There are zillions of breakups everyday and billions of ways to go about it but what is the worst; to cheat you out of everything and leave or to give you a cold shoulder and regard you as a stranger?
Why does the other party breakup with you when he thinks that you are perfect or too good? Doesn't one constantly search for the perfect or the right enough guy, if so why use such a lame excuse for a breakup? Does he mean that he was never serious or that the timing wasn't right as he is on recovery and he does not want to hurt you? If so, is there a possibility of being together again when the timing is right?
Then there are those that uses "break up" to test your for feelings for him, to see how tight you wish to hold on to this relation. If you were to do this, don't blame the other party to agreeing to the break up, because he could have to agree with your immaturity or, at the bright side, because he thinks that you are suffering and have doubts yourself.
What about those breakups that ended with a phone message or a voice mail. Does it happen only when the person does not have the courage to bring this up to you? Being so afraid that when he see tears rolling down your eyes will make him soft and "regret" breaking up with you? Then there are also those cold shoulders or cooling off breakups. All in all, are we able to accept these breakups without a face to face talk? Is it fair that the breakup is only to be decided by one party and not mutual? My stand is that it should be easier to forget about him, because it shows that the breaker has the least respect for the relation and most importantly you. What is left for you when he thinks that he can't commute face to face with you or look you in the eye.
And there is this other thing, does everything ends after the breakup? There are many times many reconcile breakups after breakups. But why mention the word "breakup" when it is just a simple quarrel, and knowing that you guys are going to get over with? Or do we really have to lose something to find out the importance of it? Maybe it is the feeling of not being to live without one another? What ever it is, it should not be the case that you want a patch back only to have someone to be there to fill up the emptiness in your heart.
Are people allow to change after the breakup? Maybe yes, as he had just found out that there is another quality to add into his ideal boyfriend list.
Then again should there be any ground rules whereby you are not allowed to see anyone else right after the breakup, just to respect the previous relationship, or at least until the broken-up guy (not the breaker) found someone? Or does the ground rules applies to protect the third party (i.e. the new guy), so to make sure that he is not a rebound?
How long does it takes a person to heal and get over with? It is usually after the breakup that you wish that you can pick him right out of your thoughts and give him a tight hug and hope everything is the same us before, having doubts about the move by agreeing to the breakup and blame yourself entirely for it (even when you are not the initiator). Self blame - Isn't that hurting yourself, because to me, breakups should only happen when both thinks that they are not only right for each other, or am I wrong to say this?
If a relationship doesn't work out, we should at least remember it as a happy chapter in our life...shouldn't we? No matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief. And a word of advise, is that you should not listen/sing to sad songs, when you are trying your best to get him out of your life and moved on (let alone drinking). See life doesn't end here, we should continue our search for the one who truly knows how to appreciate you.
And if you are thinking to let someone go (presently), remember this, "Just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other. Do not let go because of a moment of fury. Think twice before you say the forbidden word, as their is hardly any chance of turning back." You can only take your friends words as an advise, because they do not know how much this person had changed your life, and how it is going to change you when everything is gone. It is your life, your decision, like that say the good ones are either attached or straight (if it is true why let go)?
Coming to terms with (heartbroken) Me, (soul-searching) Myself and (never gonna stop looking for the one) I.
Singing in the rain to: 莫文蔚 - 如果没有你
如果没有你,没有过去, 我不会有伤心.
但是有如果,还是要爱你.
如果没有你,我在哪里又有什么可惜.
Translation: If Not For You - "If not for you, I have no past, I will not be hurt.
But if there is a if, I would still want to Love you.
If not for you, I will have nothing to feel regretful."
Wednesday, January 31, 2007
Tuesday, January 30, 2007
(Love Tales 1) Part 1 - Knowing Each Other
Exclaimer: I am not the writer to this exciting story. But I am proud to introduce a Beautiful Mind and Soul, Convan. Thanks for allowing me to re-post this article on my blog.
Written and Publish on Sep 11 2005, 09:01 PM
JD followed the svelte tanned lady with always a ready smile on her face out of the lift and after scanning her pass into the spacious but professionally decorated department. JD, a fresh graduate from one of the local university, has always set his sights on joining one of the prestigious off shore banks as an investment banker. Now armed with a First Class Honours Degree, he has fulfilled his first step of his dream and joined this american giant bank.
"Here, this is your cubicle, you can leave your bag here and I will bring you to your manager soon after.' The fake american accent really annoys JD and he was trying hard to remember this lady's name, was it Rosalina? Or Roselina? 'Rosy, my honey, you looked astonishing this morning!" JD snapped out of his lost state and looked at the frivolous guy, he was mesmerized. This guy, looked as if he is in his late twenties, was immaculately decked in designer getup. Tall, tanned, well built with broad shoulders, he wears the exact same smile as 'Rosy'.
"Hi! Handsome, you always make my day!" smiled 'Rosy' coyly. JD was getting frustrated with the fake accents when the goodlooker looked at him and extended his large hands. "Hi! I am Kai. You must be my new colleague, right?" "Err'yah, I supposed so. I am JD." stammered JD. "Oopss'see, I always forget my job when I see you, your handsome face is such a distraction. This is JD, and yes he is your new colleague but reporting under Pauline and he is our 'star' of the department, Kai. He is under James's team and we ought to see Pauline now." 'Rosy' sent a quick goodbye peck to Kai and Kai returned the same gesture and gave JD a bear hug with a quick wink, "See you later, buddy! And in case you forgot, Rosy's name, she is Roseline." said Kai. JD was astonished that Kai saw through his confusion and he can't help but laughed a little at himself for getting her name totally wrong.
The morning went pass without a hitch, JD was introduced to his colleagues in the whole department by Pauline. He showed a tinge of disappointment that the team he will be working with consists mainly ladies in powersuits with thick make up and speaking in a mix mash of australian cum amercian accented English. The only two guys in his team are Robertson, a thirtysomething amercian caucasian from LA and another canadian born chinese named Robbie and at one look, JD confirmed Robbie is a macho mary and one of his kind.
When it was time for lunch, Robbie sashayed over to JD and asked, "Boy, you have any lunch appointment? You better cancel it if you have 'cause we have make a reservation at the Equinox and you are coming with us." "We? Who are we? Err?Equinox? I think I will join you guys next round." JD lied. "Hello?! You heard me right? I told you that if you have any lunch appointment, cancel them! You do know English, right? Or do you need me to repeat to you in singlish? Anyway, Pauline is buying us this meal so quit being a bitch and go!" JD looked at Robbie's irritated face and felt insulted when a chirpy voice broke the awkward moment.
