of the times the other party may not have realise that he is subconsciously sabotage the relation, lost faith and many other reasons that lead to the word 'breakup' from the one who loves you most, because sometimes letting you go is easier than you see you suffering.
If only they could understand that everyone inculding them have flaws, give up the thought of a perfect guy, trust their feelings that first attracts you to him (as long as it isn't the sex) and learn to work with each others flaws. Stop giving up a relation just because there are always a greener patch of grass out there. Why throw yourself back into single hood when you hate it so much?
I would like to make a stand that with all the above mentioned, I am not saying that we should give up on searching for love and remain single hood. Nor suggesting to force yourself remain in a relationship you have no feelings for.
These are just my opinions (either portraited as advises or criticisms), the most important thing is not to let anything or anyone affect your own decisions only because no one else but yourself is answerable to your own actions.
Things was seen with a clearer state of mind when I learn not to hate or regret the things I did, instead I forgive and learn from experience, and love myself just about enough to build up my confidence to love again when the next door open for me again.
Coming to terms with (enjoying single hood at the moment) Me, (stop, look, think and analyse before making another step) Myself and I (know I am not alone even when "I" am single, because there is always "Me" to love "Myself", haa).
Singing to the song: Whitney Houston - Unashamed
If I changed my mind, If I changed my faith,
Every time a stop light signaled, Each time I made mistakes
I dont think that i, Would be where I am today
I live my life without regrets, What you see is, What you see is, What you see is what you get
And im, Unashamed of the life I lead, Unashamed of the strength on my knees
Of choices Ive made, Of the love that Ive saved, Of the things Ive done, My belief in the one
Unashamed of the words of my friends, I know who they are, Make mistakes, make amends
Follow my instincts, my star, On my sleeve I wear my heart, Unashamed.
Adding up my life, it totals all my dreams
Im counting all my blessings, And the gifts I have received
Still theres always someone, Something to overcome
Took all my life to understand, That I am what I am, who I am
Unashamed
(This mtv is followed by a song by Whitney's Mother; Cissy Houston - Somebody should have told me)
Regardless of, whether it is to make him jealous or to make him regret his decision to dump, first and foremost, put yourself in the shoes of the innocent party you drag into your unresolved relationship, what goes around will eventually comes around to you one day. I prefer to come to a clean cut with my previous relationship, no matter how hurtful it could be, it doesn't means having zero contacts with him, but instead have a common understanding that the love for each other is different from the past and slowly accept each other as friends thru forgiveness, remember the good moments we once had together and blessed each other's future with grace. Once you learn to let go, you also learn how to handle difficult situations with 'better solutions', improving/controlling your flaws, understand what you are really looking for in your partner and love someone without comparison.
Others hurry love due to peer pressure from friends who had all 'coupled up' but him. I couldn't understand this pressure because many times these group of singles come back complaining that the couple are pretentious, incompatible, won't last long (and all the other sour grapes statements), while others complain that they are not as 'lucky' as their friends to have found their true love. Everyone knows that luck do sometimes appear, but if you do not learn how to grasp hold of the opportunity and appreciate it, luck can also slip away. Have they ever question those we envy about their endless commitments and compromises?
It is important for us to figure out why we rush for the search of love and come into terms with it.
On the other hand, I have come to know a number singles who are constantly searching for love while rejecting many hopefuls the same time. Their only aim is to look for a perfect guy through trial and errors. Could it be their worries of getting hurt by a "imperfect" guy or their fear of commitment that restrains them into taking the risk?
Many of them end up loving themselves less and start to give up hope, either because they couldn't understand why it is so difficult to find a "perfect" guy, while other grew tired due to the countless short term relationship he has been experiencing (either due to his own 'unacceptance' of the imperfect man or he got his karma back).
But I have a strong point to make, sometimes it's not the 'heart-breaker' that doesn't believe in the relation, many of the times the other party may not have realise that he is subconsciously sabotage the relation, lost faith and many other reasons that lead to the word 'breakup' from the one who loves you most, because sometimes letting you go is easier than you see you suffering.
If only they could understand that everyone inculding them have flaws, give up the thought of a perfect guy, trust their feelings that first attracts you to him (as long as it isn't the sex) and learn to work with each others flaws. Stop giving up a relation just because there are always a greener patch of grass out there. Why throw yourself back into single hood when you hate it so much?
I would like to make a stand that with all the above mentioned, I am not saying that we should give up on searching for love and remain single hood. Nor suggesting to force yourself remain in a relationship you have no feelings for.