"Yo guys! Not going for lunch yet? You guys better not make the new guy hungry." Both Robbie and JD tore away their glare at each other and Robbie flashed his megawatt smile at Kai. "My oh my! Looks who here! My dear Kai, what makes you come over" JD rolled his eyes at Robbie reaction. "Hey muscle man, I just drop by to check on our new colleague and if he has no lunch mate, I will lunch with him." Kai said matter of fact. "That's really nice of you! But Pauline is buying the team lunch and that includes the new boy. Anyway, you weren?t this enthusiastic when I first joined the department." Robbie snared. Kai smiled and replied, "Come on, you don?t need me to lunch with you. Well, since JD is well taken care of, then I shan?t hold you guys up. Have fun!" Robbie turned back to look at JD and said, "Let's go now, freshman! And by the way, Kai has a girlfriend who is a model. Total bitch, I tell you!"
Exclaimer: I am not the writer to this exciting story. But I am proud to introduce a Beautiful Mind and Soul, Convan. Thanks for allowing me to re-post this article on my blog.
Written and Publish on Sep 11 2005, 09:01 PM
JD followed the svelte tanned lady with always a ready smile on her face out of the lift and after scanning her pass into the spacious but professionally decorated department. JD, a fresh graduate from one of the local university, has always set his sights on joining one of the prestigious off shore banks as an investment banker. Now armed with a First Class Honours Degree, he has fulfilled his first step of his dream and joined this american giant bank.
"Here, this is your cubicle, you can leave your bag here and I will bring you to your manager soon after.' The fake american accent really annoys JD and he was trying hard to remember this lady's name, was it Rosalina? Or Roselina? 'Rosy, my honey, you looked astonishing this morning!" JD snapped out of his lost state and looked at the frivolous guy, he was mesmerized. This guy, looked as if he is in his late twenties, was immaculately decked in designer getup. Tall, tanned, well built with broad shoulders, he wears the exact same smile as 'Rosy'.
"Hi! Handsome, you always make my day!" smiled 'Rosy' coyly. JD was getting frustrated with the fake accents when the goodlooker looked at him and extended his large hands. "Hi! I am Kai. You must be my new colleague, right?" "Err'yah, I supposed so. I am JD." stammered JD. "Oopss'see, I always forget my job when I see you, your handsome face is such a distraction. This is JD, and yes he is your new colleague but reporting under Pauline and he is our 'star' of the department, Kai. He is under James's team and we ought to see Pauline now." 'Rosy' sent a quick goodbye peck to Kai and Kai returned the same gesture and gave JD a bear hug with a quick wink, "See you later, buddy! And in case you forgot, Rosy's name, she is Roseline." said Kai. JD was astonished that Kai saw through his confusion and he can't help but laughed a little at himself for getting her name totally wrong.
The morning went pass without a hitch, JD was introduced to his colleagues in the whole department by Pauline. He showed a tinge of disappointment that the team he will be working with consists mainly ladies in powersuits with thick make up and speaking in a mix mash of australian cum amercian accented English. The only two guys in his team are Robertson, a thirtysomething amercian caucasian from LA and another canadian born chinese named Robbie and at one look, JD confirmed Robbie is a macho mary and one of his kind.
When it was time for lunch, Robbie sashayed over to JD and asked, "Boy, you have any lunch appointment? You better cancel it if you have 'cause we have make a reservation at the Equinox and you are coming with us." "We? Who are we? Err?Equinox? I think I will join you guys next round." JD lied. "Hello?! You heard me right? I told you that if you have any lunch appointment, cancel them! You do know English, right? Or do you need me to repeat to you in singlish? Anyway, Pauline is buying us this meal so quit being a bitch and go!" JD looked at Robbie's irritated face and felt insulted when a chirpy voice broke the awkward moment.
"Yo guys! Not going for lunch yet? You guys better not make the new guy hungry." Both Robbie and JD tore away their glare at each other and Robbie flashed his megawatt smile at Kai. "My oh my! Looks who here! My dear Kai, what makes you come over" JD rolled his eyes at Robbie reaction. "Hey muscle man, I just drop by to check on our new colleague and if he has no lunch mate, I will lunch with him." Kai said matter of fact. "That's really nice of you! But Pauline is buying the team lunch and that includes the new boy. Anyway, you weren?t this enthusiastic when I first joined the department." Robbie snared. Kai smiled and replied, "Come on, you don?t need me to lunch with you. Well, since JD is well taken care of, then I shan?t hold you guys up. Have fun!" Robbie turned back to look at JD and said, "Let's go now, freshman! And by the way, Kai has a girlfriend who is a model. Total bitch, I tell you!"
Exclaimer: I am not the writer to this exciting story. But I am proud to introduce a Beautiful Mind and Soul, Convan. Thanks for allowing me to re-post this article on my blog.
Monday, January 29, 2007
(Issue 6) The Player
I was once questioned how to you define "the player", is it the same as "the circuit boy"? Does he have to be attached to be define as "the player"? Is it the same definition as "the Playboy" in the straight world?
We agreed that if your boyfriend is going round having secret affairs behind your back, unlike in a "open relation", it is beyond acceptable, and it will take more than a sorry to forgive. However, if that someone is gracious enough to forgive this sin of lust, does it mean that the forgiven can do it again as mistakes sometimes do happen twice, or does it means that the forgiven have a license to play around once to get even?
What if it is the case whereby the guy you are seeing, with no strings attached yet, continues his way of life of having his occasional ONS. Is he a player because he had given you a sense of hope for a possible relationship?
This can only purely goes down to your definition of "a sense of hope". Nowadays the word "Dear", or many other pet names, does not mean anything much in this scene. Furthermore, there wasn't an mutual acknowledge of exclusiveness, therefore shouldn't he be given the rights to choose the right man before he gets himself tied down.
Someone once mentioned, "He believe sex is an important element in a relationship so preferably, he need to "sample the merchandise" before deciding on whether he is the right one for him, so sex is also on and part of his bigger agenda". Is this agreeable?
Many of us are looking for sex one way or the other, with all the temptation in this circle or to satisfy our changing desire and needs, regardless of our status, therefore the term "open relation" comes in for couples and the term "seeing someone" for single individuals. With the boom of interaction profile websites, bathhouses and clubs, should these group of PLUs who are constantly looking for ONS, considered as players too? Shouldn't be players be the ones that only toyed with your feelings? I do understand that there are PLUs out there who say sweet nothings and gifts to get into your pants, therefore again it comes down to how "street smart" or "sober" you are.
Then there is these other questions, Is it unfair to use this term on PLUs that have a certain class of looks? How do you tell if someone is a Player from the first glance? Or do we rely on (reliable) gossips within the circuit?
Coming to terms with (player/played) Me, (finding the 'right' guy for) Myself and (trying to stay sober) and I.
Singing in the rain to: Gabrielle - Out of Reach
Good lyrics (shown below)
Knew the signs, Wasn't right, I was stupid for a while
Swept away by you, And now I feel like a fool
So confused, My heart's bruised, Was I ever loved by you?
Out of reach, so far, I never had your heart
Out of reach, Couldn't see, We were never Meant to be
Catch myself, From despair, I could drown, If I stay here
Keeping busy everyday, I know I will be OK
But I was, So confused,
My heart's bruised, Was I ever loved by you?