These are just my opinions (either portraited as advises or criticisms), the most important thing is not to let anything or anyone affect your own decisions only because no one else but yourself is answerable to your own actions.
Things was seen with a clearer state of mind when I learn not to hate or regret the things I did, instead I forgive and learn from experience, and love myself just about enough to build up my confidence to love again when the next door open for me again.
Coming to terms with (enjoying single hood at the moment) Me, (stop, look, think and analyse before making another step) Myself and I (know I am not alone even when "I" am single, because there is always "Me" to love "Myself", haa).
Singing to the song: Whitney Houston - Unashamed
If I changed my mind, If I changed my faith,
Every time a stop light signaled, Each time I made mistakes
I dont think that i, Would be where I am today
I live my life without regrets, What you see is, What you see is, What you see is what you get
And im, Unashamed of the life I lead, Unashamed of the strength on my knees
Of choices Ive made, Of the love that Ive saved, Of the things Ive done, My belief in the one
Unashamed of the words of my friends, I know who they are, Make mistakes, make amends
Follow my instincts, my star, On my sleeve I wear my heart, Unashamed.
Adding up my life, it totals all my dreams
Im counting all my blessings, And the gifts I have received
Still theres always someone, Something to overcome
Took all my life to understand, That I am what I am, who I am
Unashamed
(This mtv is followed by a song by Whitney's Mother; Cissy Houston - Somebody should have told me)
Friday, April 06, 2007
(Love Tales 1) Part 12 Making A Decision
Exclaimer: I am not the writer to this exciting story. But I am proud to introduce a Beautiful Mind and Soul, Convan. Thanks for allowing me to re-post this article on my blog.
Written and Publish on Oct 5 2005, 10:05 PM
JD stopped in his tracks, he turned back and asked, "What did you just say? Suffering? And you think I am not suffering from your lies? Kai, you have a live in girlfriend and I am just another play toy you flirt with, how could you be suffering?"
Kai shook his head furiously and repeated, "JD, I am really suffering. I am really in love with you. I have never felt this strong connection with another guy before. Yes, before you, there were guys and those were flings but I am really serious about you! All I am asking for is more time for me to work this out with my girlfriend. I can?t just break off with her like that."
JD looked at Kai's sorrowful eyes, he couldn't bear to see his ideal man looked so defeated but he has to maintain his stance, to protect himself and Kai. He said, "Kai, it is impossible between us. How are you going to break off with her? How am I supposed to handle the fact that I am a relationship wrecker? How long will you be with me till you find another strong connection girl?"
Kai had wanted to speak but JD cut him off, "Kai, thanks for the sweet moments we had but we are not meant for each other. Stay faithful to your girl, stop your flirtatious ways. You are not being fair to her." With that, JD walked out of the pantry.
Robbie came over to JD's cubicle during lunch and asked, "Lunch? I have an appointment at 2pm so we have to do a quick one." JD looked at Robbie and asked, "Since when I have agreed to be your lunch mate?"
"Quit bitching and get ready. I don't have all the time in the world to wait for you. See you at the lobby in 5 mins, I am going to the Gents to touch up." Robbie walked off immediately after his last sentence, leaving JD baffled.
Robbie was at his usual bitching ways during lunch, bitching about everyone from the receptionist to their superior. JD just could not believe how bitchy Robbie was when his thoughts were interrupted by Robbie's sudden change of tone, "So, tell me, you have totally rejected Kai's advances? He looked like shit today!"
JD replied, "There's nothing between us. Not before, not now and not in the future. Please don't ask me such things anymore." Robbie smiled and placed his palms on JD's, nodded and said, "I am glad you are able to break out of it, it's for your own good."
The rest of the day went peacefully especially since Robbie was out the whole afternoon. JD was about to pack up when his phone rang, "Hi JD, Hendrix here. Knocking off soon? Free for dinner?" JD replied with a smile, "Sure. See you downstairs in 10 mins?"
"I am already here. Downstairs at your building lift lobby." Replied Hendrix.
JD walked passed Kai's cubicle and did not bothered to stop to check on Kai. He knew he had made the right decision of not developing further with Kai. JD was about to enter the lift when someone called out to him.
He pressed the stop button and looked out and saw Kai. "JD, can we do dinner? Please?" Kai pleaded. JD shook his head and rejected, "No, I can't. I already have a dinner date, Kai. You saw him before."
Kai clenched his fist tightly, bit his lips and forced JD into the waiting lift. Once inside, he tried to control his anger unsuccessfully, he shouted, "Why are you doing this to me? Bring out another man to challenge me? You want me to be jealous? Ok! I am jealous! Happy?"