Out of reach, so far, I never had your heart
Out of reach, Couldn't see, We were never Meant to be
So much hurt, So much pain, Takes a while, To regain, What is lost inside
And I hope that in time, You'll be out of my mind, And I'll be over you
But now I'm So confused,
My heart's bruised, Was I ever loved by you?
Out of reach, So far, I never had your heart
Out of reach, Couldn't see, We were never Meant to be
Out of reach, So far, You never gave your heart
In my reach, I can see, There's a life out there, For me
We agreed that if your boyfriend is going round having secret affairs behind your back, unlike in a "open relation", it is beyond acceptable, and it will take more than a sorry to forgive. However, if that someone is gracious enough to forgive this sin of lust, does it mean that the forgiven can do it again as mistakes sometimes do happen twice, or does it means that the forgiven have a license to play around once to get even?
What if it is the case whereby the guy you are seeing, with no strings attached yet, continues his way of life of having his occasional ONS. Is he a player because he had given you a sense of hope for a possible relationship?
This can only purely goes down to your definition of "a sense of hope". Nowadays the word "Dear", or many other pet names, does not mean anything much in this scene. Furthermore, there wasn't an mutual acknowledge of exclusiveness, therefore shouldn't he be given the rights to choose the right man before he gets himself tied down.
Someone once mentioned, "He believe sex is an important element in a relationship so preferably, he need to "sample the merchandise" before deciding on whether he is the right one for him, so sex is also on and part of his bigger agenda". Is this agreeable?
Many of us are looking for sex one way or the other, with all the temptation in this circle or to satisfy our changing desire and needs, regardless of our status, therefore the term "open relation" comes in for couples and the term "seeing someone" for single individuals. With the boom of interaction profile websites, bathhouses and clubs, should these group of PLUs who are constantly looking for ONS, considered as players too? Shouldn't be players be the ones that only toyed with your feelings? I do understand that there are PLUs out there who say sweet nothings and gifts to get into your pants, therefore again it comes down to how "street smart" or "sober" you are.
Then there is these other questions, Is it unfair to use this term on PLUs that have a certain class of looks? How do you tell if someone is a Player from the first glance? Or do we rely on (reliable) gossips within the circuit?
Coming to terms with (player/played) Me, (finding the 'right' guy for) Myself and (trying to stay sober) and I.
Singing in the rain to: Gabrielle - Out of Reach
Good lyrics (shown below)
Knew the signs, Wasn't right, I was stupid for a while
Swept away by you, And now I feel like a fool
So confused, My heart's bruised, Was I ever loved by you?
Out of reach, so far, I never had your heart
Out of reach, Couldn't see, We were never Meant to be
Catch myself, From despair, I could drown, If I stay here
Keeping busy everyday, I know I will be OK
But I was, So confused,
My heart's bruised, Was I ever loved by you?
Out of reach, so far, I never had your heart
Out of reach, Couldn't see, We were never Meant to be
So much hurt, So much pain, Takes a while, To regain, What is lost inside
And I hope that in time, You'll be out of my mind, And I'll be over you
But now I'm So confused,
My heart's bruised, Was I ever loved by you?
Out of reach, So far, I never had your heart
Out of reach, Couldn't see, We were never Meant to be
Out of reach, So far, You never gave your heart
In my reach, I can see, There's a life out there, For me
Sunday, January 28, 2007
(Surround Sound 2) Midnight Sun ::タイヨウのうた :: 太陽之歌
Actors: Yui, Takashi Tsukamoto, Airi Toyama, Kuniko Asagi, Goro Kishitani & Sogen Tanaka
Synopsis: A teen suffering from xeroderma pigmentosum can not be exposed to sunlight. She leads a life opposite of the norm, sleeping during the day and only being active at night. She falls in love with a surfer as her illness progresses.
My Comments (5/5): I saw this in the movie during my trip back to Singapore, with Denn. Thanks for the recommendation, again another movie which tears flowed out again, so embarrasing, haa. Anyway, this was less than 'The Queen' and the lights were out. The part when she ran for her life and when her recorded was played was the most moving part of the movie. Definately a good love story not to be missed.
Trust me, I had introduced to two friends and they loved the show.
Trailer (English Subtitles):
Songs From the Movie:
Yui - Goodbye Days (English Subtitles) :: Movie's MTV ::
Let's not spoil the fun:
These are the three song clips from the movie, according to appearance:
Skyline - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4MJPlwL4msc
It's Happy Line- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i3E-hA-pc-I
Goodbye days - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MDNkPrc4bms
Synopsis: A teen suffering from xeroderma pigmentosum can not be exposed to sunlight. She leads a life opposite of the norm, sleeping during the day and only being active at night. She falls in love with a surfer as her illness progresses.
My Comments (5/5): I saw this in the movie during my trip back to Singapore, with Denn. Thanks for the recommendation, again another movie which tears flowed out again, so embarrasing, haa. Anyway, this was less than 'The Queen' and the lights were out. The part when she ran for her life and when her recorded was played was the most moving part of the movie. Definately a good love story not to be missed.
Trust me, I had introduced to two friends and they loved the show.
Trailer (English Subtitles):
Songs From the Movie:
Yui - Goodbye Days (English Subtitles) :: Movie's MTV ::
Let's not spoil the fun:
These are the three song clips from the movie, according to appearance:
Skyline - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4MJPlwL4msc
It's Happy Line- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i3E-hA-pc-I
Goodbye days - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MDNkPrc4bms
Saturday, January 27, 2007
(Issue 5) Being Gay
Are you a proud gay individual? I know I am. Recently I met up with two friends (who knows each other) and are closet PLUs. The dinner was actually for them to acknowledge each other sexuality instead of suspecting. However, both of them find it difficult to bring up their sexuality preference, even when I was there with another special guy showing affections in front of them. This is a classic moment, which leads to two questions. Is it tough being gay? Is it important to gain consent from strangers and not worry about how they perceive you?
My opinion, Toughness is directly related to our Self-Acceptance and standards we set for ourselves. More than a big half worries about their parents thinking, I do understand this having lived in a more conservative part of the world for more than a quarter century. This is because you do not want to disappoint them just like the movie "Bishonen- 美少年之恋", we sometimes wonder did his parents blame him? Or had their love changed for him? To us we perceive that being gay is the gravest of all sins and afraid that to their parents they may be even worst than murderers. However, that is your point of view, and you will never know unless you tell them. Sometimes somethings are so obvious that you do not need to have a gay-dar to tell if your son is gay or straight, after all they were with you at least for one-third of your life.
My stand is that regardless of whether we were born gay or by choice, parents should understand that their brought up either speeds up or delay the process of our realization, basically it is the way the nurture us and the environment we were been expose to. In my case, I will tell them if they ask, because I can see it in their eyes that they are aware of my sexuality, but they refuse to mention, hoping that things will change one day. But nothing has change, they love for me is the same as before, because we believe the most important thing is to be there for one another and be happy for one another, after-all we only get to live once.