JD felt his anger boiled up as well, he argued, "Kai, you have no right to stop me from going out with other guys! We are not a couple. Hello, for Christ sake! You have a girlfriend and the maximum both of us went were pure sex! Animal instincts! Nothing more!"
When the lift door opened, JD stormed out with Kai followed closely behind. When Kai saw Hendrix waiting at the lobby, he went ballistic. He grabbed JD and pulled him to a quiet corner. "Tell me now! Is it that you will only be happy if I break off with my girlfriend this instant?" Kai said under his breath, barely audible.
Hendrix walked towards them, with a worried look. Kai had wanted to push Hendrix aside but was stopped by JD. "Don't be a brute, Kai! We are in the lobby, mind you!"
Hendrix said calmly, "Shall we go elsewhere to settle this? This is seriously not an ideal place to do this. You are Kai, right? I am sure you wouldn't want any of your colleagues to witness this awkward situation?"
"I don't need you to remind me, dude! This is between me and JD. Step out of this or you will be sorry!" Kai threatened.
Exclaimer: I am not the writer to this exciting story. But I am proud to introduce a Beautiful Mind and Soul, Convan. Thanks for allowing me to re-post this article on my blog.
Written and Publish on Oct 5 2005, 10:05 PM
JD stopped in his tracks, he turned back and asked, "What did you just say? Suffering? And you think I am not suffering from your lies? Kai, you have a live in girlfriend and I am just another play toy you flirt with, how could you be suffering?"
Kai shook his head furiously and repeated, "JD, I am really suffering. I am really in love with you. I have never felt this strong connection with another guy before. Yes, before you, there were guys and those were flings but I am really serious about you! All I am asking for is more time for me to work this out with my girlfriend. I can?t just break off with her like that."
JD looked at Kai's sorrowful eyes, he couldn't bear to see his ideal man looked so defeated but he has to maintain his stance, to protect himself and Kai. He said, "Kai, it is impossible between us. How are you going to break off with her? How am I supposed to handle the fact that I am a relationship wrecker? How long will you be with me till you find another strong connection girl?"
Kai had wanted to speak but JD cut him off, "Kai, thanks for the sweet moments we had but we are not meant for each other. Stay faithful to your girl, stop your flirtatious ways. You are not being fair to her." With that, JD walked out of the pantry.
Robbie came over to JD's cubicle during lunch and asked, "Lunch? I have an appointment at 2pm so we have to do a quick one." JD looked at Robbie and asked, "Since when I have agreed to be your lunch mate?"
"Quit bitching and get ready. I don't have all the time in the world to wait for you. See you at the lobby in 5 mins, I am going to the Gents to touch up." Robbie walked off immediately after his last sentence, leaving JD baffled.
Robbie was at his usual bitching ways during lunch, bitching about everyone from the receptionist to their superior. JD just could not believe how bitchy Robbie was when his thoughts were interrupted by Robbie's sudden change of tone, "So, tell me, you have totally rejected Kai's advances? He looked like shit today!"
JD replied, "There's nothing between us. Not before, not now and not in the future. Please don't ask me such things anymore." Robbie smiled and placed his palms on JD's, nodded and said, "I am glad you are able to break out of it, it's for your own good."
The rest of the day went peacefully especially since Robbie was out the whole afternoon. JD was about to pack up when his phone rang, "Hi JD, Hendrix here. Knocking off soon? Free for dinner?" JD replied with a smile, "Sure. See you downstairs in 10 mins?"
"I am already here. Downstairs at your building lift lobby." Replied Hendrix.
JD walked passed Kai's cubicle and did not bothered to stop to check on Kai. He knew he had made the right decision of not developing further with Kai. JD was about to enter the lift when someone called out to him.
He pressed the stop button and looked out and saw Kai. "JD, can we do dinner? Please?" Kai pleaded. JD shook his head and rejected, "No, I can't. I already have a dinner date, Kai. You saw him before."
Kai clenched his fist tightly, bit his lips and forced JD into the waiting lift. Once inside, he tried to control his anger unsuccessfully, he shouted, "Why are you doing this to me? Bring out another man to challenge me? You want me to be jealous? Ok! I am jealous! Happy?"
JD felt his anger boiled up as well, he argued, "Kai, you have no right to stop me from going out with other guys! We are not a couple. Hello, for Christ sake! You have a girlfriend and the maximum both of us went were pure sex! Animal instincts! Nothing more!"