Basically, I am open to anyone who asks, and my stand is that if you can't handle the truth, don't ask. And as a friend, if you can't accept my sexuality preference (which does not affect your way of life), I will just wait for your return as a friend, because I do believe at some point they will realize that our friendship has nothing to do with my preference of the male gender.
As for public affection, I do not hold hands and kiss in public to publicize my sexuality, however at that special moment and timing when i comes to you when eyes met, I do show my affection and even call him "BB" in public. I do play my part and respect the public by not doing this in front of kids.
Last but not least, I think that I will not marry to make myself straight. This is being unfair to my partner (both gay and wife), a man should never be shared. It would be devastating for the woman, and if you think being gay is tough and marrying off to make yourself "straight" is right, then isn't it tougher to be married to a man who never love you for your all?
Coming to terms with (out and open) Me, (self-acceptance) Myself and (the gay) I.
Lyrics are real cool, got me dancing in the rain to: Heather Small - Proud
*Remix Version
I look into the window of my mind
Reflections of the fears I know I've left behind
I step out of the ordinary
I can feel my soul ascending
I am on my way
Can't stop me now
And you can do the same
What have you done today to make you feel proud?
It's never too late to try
What have you done today to make you feel proud?
You could be so many people
If you make that break for freedom
What have you done today to make you feel proud?
Still so many answers I don't know
Realise that to question is how we grow
So I step out of the ordinary
I can feel my soul ascending
I am on my way
Can't stop me now
And you can do the same
What have you done today to make you feel proud?
It's never too late to try
What have you done today to make you feel proud?
You could be so many people
If you make that break for freedom
What have you done today to make you feel proud?
We need a change
Do it today
I can feel my spirit rising
We need a change
So do it today
'Cause I can see a clear horizon
What have you done today to make you feel proud?
So what have you done today to make you feel proud?
'Cause you could be so many people
If you make that break for freedom
So what have you done today to make you feel proud?
What have you done today to make you feel proud?
What have you done today
You could be so many people?
Just make that break for freedom
So what have you done today to make you feel proud?
My opinion, Toughness is directly related to our Self-Acceptance and standards we set for ourselves. More than a big half worries about their parents thinking, I do understand this having lived in a more conservative part of the world for more than a quarter century. This is because you do not want to disappoint them just like the movie "Bishonen- 美少年之恋", we sometimes wonder did his parents blame him? Or had their love changed for him? To us we perceive that being gay is the gravest of all sins and afraid that to their parents they may be even worst than murderers. However, that is your point of view, and you will never know unless you tell them. Sometimes somethings are so obvious that you do not need to have a gay-dar to tell if your son is gay or straight, after all they were with you at least for one-third of your life.
My stand is that regardless of whether we were born gay or by choice, parents should understand that their brought up either speeds up or delay the process of our realization, basically it is the way the nurture us and the environment we were been expose to. In my case, I will tell them if they ask, because I can see it in their eyes that they are aware of my sexuality, but they refuse to mention, hoping that things will change one day. But nothing has change, they love for me is the same as before, because we believe the most important thing is to be there for one another and be happy for one another, after-all we only get to live once.
Basically, I am open to anyone who asks, and my stand is that if you can't handle the truth, don't ask. And as a friend, if you can't accept my sexuality preference (which does not affect your way of life), I will just wait for your return as a friend, because I do believe at some point they will realize that our friendship has nothing to do with my preference of the male gender.
As for public affection, I do not hold hands and kiss in public to publicize my sexuality, however at that special moment and timing when i comes to you when eyes met, I do show my affection and even call him "BB" in public. I do play my part and respect the public by not doing this in front of kids.
Last but not least, I think that I will not marry to make myself straight. This is being unfair to my partner (both gay and wife), a man should never be shared. It would be devastating for the woman, and if you think being gay is tough and marrying off to make yourself "straight" is right, then isn't it tougher to be married to a man who never love you for your all?
Coming to terms with (out and open) Me, (self-acceptance) Myself and (the gay) I.
Lyrics are real cool, got me dancing in the rain to: Heather Small - Proud
*Remix Version
I look into the window of my mind
Reflections of the fears I know I've left behind
I step out of the ordinary
I can feel my soul ascending
I am on my way
Can't stop me now
And you can do the same
What have you done today to make you feel proud?
It's never too late to try
What have you done today to make you feel proud?
You could be so many people
If you make that break for freedom
What have you done today to make you feel proud?
Still so many answers I don't know
Realise that to question is how we grow
So I step out of the ordinary
I can feel my soul ascending
I am on my way
Can't stop me now
And you can do the same
What have you done today to make you feel proud?
It's never too late to try
What have you done today to make you feel proud?
You could be so many people
If you make that break for freedom
What have you done today to make you feel proud?
We need a change
Do it today
I can feel my spirit rising
We need a change
So do it today
'Cause I can see a clear horizon
What have you done today to make you feel proud?
So what have you done today to make you feel proud?
'Cause you could be so many people
If you make that break for freedom
So what have you done today to make you feel proud?
What have you done today to make you feel proud?
What have you done today
You could be so many people?
Just make that break for freedom
So what have you done today to make you feel proud?
Friday, January 26, 2007
(Booty Shaking 2) Project Runway Season One Designs
Project Runway Designers showing their work in New York Fashion Week. Hosted by Victoria Secret Supermodel Heidi Klum. Judged by American Designer Michael Kors, Fashion Director at ELLE Nina Garcia & Actress Parker Posey.
Winner - Jay McCarroll Collection
Song: "Breathe" by Telepopmusik
2nd Place Winner - Kara Saun Collection
Song: "It's You, It's Me" by Kaskade
3rd Place Winner - Wendy Pepper Collection
Song: unknown (Pls inform me if you know)
You decide who you like, apart from Austin Scarlett (He has his own unofficial collection show). Jay McCorroll and Kara Saun had came out with their own collections too.
Jay McCarroll Spring 07 @ Olympus Fashion Week
Kara Suan Fall 06 @ Mercedes Benz Fashion Week.
Winner - Jay McCarroll Collection
Song: "Breathe" by Telepopmusik
2nd Place Winner - Kara Saun Collection
Song: "It's You, It's Me" by Kaskade
3rd Place Winner - Wendy Pepper Collection
Song: unknown (Pls inform me if you know)
You decide who you like, apart from Austin Scarlett (He has his own unofficial collection show). Jay McCorroll and Kara Saun had came out with their own collections too.
Jay McCarroll Spring 07 @ Olympus Fashion Week
Kara Suan Fall 06 @ Mercedes Benz Fashion Week.
Thursday, January 25, 2007
(Issue 4) Giving a Cold Shoulder
*this issue is dedicated to Biocell fr. fridae (it is something that he wrote in his blog that instigate this issue).*
Is there someone in your life that gives you a sudden cold shoulder without a reason? I had. It is really a chilling feeling and all you can do is to ponder day and night, trying to find out that you did to make him upset, and how you should go about apologizing, only because you treasure his friendship.
Or was the mistake so obvious (to him) that he thinks you should know the answer to it without him actually telling you. After all it takes two hands to clap. Two people can look at the exact same thing and see something different. But if we do not bring talk about it, and assume that the other party is thinking likewise. I got to say *Assume-makes an ASS out of U and Me*. This is when mis-communication happens and this is why friendship turn sour and relationship turns bad.
Let's look back on all the quarrels you had with your family, friends or love one. Did it start because they did something you assume they won't do it on/to you? Did things turn out better when you guys trashes things out to have a better understanding of one another? Communication is the key to a happy marriage and friendship.
Have we wondered, how is the party at fault going to know what he did to upsets you and apologize for his doings without knowing his mistake?
Isn't a healthy relationship about being gracious to accept flaws, willingness to communicate thoughts, open minded to accept comments from your love ones and compromise during difficult situations.
Sometimes it is not about something that you did that is wrong, it could be a discrimination the other party has for something you had done and he presume that you belong to a certain category of FOOLS that is bound to hurt him. It does not matter to him whether it is your only flaw...
I guess only time will tell.. There is no point explaining, because with a prejudice, explanation will only sound like an excuses. Let fate bring you guys together again at a better timing. A timing when one can leave yesterday behind (as you cannot do anything about it anymore) and chooses to open up. I am not saying this as if I am perfect, because everyone has their own prejudice from past experiences, and I do have my own prejudice. Just remember it may be a prejudice to you, but it could be a hurtful lesson he had learned from his past experience.
Nobody is perfect, even yourself, so be the one to welcome him back with both arms when he is ready, because someone else is there to do the same for you.
Last words, one can only feel the chill, because you did love him and he left a footprint in your heart. Just remember you didn't let yourself or him down cos you did it with your true heart with no intentions of hurting the other party.
Coming to terms with (imperfect) Me, (innocent mistake) Myself and (waiting for your return) I.
Singing in the rain to: 蔡依林 - 开场白
Good Lyrics (Shown in MTV)
我们都笑了, 时间停了, 我们珍惜这一刻
放下累积的负荷, 卸下沉默, 学会了不保留.
再见后真的是朋友了, 我们都不再单纯
也会笑着看以后,时间过,了也更珍惜了
原来当时的快乐,仍在你我记忆中.
Translation: Prologue - "We both smiled and the time freezes as we teasure this moment.
I let go of the accumulated burden and rid off the silence, and I learnt not to hold back.
After goodbye, we are truely friends now, We are no longer innocent,
and we will look at thereafter with a smile, As time passes, I teasure [our feelings] even more,
It turns out that the happiness we had back then was still in our memory."
Is there someone in your life that gives you a sudden cold shoulder without a reason? I had. It is really a chilling feeling and all you can do is to ponder day and night, trying to find out that you did to make him upset, and how you should go about apologizing, only because you treasure his friendship.
Or was the mistake so obvious (to him) that he thinks you should know the answer to it without him actually telling you. After all it takes two hands to clap. Two people can look at the exact same thing and see something different. But if we do not bring talk about it, and assume that the other party is thinking likewise. I got to say *Assume-makes an ASS out of U and Me*. This is when mis-communication happens and this is why friendship turn sour and relationship turns bad.
Let's look back on all the quarrels you had with your family, friends or love one. Did it start because they did something you assume they won't do it on/to you? Did things turn out better when you guys trashes things out to have a better understanding of one another? Communication is the key to a happy marriage and friendship.
Have we wondered, how is the party at fault going to know what he did to upsets you and apologize for his doings without knowing his mistake?
Isn't a healthy relationship about being gracious to accept flaws, willingness to communicate thoughts, open minded to accept comments from your love ones and compromise during difficult situations.
Sometimes it is not about something that you did that is wrong, it could be a discrimination the other party has for something you had done and he presume that you belong to a certain category of FOOLS that is bound to hurt him. It does not matter to him whether it is your only flaw...
I guess only time will tell.. There is no point explaining, because with a prejudice, explanation will only sound like an excuses. Let fate bring you guys together again at a better timing. A timing when one can leave yesterday behind (as you cannot do anything about it anymore) and chooses to open up. I am not saying this as if I am perfect, because everyone has their own prejudice from past experiences, and I do have my own prejudice. Just remember it may be a prejudice to you, but it could be a hurtful lesson he had learned from his past experience.
Nobody is perfect, even yourself, so be the one to welcome him back with both arms when he is ready, because someone else is there to do the same for you.
Last words, one can only feel the chill, because you did love him and he left a footprint in your heart. Just remember you didn't let yourself or him down cos you did it with your true heart with no intentions of hurting the other party.
Coming to terms with (imperfect) Me, (innocent mistake) Myself and (waiting for your return) I.
Singing in the rain to: 蔡依林 - 开场白
Good Lyrics (Shown in MTV)
我们都笑了, 时间停了, 我们珍惜这一刻
放下累积的负荷, 卸下沉默, 学会了不保留.
再见后真的是朋友了, 我们都不再单纯
也会笑着看以后,时间过,了也更珍惜了
原来当时的快乐,仍在你我记忆中.
Translation: Prologue - "We both smiled and the time freezes as we teasure this moment.
I let go of the accumulated burden and rid off the silence, and I learnt not to hold back.
After goodbye, we are truely friends now, We are no longer innocent,
and we will look at thereafter with a smile, As time passes, I teasure [our feelings] even more,
It turns out that the happiness we had back then was still in our memory."
Tuesday, January 23, 2007
(Issue 3) Beginning of a Relation
How did it all begin? What is it that draws your immediate attention? Why is there a sudden rush for blood when you first hold his hand?
Was it love at first sight? The great passion: drawn to each other like two magnets, they will always have to see and touch each other. Very good sexual understanding, typically very passionate. But will it be also the case whereby the magnets losses its attraction for one another once they are not together? During this period of time, will this love will vanish and each will no longer understand what they found so attractive in the other? Or will it be the case whereby this magical bond will unite them in Perfect Harmony?
Or maybe it was the sudden rush of affection that you have not feel for a long time? The emptiness that has been lingering in your heart. Has this affection been self-multiplied? We tend to amplified the good and sweet things our "Crushes" does, and we assume that it is a hint that he feels the same way too. He can be a stranger one minute ago or a long time friend, but as long as he did something simple during your worst moment or at the right timing, he practically got your heart.
Or he only because he reminds you of the good qualities of your ex or that he possess the qualities of your ideal man?
Regardless of what it is, we should never stop finding love; love that's real, ridiculous, consuming, can't-live-without-each-other kinda love. Well, we never know what's ahead of us, so why not take our chances, make the silliest mistakes and laugh about everything at some point of our lives.
However on the other note, don't ever tend to rush to find love and have high hopes and expectations when we meet someone new. And hence, if it didn't turn out to what we had hoped, it will be very disappointing. So we have to learned to take all things easy and let fate leads the way. If a new relationship doesn't work out, at least it was a happy chapter in our life...