When the lift door opened, JD stormed out with Kai followed closely behind. When Kai saw Hendrix waiting at the lobby, he went ballistic. He grabbed JD and pulled him to a quiet corner. "Tell me now! Is it that you will only be happy if I break off with my girlfriend this instant?" Kai said under his breath, barely audible.
Hendrix walked towards them, with a worried look. Kai had wanted to push Hendrix aside but was stopped by JD. "Don't be a brute, Kai! We are in the lobby, mind you!"
Hendrix said calmly, "Shall we go elsewhere to settle this? This is seriously not an ideal place to do this. You are Kai, right? I am sure you wouldn't want any of your colleagues to witness this awkward situation?"
"I don't need you to remind me, dude! This is between me and JD. Step out of this or you will be sorry!" Kai threatened.
Exclaimer: I am not the writer to this exciting story. But I am proud to introduce a Beautiful Mind and Soul, Convan. Thanks for allowing me to re-post this article on my blog.
Thursday, April 05, 2007
(Issue 39) Balancing Out
I do find it strange that many people choose to remain single or in a relation not because they are enjoy the bits and pleasure of it. I think I am blessed with a pessimistic attitude that many admired. Although I couldn't deny the fact that I do fall many times, however it is how I get up from the fall that receive admiration and how I could put my past behind and enjoy the present. I do believe that in either phase there are something to rejoice about.
Recently I came across many situations that happened among my friends and learnt that many did not choose to be single and are unhappy about it and vise verse. I am shock about it, but I guess I couldn't comment because I am not in their shoes, however my point is that I would choose to change the situation rather than to hope for things to happen. Only because I think that since we have to live with our own way of life and nobody else, isn't it wise to make the best about it, instead of putting yourself in a miserable situation?
I see it as, when I am single I get to enjoy the things I complain about when I am attached and vise verse. I don't see the point of not enjoying it while I am given the chance to and regret that I didn't, because we can't get the best of both worlds, so I balance it out when I am in each different situation. This way when my situation change, it will not be in my "dislike" list as I had enjoyed the moment with no regrets, rather than to bring the issue up when you know that it is not suitable for the situation you are in. With a healthy balance, you won't feel left out nor be lead into temptation, because you know that you will be able to do it again when you are back in the other situation you "wished" you were in.
Remember it should be a party you should celebrate regardless when you single or in a relationship, just enjoy the "good"s while you are at it.
Coming to terms with (healthy balanced) Me, (compromising temptations my own way, without affecting my lover when I am in a relation or future lover when I am all by) Myself and (pessimistic) I.
Dancing to the beat of: The Cheetah Girls - The Party's Just Begun
Chillin' out, Break it down, That's the way we do it now
Attitude in the groove, Getting into something new
Say goodbye to yesterday, Future looking good to me
All together raise your hands, Time to party, time to dance
Party 'cause you know the future's all yours
Dance till your feet don't touch the floor
Celebrate the day you've waited for
Party like you're ready for so much more
Do it like you know it's never been done
Go a little crazy, have too much fun
Today's the day, come on everyone, The party's just begun
Recently I came across many situations that happened among my friends and learnt that many did not choose to be single and are unhappy about it and vise verse. I am shock about it, but I guess I couldn't comment because I am not in their shoes, however my point is that I would choose to change the situation rather than to hope for things to happen. Only because I think that since we have to live with our own way of life and nobody else, isn't it wise to make the best about it, instead of putting yourself in a miserable situation?
I see it as, when I am single I get to enjoy the things I complain about when I am attached and vise verse. I don't see the point of not enjoying it while I am given the chance to and regret that I didn't, because we can't get the best of both worlds, so I balance it out when I am in each different situation. This way when my situation change, it will not be in my "dislike" list as I had enjoyed the moment with no regrets, rather than to bring the issue up when you know that it is not suitable for the situation you are in. With a healthy balance, you won't feel left out nor be lead into temptation, because you know that you will be able to do it again when you are back in the other situation you "wished" you were in.
Remember it should be a party you should celebrate regardless when you single or in a relationship, just enjoy the "good"s while you are at it.
Coming to terms with (healthy balanced) Me, (compromising temptations my own way, without affecting my lover when I am in a relation or future lover when I am all by) Myself and (pessimistic) I.
Dancing to the beat of: The Cheetah Girls - The Party's Just Begun
Chillin' out, Break it down, That's the way we do it now
Attitude in the groove, Getting into something new
Say goodbye to yesterday, Future looking good to me
All together raise your hands, Time to party, time to dance
Party 'cause you know the future's all yours
Dance till your feet don't touch the floor
Celebrate the day you've waited for
Party like you're ready for so much more
Do it like you know it's never been done
Go a little crazy, have too much fun
Today's the day, come on everyone, The party's just begun
(Surround Sound 9) Bridget Jones Diary One & Two
Actors:Renée Zellweger, Colin Firth & Hugh Grant.