There are many times we were so concerned about losing the other party, we throw all our love in, whole-heartedly and immediately, to show them what they can expect from you or how sweet you can be, just to have them consider having a relation with you. But do you realize that you are placing yourself at the most vulnerable position?
He had you hook on him effortlessly and get to enjoy the joy of being loved by someone, the special things you are willing to do for him to make his day. Would he be appreciative enough to throw the same back to you? Or will he enjoy the moment while it last?
HOPEFULLY, you are attracted to him because of the feelings he shown to you emotionally and not physically, so at least you get something back in return. You wouldn't want it to be the case where he is the world to you, but you are just another person in the world to him. "Don't waste your time on a man who isn't willing to waste his time on you."
Again if you guys manage to be together, since you have given your all. Would he thinks that you had stop loving him because of the things you stop doing for him? Is it like a straight marriage whereby everything changes after they marriage, in our case after courtship?
Should it be the case whereby we should slowly know one another and understand one another, building a foundation so that we wouldn't topple so easily when the wind blows. This can only be done if the other party feels the same way and gives the same commitment, but how many times your get to meet a person with the same frequency and mindset as yours. Are both your timing set at the same pace? He might be recovering from his lost love and, if so, is it logical to push all the blame on him not to be able to be as open as you are. Its all about timing and looking at the same direction. If you really think he is the one, is it difficult for you to give him time and wait until the timing is right?
There is no perfect answer and timing to everything and there is no perfect one out there, we must learn how to love the imperfect person perfectly to enjoy true love.
After all that had been said and done, is it only practical to survey the guy before you commit to make sure that you don't hurt yourself and you guys have the same mindset? This is never practical! Therefore never stop searching for love. Your guy is waiting in line for his turn, and if you stop searching, he might never come.
Coming to terms with (confusing others and unsure) Me, (easier said than done) Myself and (hurtful and apolegia) I.
Singing in the rain to: 蔡依林 - 我知道你很难过
爱一个人, 需要缘分,
你何苦让自己, 越陷越深
别傻得用你的天真去碰触不安的灵魂,
每一天只能痴痴的等
Translation: I Know You Are Upset - "Lovers are brought together by fate,
So why torture yourself more and more.
don't be naive to go against the troubled soul,
waiting pointlessly everyday."
Was it love at first sight? The great passion: drawn to each other like two magnets, they will always have to see and touch each other. Very good sexual understanding, typically very passionate. But will it be also the case whereby the magnets losses its attraction for one another once they are not together? During this period of time, will this love will vanish and each will no longer understand what they found so attractive in the other? Or will it be the case whereby this magical bond will unite them in Perfect Harmony?
Or maybe it was the sudden rush of affection that you have not feel for a long time? The emptiness that has been lingering in your heart. Has this affection been self-multiplied? We tend to amplified the good and sweet things our "Crushes" does, and we assume that it is a hint that he feels the same way too. He can be a stranger one minute ago or a long time friend, but as long as he did something simple during your worst moment or at the right timing, he practically got your heart.
Or he only because he reminds you of the good qualities of your ex or that he possess the qualities of your ideal man?
Regardless of what it is, we should never stop finding love; love that's real, ridiculous, consuming, can't-live-without-each-other kinda love. Well, we never know what's ahead of us, so why not take our chances, make the silliest mistakes and laugh about everything at some point of our lives.
However on the other note, don't ever tend to rush to find love and have high hopes and expectations when we meet someone new. And hence, if it didn't turn out to what we had hoped, it will be very disappointing. So we have to learned to take all things easy and let fate leads the way. If a new relationship doesn't work out, at least it was a happy chapter in our life...
There are many times we were so concerned about losing the other party, we throw all our love in, whole-heartedly and immediately, to show them what they can expect from you or how sweet you can be, just to have them consider having a relation with you. But do you realize that you are placing yourself at the most vulnerable position?
He had you hook on him effortlessly and get to enjoy the joy of being loved by someone, the special things you are willing to do for him to make his day. Would he be appreciative enough to throw the same back to you? Or will he enjoy the moment while it last?
HOPEFULLY, you are attracted to him because of the feelings he shown to you emotionally and not physically, so at least you get something back in return. You wouldn't want it to be the case where he is the world to you, but you are just another person in the world to him. "Don't waste your time on a man who isn't willing to waste his time on you."
Again if you guys manage to be together, since you have given your all. Would he thinks that you had stop loving him because of the things you stop doing for him? Is it like a straight marriage whereby everything changes after they marriage, in our case after courtship?
Should it be the case whereby we should slowly know one another and understand one another, building a foundation so that we wouldn't topple so easily when the wind blows. This can only be done if the other party feels the same way and gives the same commitment, but how many times your get to meet a person with the same frequency and mindset as yours. Are both your timing set at the same pace? He might be recovering from his lost love and, if so, is it logical to push all the blame on him not to be able to be as open as you are. Its all about timing and looking at the same direction. If you really think he is the one, is it difficult for you to give him time and wait until the timing is right?
There is no perfect answer and timing to everything and there is no perfect one out there, we must learn how to love the imperfect person perfectly to enjoy true love.
After all that had been said and done, is it only practical to survey the guy before you commit to make sure that you don't hurt yourself and you guys have the same mindset? This is never practical! Therefore never stop searching for love. Your guy is waiting in line for his turn, and if you stop searching, he might never come.
Coming to terms with (confusing others and unsure) Me, (easier said than done) Myself and (hurtful and apolegia) I.
Singing in the rain to: 蔡依林 - 我知道你很难过
爱一个人, 需要缘分,
你何苦让自己, 越陷越深
别傻得用你的天真去碰触不安的灵魂,
每一天只能痴痴的等
Translation: I Know You Are Upset - "Lovers are brought together by fate,
So why torture yourself more and more.
don't be naive to go against the troubled soul,
waiting pointlessly everyday."
Monday, January 22, 2007
(Surround Sound 1) The Queen
Actors: Helen Mirren, Michael Sheen, James Cromwell, Sylvia Syms, Alex Jennings, Helen McCrory, Roger Allam, and Paul Barrett
Synopsis: The Queen takes audiences behind the scenes of one of the most shocking public events of recent times - providing an illuminating, deeply affecting and dramatic glimpse into what happens in the corridors of power when a tragedy strikes.
My Comments (5/5): I caught this show on my way back from Singapore to China, and the most embarrassing thing is that this show actually brought me to tears on the plane. This is actually the third movie that touches the cold blooded heart of mine. Tears flowed out without control for the first time when they showed clips of the late Princess Diana's Death, from the paparazzi chases to the actual Royal funeral march. Making it two embarrassing moments for me in front of the Cabin Crews and Passengers.
Apart from the death, the story shows the Queen's dilemma position to whole a royal funeral for the divorced Princess to her son, Prince Charles. Facing the pressure from the public and the newly appointed Prime Minister, against the traditional British Royal custom, she had to make a decision. Being judged as cold hearted, she showed her soft side at this very moment when she met up with a deer by the lake.