Synopsis:
Bridget Jones Diary - Can a single woman over 30, who smokes too much, drinks too much, and has a tendency to say whatever comes into her mind, find her place in the world... and a man? Bridget Jones is an assistant at a London book publisher, feeling time pass her by. When Daniel Cleaver, her boss, starts flirting with her in a vulgar way, she plunges straight in. An affair ensues and she's head over heels. She also keeps running into Mark Darcy, a reserved even stiff barrister who has known her since she was a child young enough to frolic naked in his wading pool, seems to look down his nose at her, and hates Cleaver (truth is, Daniel may be a bit of a bounder). What are Bridget's choices?
Bridget Jones Diary, The Edge of Reason - You thought the last movie was happily ever after? You thought wrong! Bridget and Mark are now together but for how long? A jellyfish by the name of Rebecca, Bridget's relationship paranoia, unusual horsemanship, magic mushrooms and a stint in prison are just some of the things Bridget has to face in The Edge of Reason. Add to that the return of Daniel Cleaver and you have the makings of one of the funniest films this year. Will they live happily ever after?
My Comments (4.5/5): It shows that love comes at the most unexpected times; sometimes when we were dressed our worst and sometimes when we are already in love. Love is about listening to your heart follow it, trust and communication. Well-plotted to inform us the different situations of love in a light-hearted way. 0.5 rating was given away because it seems too scary to be the perfect story of Love, and I hope that given to be in her shoes, I wished to be not as fat, not as fashion victim and with lots of luck to help me through, haa.
Trailer:
Bridget Jones Diary (2001)
Bridget Jones Diary, The Edge of Reason (2004)
Songs From the Movie: Will Young - Your Love is King
Too many to choose from but this is one of my favourite that is not Featured in their OST.
(2001): Diana Ross & Marvin Gaye - Stop, Look, Listen (To Your Heart), Aretha Franklin - Respect, Chaka Khan - I'm Every Woman, Sheryl Crow - Kiss That Girl, Shelby Lynne - Killin' Kind, Andy Williams - Can't Take My Eyes Off You, Shelby Lynne - Dreamsome, Alisha's Attic - Pretender Got My Heart & Jamie O'Neal - All By Myself.
(2004): Diana Ross - Ain't No Mountain High Enough, Gabrielle - Out of Reach, Marvin Gaye - Let's Get It On, TLC - Waterfalls, Robbie Williams - Angels, Yvonne Fair - It Should Have Been Me, Van Morrison - Someone Like You & En Vogue - My Lovin'
Synopsis:
Bridget Jones Diary - Can a single woman over 30, who smokes too much, drinks too much, and has a tendency to say whatever comes into her mind, find her place in the world... and a man? Bridget Jones is an assistant at a London book publisher, feeling time pass her by. When Daniel Cleaver, her boss, starts flirting with her in a vulgar way, she plunges straight in. An affair ensues and she's head over heels. She also keeps running into Mark Darcy, a reserved even stiff barrister who has known her since she was a child young enough to frolic naked in his wading pool, seems to look down his nose at her, and hates Cleaver (truth is, Daniel may be a bit of a bounder). What are Bridget's choices?
Bridget Jones Diary, The Edge of Reason - You thought the last movie was happily ever after? You thought wrong! Bridget and Mark are now together but for how long? A jellyfish by the name of Rebecca, Bridget's relationship paranoia, unusual horsemanship, magic mushrooms and a stint in prison are just some of the things Bridget has to face in The Edge of Reason. Add to that the return of Daniel Cleaver and you have the makings of one of the funniest films this year. Will they live happily ever after?
My Comments (4.5/5): It shows that love comes at the most unexpected times; sometimes when we were dressed our worst and sometimes when we are already in love. Love is about listening to your heart follow it, trust and communication. Well-plotted to inform us the different situations of love in a light-hearted way. 0.5 rating was given away because it seems too scary to be the perfect story of Love, and I hope that given to be in her shoes, I wished to be not as fat, not as fashion victim and with lots of luck to help me through, haa.
Trailer:
Bridget Jones Diary (2001)
Bridget Jones Diary, The Edge of Reason (2004)
Songs From the Movie: Will Young - Your Love is King
Too many to choose from but this is one of my favourite that is not Featured in their OST.
(2001): Diana Ross & Marvin Gaye - Stop, Look, Listen (To Your Heart), Aretha Franklin - Respect, Chaka Khan - I'm Every Woman, Sheryl Crow - Kiss That Girl, Shelby Lynne - Killin' Kind, Andy Williams - Can't Take My Eyes Off You, Shelby Lynne - Dreamsome, Alisha's Attic - Pretender Got My Heart & Jamie O'Neal - All By Myself.
(2004): Diana Ross - Ain't No Mountain High Enough, Gabrielle - Out of Reach, Marvin Gaye - Let's Get It On, TLC - Waterfalls, Robbie Williams - Angels, Yvonne Fair - It Should Have Been Me, Van Morrison - Someone Like You & En Vogue - My Lovin'
Tuesday, April 03, 2007
(Issue 38) Quarrels
Love given can never be taken back, but what about harsh words, can it be forgiven and forgotten? Does it means that a couple doesn't love each other when they quarrel? Isn't quarrel meant to bring a relationship to a higher level whereby they can understand each other likes and dislikes, needs and concerns better when they bring things up to the table for a possible heated discussion? Or should we avoid quarrels because we couldn't handle the situations of a possible cold war, or because "sorry is always the hardest word to say", or because we fear of losing each other?
I personally like to be hit with the truth, no matters how hard it is going to be, because lies will only snowball and as the truth surfaces one day, you will then be crushed by your own lies and instead of explaining one situation, you end up explaining for the lies too.
Which is more frightening, a cold war after a quarrel or an internal war within yourself? I couldn't live the fact that I have to find excuses for my lover for my own doubts in my head, it would be a entire war of contradictions inside me that might lead to self-blame. If you have doubts, ask. I believe many know this theory however they applied it the wrong way, as many of us choose not to ask that person but the friends around him, which in the end leads to more confusion. Who knows the answer best other than himself? Sometimes we do not even understand ourselves, therefore what makes you think that you friends know you better than you yourself?
"Sorry" isn't hard to pronounce, what makes it difficult is the situation, timing and how sincere you are. Have you ever thought that who should say it first, as it brings a whole new meaning to the relationship. I once question this situation, if I didn't make the mistake but apologise because I see it as a pointless quarrel, am I being gracious or stupid? For a partner who do not know you good intenions he might see a different light and does the same mistake again, however this time you were to be blame for it instead of him, because you "unintentionally admitted" it's you fault, that why you choose to apolegise.
Sometimes "sorry" had became the most over-rated word to many and therefore loses its charms and meaning. So when and how should we apolegise?
When we are in a relation, fear of losing each other will always be our constant fear, either through temptations from a third party or by the countless number of quarrels, however I would choice to "discuss our problems/indifference" rather than to have it bottled up (due to the fear of losing) and kill the relation with a sudden outburst of accumulated unsatisfaction. I believe when we bring our issues to the table things would turn for the better as you can understand your partner better, compromise when required or maybe to let go earlier.
Having quarrels are common and it doesn't mean that the other party dislike you, in fact I believe you wouldn't choose to quarrel with someone you have no feelings for because any explanation would just be an excuse. However, we must watch our tone as we speak, as words once said neither can be taken back nor can be forgotten though forgiven. The forbinned word would be "breakup", unless after serious consideration.
Coming to terms with (straight-forward) Me, (loving, trusting and believing in the person I love and) Myself and (willing to give a second chance but hardly a third chance) I.
Singing to: Toni Braxton - Just Be A Man About It
"You say you're staying over your Friends 'Cuz you got a lot on your mind
Now you're swearing up and down that It ain't me
Still you say that things have changed
So tell me what exactly does it mean When you say you need your space
Just don't make no excuses, no no Why you gotta lie to me
Just be a man about it
Baby, you don't gotta lie to me, no Just be a man about it
If you wanna leave go on Just be a man about it
Come and grab your things and go on Right now Just be a man about it"
I personally like to be hit with the truth, no matters how hard it is going to be, because lies will only snowball and as the truth surfaces one day, you will then be crushed by your own lies and instead of explaining one situation, you end up explaining for the lies too.
Which is more frightening, a cold war after a quarrel or an internal war within yourself? I couldn't live the fact that I have to find excuses for my lover for my own doubts in my head, it would be a entire war of contradictions inside me that might lead to self-blame. If you have doubts, ask. I believe many know this theory however they applied it the wrong way, as many of us choose not to ask that person but the friends around him, which in the end leads to more confusion. Who knows the answer best other than himself? Sometimes we do not even understand ourselves, therefore what makes you think that you friends know you better than you yourself?