Trailer: http://www.thequeenmovie.co.uk/
Synopsis: The Queen takes audiences behind the scenes of one of the most shocking public events of recent times - providing an illuminating, deeply affecting and dramatic glimpse into what happens in the corridors of power when a tragedy strikes.
My Comments (5/5): I caught this show on my way back from Singapore to China, and the most embarrassing thing is that this show actually brought me to tears on the plane. This is actually the third movie that touches the cold blooded heart of mine. Tears flowed out without control for the first time when they showed clips of the late Princess Diana's Death, from the paparazzi chases to the actual Royal funeral march. Making it two embarrassing moments for me in front of the Cabin Crews and Passengers.
Apart from the death, the story shows the Queen's dilemma position to whole a royal funeral for the divorced Princess to her son, Prince Charles. Facing the pressure from the public and the newly appointed Prime Minister, against the traditional British Royal custom, she had to make a decision. Being judged as cold hearted, she showed her soft side at this very moment when she met up with a deer by the lake.
Trailer: http://www.thequeenmovie.co.uk/
Sunday, January 21, 2007
(Issue 2) Open Relation
I am still the same old guy searching for a partner to spend my lifetime together. But why the sudden accpetance of Open Relation? I guess its a compromise I come in terms with. Afterall, aint we searching for a lifetime partner who is there whenever you need, emotionally and physically, looking into the same direction.
Scenerio 1:To love the person wholeheartedly, and keeping all your thoughts low. Until one day, you find out that there are some needs or fantasy your partner is unable to fulfil. You do it behind your partner's back and thinks that it will be done and over with after that one night affair, with no strings attached. But this is also when Lies starts to Snowball and a simple thing turned into a quarrelsome affair of betrayal. Then again a breakup that hurts, and the start of another relation, after months of recovery. When will this cycle will end?
Scenerio 2:To continue your wholeheartedly love for one another, while being honest about each others needs. A compromise is made, with a promise to keep (making sure that its only a one night affair with no strings attach). You continue your love for one another and stay honest with trust.
It may sound as naive as it is and it may seems like I am running towards a wall without brakes. But isnt a relation bulit on Trust? Is this unfaithfulness or being selfish to the other party?
I have not changed and I hope that my partner will not mention the need to come into an open relation with me. It will also means that I can satisfy him in all ways. But if this day comes after 3years of relation? Am I ready to forgo everything we had and start anew again?
I guess I will have to measure the situation, and see if it is a compromise to make the relation last or is it a compromise that is going to hurt the relation.
If it is the latter, I would choose to let my partner go and stay as friends. If it is a compromise to make it last, then a line must be clearly drawn to avoid getting myself hurt.
I know it does not seems as easy as what I hope it would be, but isnt life about lessons we will only truly learned after experiencing it. I thank all my friends who disagree on my preception of Open-Relation, only because they are afraid that I get hurt.
Face it PLUs enjoy the occasional attention and flirtation. And when you tie someone too tight, he will find his own way out for a breathe, this is surviour skills.
But I can never accept Open Relation at the start of a new relation, and never will. It should only be accepted after I know the person well enough to trust him and still continue my love for him, knowing that he is out with someone else tonight and not me.
Coming in terms with (the Naive) Me, (the "deny" of accpetance towards Open Relation) Myself and (the willing to compromise) I.
Humming to the tuning in the middle of the road to: Save The Last Dance For Me
The listen the lyrics (shown below) ...
You can dance-every dance with the guy
Who gives you the eye,let him hold you tight
You can smile-every smile for the man
Who held your hand neath the candle light
But don't forget who's takin' you home
And in whose arms you're gonna be
So darlin' save the last dance for me
Oh I know that the musics fine
Like sparklin' wine,go and have your fun
Laugh and sing,but while we're apart
Don't give your heart to anyone
But don't forget who's takin' you home
And in whose arms you're gonna be
So darlin' save the last dance for me
Baby don't you know I love you so
Can't you feel it when we touch
I will never never let you go
I love you oh so much
You can dance,go and carry on
Till the night is gone
And it's time to go
If he asks if you're all alone
Can he take you home,you must tell him no
'Cause don't forget who's taking you home
And in whose arms you're gonna be
So darling,save the last dance for me
'Cause don't forget who's taking you home
And in whose arms you're gonna be
So darling,save the last dance for me
Save the last dance for me
Save the last dance for me.
Scenerio 1:To love the person wholeheartedly, and keeping all your thoughts low. Until one day, you find out that there are some needs or fantasy your partner is unable to fulfil. You do it behind your partner's back and thinks that it will be done and over with after that one night affair, with no strings attached. But this is also when Lies starts to Snowball and a simple thing turned into a quarrelsome affair of betrayal. Then again a breakup that hurts, and the start of another relation, after months of recovery. When will this cycle will end?
Scenerio 2:To continue your wholeheartedly love for one another, while being honest about each others needs. A compromise is made, with a promise to keep (making sure that its only a one night affair with no strings attach). You continue your love for one another and stay honest with trust.
It may sound as naive as it is and it may seems like I am running towards a wall without brakes. But isnt a relation bulit on Trust? Is this unfaithfulness or being selfish to the other party?
I have not changed and I hope that my partner will not mention the need to come into an open relation with me. It will also means that I can satisfy him in all ways. But if this day comes after 3years of relation? Am I ready to forgo everything we had and start anew again?
I guess I will have to measure the situation, and see if it is a compromise to make the relation last or is it a compromise that is going to hurt the relation.
If it is the latter, I would choose to let my partner go and stay as friends. If it is a compromise to make it last, then a line must be clearly drawn to avoid getting myself hurt.
I know it does not seems as easy as what I hope it would be, but isnt life about lessons we will only truly learned after experiencing it. I thank all my friends who disagree on my preception of Open-Relation, only because they are afraid that I get hurt.
Face it PLUs enjoy the occasional attention and flirtation. And when you tie someone too tight, he will find his own way out for a breathe, this is surviour skills.
But I can never accept Open Relation at the start of a new relation, and never will. It should only be accepted after I know the person well enough to trust him and still continue my love for him, knowing that he is out with someone else tonight and not me.
Coming in terms with (the Naive) Me, (the "deny" of accpetance towards Open Relation) Myself and (the willing to compromise) I.
Humming to the tuning in the middle of the road to: Save The Last Dance For Me
The listen the lyrics (shown below) ...
You can dance-every dance with the guy
Who gives you the eye,let him hold you tight
You can smile-every smile for the man
Who held your hand neath the candle light
But don't forget who's takin' you home
And in whose arms you're gonna be
So darlin' save the last dance for me
Oh I know that the musics fine
Like sparklin' wine,go and have your fun
Laugh and sing,but while we're apart
Don't give your heart to anyone
But don't forget who's takin' you home
And in whose arms you're gonna be
So darlin' save the last dance for me
Baby don't you know I love you so
Can't you feel it when we touch
I will never never let you go
I love you oh so much
You can dance,go and carry on
Till the night is gone
And it's time to go
If he asks if you're all alone
Can he take you home,you must tell him no
'Cause don't forget who's taking you home
And in whose arms you're gonna be
So darling,save the last dance for me
'Cause don't forget who's taking you home
And in whose arms you're gonna be
So darling,save the last dance for me
Save the last dance for me
Save the last dance for me.