"Sorry" isn't hard to pronounce, what makes it difficult is the situation, timing and how sincere you are. Have you ever thought that who should say it first, as it brings a whole new meaning to the relationship. I once question this situation, if I didn't make the mistake but apologise because I see it as a pointless quarrel, am I being gracious or stupid? For a partner who do not know you good intenions he might see a different light and does the same mistake again, however this time you were to be blame for it instead of him, because you "unintentionally admitted" it's you fault, that why you choose to apolegise.
Sometimes "sorry" had became the most over-rated word to many and therefore loses its charms and meaning. So when and how should we apolegise?
When we are in a relation, fear of losing each other will always be our constant fear, either through temptations from a third party or by the countless number of quarrels, however I would choice to "discuss our problems/indifference" rather than to have it bottled up (due to the fear of losing) and kill the relation with a sudden outburst of accumulated unsatisfaction. I believe when we bring our issues to the table things would turn for the better as you can understand your partner better, compromise when required or maybe to let go earlier.
Having quarrels are common and it doesn't mean that the other party dislike you, in fact I believe you wouldn't choose to quarrel with someone you have no feelings for because any explanation would just be an excuse. However, we must watch our tone as we speak, as words once said neither can be taken back nor can be forgotten though forgiven. The forbinned word would be "breakup", unless after serious consideration.
Coming to terms with (straight-forward) Me, (loving, trusting and believing in the person I love and) Myself and (willing to give a second chance but hardly a third chance) I.
Singing to: Toni Braxton - Just Be A Man About It
"You say you're staying over your Friends 'Cuz you got a lot on your mind
Now you're swearing up and down that It ain't me
Still you say that things have changed
So tell me what exactly does it mean When you say you need your space
Just don't make no excuses, no no Why you gotta lie to me
Just be a man about it
Baby, you don't gotta lie to me, no Just be a man about it
If you wanna leave go on Just be a man about it
Come and grab your things and go on Right now Just be a man about it"
Monday, April 02, 2007
(Booty Shaking 13) It’s in the Bag
There are a whole wide range of bags available for the everyday man right now who gyms, works and play, unlike our parent's era, we have more choices than the briefcase. It is becoming more and more of an accesory than just a bag. An with all the different kinds of activities pack into one day, we normally look for a bag to go with all our different activities for the day.
1- Messenger Bag
Often made from canvas and swung across the shoulder, messenger bags have taken on a whole new meaning in urban fashion. From students with canvas bags to urban hipsters with modern leather bags, the messenger’s laidback style will always have a classic casual flair, but today’s leather messenger tote also exudes a hint of uptown sophistication.
My personal comments is that you might not want to carry this if you want to avoid crisps on your shirt when you carry it around. A untidy man is not an attractive man.
2- Holdall
Any traveling man needs a holdall for those weekend jaunts or three-day business trips. Big, bulky luggage has transformed into sleek, stylish holdalls (or carryalls). Its design is inspired by the duffel bag, but its predominantly leather exterior and more refined appearance attribute a classic look to this practical tote.
My personal comments is that with all the different sizes keepall/holdall available, you can get the right enough size for both your work and gym neccessities.
3- Tote
A tote is the modern approach to the classic briefcase. Resembling an artisan’s bag, the tote is the utmost in casual business attire. Its basic design and usual soft leather exterior allots it a classic status, while its long handles give it a contemporary edge. If purchased in a chocolate brown or black, this bag can add a touch of laidback masculinity to any casual work wear.
My personal comments is that this is simillar to the messeger, and are a bit more girly to many, however if you choose the right fabric, color and size to go with a decent dressing, any man can pull off a daring and stylish masculine identity and be an eye candy, but a worng decision will instantly change you into a fashion victim, just like any other bag would.
4- Newsboy Bag
Like the advent of the newsboy cap, the newsboy bag is a classic style that has become synonymous with men’s casual wear. It’s similar to the messenger bag’s style, but its traditional canvas exterior makes it a little less formal than the latter. This bag style is perfect for the student on the go, as it makes a fashion statement and exudes more masculinity and style-savvy than a knapsack.
My personal comments is that this is the most casual bag of the bunch.
Throw out the old idea that bags are for women and get with the fashion-forward times. While classic bags like briefcases are still around, other bags with classic elements, like the messenger bag, are becoming almost necessary accessories for today’s modern man.
Article Suggested By: Darwin S., Glendale, CA
Sunday, April 01, 2007
(Issue 37) Loving [Myself, Maybe]
Ain't we used to mentioning all the different kinds of hates we have for our past lovers? However at the end of the day, sometimes, it still boils down to one other kind of hate; you hate him only because you love him so much, deep inside, and you couldn't let go. I guess love for someone never ends, it is something given and you can never take it back or change it.
Sometimes we break up because we do not want to see the other party hurt, what is more hurting; to separate because he thinks that you are not his type and he do not want to led you on anymore or to do things behind you back? Does actually breaking up (the 'right' kind) expresses the other kind of love? Or am I buffing myself?
To me, love never ends, after the breakup it just changes into another kind of love gradually. We expressed it differently, so of us turn into friends and still show care and concern, whereas the others, have a even more bitter relation. But doesn't most of the time, bitter relation comes from jealousy and jealousy doesn't comes from love? Since it is both love, couldn't we make life easier for ourselves and be gracious enough to become friends, after all we did have happy times together. If we could only realise that sometimes hating makes us ugly and at the same time closes many doors for us.
Nobody is perfect and not everyone compliments everyone, so why should we insist on a unfruitful relation and not move on, learn from our experiences which brings us to a clearer state of mind of what we want and what we can accept in our future relations.
Some described my attitude as heartless, because I am able to let go easily when someone ask for a breakup, while others say I didn't love as much. However, I think otherwise, although I may not cry anymore, but I do think back of the good memories I have and still wish that I am able to hug him to bed and be waken by his kiss during lonely nights, but I guess I am able to move on quickly only because I think that "The brightest future will always be based on a forgiven past, you can't go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches. I will not forget my past, as it is a lesson and a beautiful memory, but most important it is moulding me into what I am right now, stronger and wiser. My love for anyone (family and friends) shall never end, even when bad situations happen, and if it does, it only changes."
Could I had said all of the above just to hide the possibility of me loving myself to much to get hurt?
Coming to terms with (growing and learning) Me, (able to love like I had never been hurt by anyone or) Myself and (find my way back into love instead of hate) I.
Singing out out to: Mary J. Blige - No More Drama
"Broken heart again, Another lesson learn
Better know your friends, Or else you will get burned
Gotta count on me, Cause I can guarantee That I'll be fine"
"Uh, it feels so good,
When you let go, Of all the drama, In your life
Now you're free From all the pain, Free from all the game
Free from all the stress, So bye your happiness
I don't know, Only God knows, Where the story ends For me,
but I know, Where the story begins
It's up to us to choose, Whether we win or lose
And I choose to win"
Sometimes we break up because we do not want to see the other party hurt, what is more hurting; to separate because he thinks that you are not his type and he do not want to led you on anymore or to do things behind you back? Does actually breaking up (the 'right' kind) expresses the other kind of love? Or am I buffing myself?
To me, love never ends, after the breakup it just changes into another kind of love gradually. We expressed it differently, so of us turn into friends and still show care and concern, whereas the others, have a even more bitter relation. But doesn't most of the time, bitter relation comes from jealousy and jealousy doesn't comes from love? Since it is both love, couldn't we make life easier for ourselves and be gracious enough to become friends, after all we did have happy times together. If we could only realise that sometimes hating makes us ugly and at the same time closes many doors for us.
Nobody is perfect and not everyone compliments everyone, so why should we insist on a unfruitful relation and not move on, learn from our experiences which brings us to a clearer state of mind of what we want and what we can accept in our future relations.
Some described my attitude as heartless, because I am able to let go easily when someone ask for a breakup, while others say I didn't love as much. However, I think otherwise, although I may not cry anymore, but I do think back of the good memories I have and still wish that I am able to hug him to bed and be waken by his kiss during lonely nights, but I guess I am able to move on quickly only because I think that "The brightest future will always be based on a forgiven past, you can't go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches. I will not forget my past, as it is a lesson and a beautiful memory, but most important it is moulding me into what I am right now, stronger and wiser. My love for anyone (family and friends) shall never end, even when bad situations happen, and if it does, it only changes."
Could I had said all of the above just to hide the possibility of me loving myself to much to get hurt?
Coming to terms with (growing and learning) Me, (able to love like I had never been hurt by anyone or) Myself and (find my way back into love instead of hate) I.
Singing out out to: Mary J. Blige - No More Drama
"Broken heart again, Another lesson learn
Better know your friends, Or else you will get burned
Gotta count on me, Cause I can guarantee That I'll be fine"
"Uh, it feels so good,
When you let go, Of all the drama, In your life
Now you're free From all the pain, Free from all the game
Free from all the stress, So bye your happiness
I don't know, Only God knows, Where the story ends For me,
but I know, Where the story begins
It's up to us to choose, Whether we win or lose
And I choose to win"
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