Saturday, January 20, 2007
(Booty Shaking 1) D&G 2007
Great Show by Italian Design Duo Domenico Dolce and Stefano Gabbana
Even after Two decades, the duo still design for the Fabulous Twenty-Somethings & they still work great together even after ending their 19 years romace in 2005.
Theme: Marine (look out for the anchors).
Gay-friendly: Double-Chest Coats & Knits in Body Hugging Clothes & Low Neck Lines.
(their shows never fail to remind me to Buff Up, but it will always end up to be an one-day work out event, wishing for a miracle)
New Look: Shorts with colored leggings. Lastly a pleasant tribute to their Muse Latest Album. (which they did it for Kylie Minogue before)
Clip: April 2006
Music: Hung Up, Madonna.
Even after Two decades, the duo still design for the Fabulous Twenty-Somethings & they still work great together even after ending their 19 years romace in 2005.
Theme: Marine (look out for the anchors).
Gay-friendly: Double-Chest Coats & Knits in Body Hugging Clothes & Low Neck Lines.
(their shows never fail to remind me to Buff Up, but it will always end up to be an one-day work out event, wishing for a miracle)
New Look: Shorts with colored leggings. Lastly a pleasant tribute to their Muse Latest Album. (which they did it for Kylie Minogue before)
Clip: April 2006
Music: Hung Up, Madonna.
Friday, January 19, 2007
(Issue 1) Long Distance Relationship
When you are alone, away from home and close friends, emptiness comes in. This is when a person is at his weakest moment and any affection towards him will seem so strong, only because it had be self-multipled by the mind.
He knows the answer to the truth, but he choose to be unwise/unlogical, only because he couldn't handle the truth. Deep inside, he constantly ask himself:
1. Should I tie him up with a relationship status, BUT not physically there for him? How emotionally or spiritually connected can I be there for him, when I can't see him face to face to tell that he needs someone at that very moment?
2. How strong/solid is our foundation to trust that someone without any doubts? Everyone knows that it is the trust that binds a couple together and it is also the lack of faith that make someone suspects about their relationship.
3. Sexual Needs, Faithfulness & Open Relationship - The difference between a straight and PLUs relationship might be at a certain point of time, we must be open enough to be in an open-relation (and this can only be achieve with trust) for the realtion to last.
Being in an open relation is different from betrayal, as your other party is honest with you on who he is with and promise you that it is only a one night affair, with no strings attached. Betrayal is lying behind your back, and having the lies snowballed.
BUT having a open relation from the begining is never acceptable, in any relation, if so you might as well be just friends. I have NOT changed(this is a compromise of mine to be mentioned on Topic2... )
4. Time - our schedule hardly meets.
5. Means of communication - Yes, you can look into each other eyes with a webcam, but nothing says more than a warmth hug.
With so much in his mind, he knows his chances for this relation to last a lifetime. Should he be selfish or to "free" the other party?
Given the other party shoes, he knows that he wouldn't step into this world of LDR.
With that should they carry on with their own lives and pray that maybe one day, when the time is right, fate will bring them together again.
Coming into terms with (the selfish) Me, (the lonely) Myself and (the logical)I...
Staring into the sky singing: 林依晨 - 孤单北半球
少了你的手臂当枕头,我还不习惯.
你的望远镜望不到,我北半球的孤单.
太平洋的潮水跟着地球来回旋转,
我会耐心的等,等你有一天靠岸.
少了你的怀抱当暖炉,我还不习惯.
e给你照片看不到,我北半球的孤单.
世界再大两颗真心就能互相取暖.
想念不会偷懒,我的梦通通给你保管.
Translation: Lonely Northern Hemisphere - I am missing your arms as my pillow
Your binoculars couldn't see my loneliness on the northern half of the globe
The tide of Pacific Ocean will follow the Earth spins back and forth
I will patiently await and welcome you approach the shore anytime.
I am missing your hug as my heater
The photo I sent to you couldn't see my loneliness on the northern half of the globe
No matter how big the world is, two true heart still can take warm from each other
My thought of missing you will not become lazy. All my dreams will be kept by you.
He knows the answer to the truth, but he choose to be unwise/unlogical, only because he couldn't handle the truth. Deep inside, he constantly ask himself:
1. Should I tie him up with a relationship status, BUT not physically there for him? How emotionally or spiritually connected can I be there for him, when I can't see him face to face to tell that he needs someone at that very moment?
2. How strong/solid is our foundation to trust that someone without any doubts? Everyone knows that it is the trust that binds a couple together and it is also the lack of faith that make someone suspects about their relationship.
3. Sexual Needs, Faithfulness & Open Relationship - The difference between a straight and PLUs relationship might be at a certain point of time, we must be open enough to be in an open-relation (and this can only be achieve with trust) for the realtion to last.
Being in an open relation is different from betrayal, as your other party is honest with you on who he is with and promise you that it is only a one night affair, with no strings attached. Betrayal is lying behind your back, and having the lies snowballed.
BUT having a open relation from the begining is never acceptable, in any relation, if so you might as well be just friends. I have NOT changed(this is a compromise of mine to be mentioned on Topic2... )
4. Time - our schedule hardly meets.
5. Means of communication - Yes, you can look into each other eyes with a webcam, but nothing says more than a warmth hug.
With so much in his mind, he knows his chances for this relation to last a lifetime. Should he be selfish or to "free" the other party?
Given the other party shoes, he knows that he wouldn't step into this world of LDR.
With that should they carry on with their own lives and pray that maybe one day, when the time is right, fate will bring them together again.
Coming into terms with (the selfish) Me, (the lonely) Myself and (the logical)I...
Staring into the sky singing: 林依晨 - 孤单北半球
少了你的手臂当枕头,我还不习惯.
你的望远镜望不到,我北半球的孤单.
太平洋的潮水跟着地球来回旋转,
我会耐心的等,等你有一天靠岸.
少了你的怀抱当暖炉,我还不习惯.
e给你照片看不到,我北半球的孤单.
世界再大两颗真心就能互相取暖.
想念不会偷懒,我的梦通通给你保管.
Translation: Lonely Northern Hemisphere - I am missing your arms as my pillow
Your binoculars couldn't see my loneliness on the northern half of the globe
The tide of Pacific Ocean will follow the Earth spins back and forth
I will patiently await and welcome you approach the shore anytime.
I am missing your hug as my heater
The photo I sent to you couldn't see my loneliness on the northern half of the globe
No matter how big the world is, two true heart still can take warm from each other
My thought of missing you will not become lazy. All my dreams will be kept by you.
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