Do you believe in "Sampling the Merchandise" before deciding on whether he is the right one for you, after all sex is also on and part of our bigger agenda? I do believe that there are a few who does not believes in "cheapening" the relation by doing it until the relation is strongly developed, but on the other hand, would they call it off if sex is not up to their expectations?
Should love be so physically involved? I believed so, when a couple starts to experience less of it, either due to the loss of interest, work stress or etc, the other party would wonder what had happened to their relation, and slowly both parties might start to look for outside or self help. Could this be talked out or should be kept in silence to prevent hurt on the ego?
Many would advise talking it out and trying new ways to make things happen for both parties, as there is bound to be one out of the hundreds stances featured in the Karma Sutra that satisfies both parties. Although the Karma Sutra could have the correct method for those, but what about those who have no problems having good sex but miss having the "Love Making Sparks" flying around. It is easy to have sex but difficult to make love. I hearsay a couple who's partner Loves him but do not Lust him, could this relation work without sex, or has it became a friendship instead? Contrary, would one be "love making" during the sampling, or was it purely for fitting purpose?
My stand on having sex before relation might possibly avoid an open relationship, but how long would this Lust last? If the sex is Great and they decide to be together, would it compromise the relation's dignity and bring you to another level of problems, whereby someone loves you for the great sex you provide more than your emotions? Can a couple survive bad sex, only to cuddle each other to bed and have an open relation to satisfy their physical desire without string attach?
Coming to terms with (believed in making Love than Sex) Me, (Love and Lust for my partner and) Myself and (Love to be Loved for emotional) I.
Gettin up to the song: DJ Shae Mix of Marvin Gaye's [Sexual Healing] Vs Tiffany Foxx's [Shake That Shit] & David Banner's [Play]
Marvin I want Sexual Healing, Sexual Healing, oh baby
Makes me feel so fine, Helps to relieve my mind
Sexual Healing baby, is good for me
T Foxx I'm go and act a fool, put my hand on my hip:
then drop it like it's hot, and lick my lips.
D Banner Cum girl, I'm tryna get your @^**% wet
Work that, let me see you drip sweat
Wednesday, February 28, 2007
Tuesday, February 27, 2007
(Surround Sound 5) Love Actually
Actors: Hugh Grant, Liam Neeson, Colin Firth, Laura Linney, Emma Thompson, Alan Rickman, Keira Knightley & Rowan Atkinson.
Synopsis: The characters are falling in love, falling out of love, some are with right people, some are with the wrong people, some are looking to have an affair, some are in the period of mourning; a capsule summary of reality. Love begins and love ends. They flirt a lot. They are all flirting with love. At all ages and social levels, love is the theme. Romantic love and brotherly love is the hotchpotch through out the movie. Most of the movie is filmed in London, during Christmas and the characters all ended up at Heathrow airport a very uplifting note.
My Comments (4/5): Love is all around, it happens to us at different phrase of our life, and this movies talks about how different people would handle difficult situations. Beautiful, however, some of the stories were left hanging. Definately a show for different age groups.
Trailer:
Songs From the Movie: Sugababes - Too Lost In You
Kelly Clarkson - The Trouble With Love Is, Dido - Here With Me, Maroon 5 - Sweetest Goodbye/Sunday Morning, Norah Jones - Turn Me On, Wyclef Jean - Take Me As I Am, Eva Cassidy - Songbird, The Calling - Wherever You Will Go, The Pointer Sisters - Jump (For My Love), Joni Mitchell - Both Sides Now, Lynden David Hall - All You Need Is Love, The Beach Boys - God Only Knows, Texas - I'll See It Through, Craig Armstrong - Glasgow Love Theme, Billy Mack - Christmas is All Around, Mariah Carey - All I Want For Christmas Is You & Gabrielle - Sometimes
Synopsis: The characters are falling in love, falling out of love, some are with right people, some are with the wrong people, some are looking to have an affair, some are in the period of mourning; a capsule summary of reality. Love begins and love ends. They flirt a lot. They are all flirting with love. At all ages and social levels, love is the theme. Romantic love and brotherly love is the hotchpotch through out the movie. Most of the movie is filmed in London, during Christmas and the characters all ended up at Heathrow airport a very uplifting note.
My Comments (4/5): Love is all around, it happens to us at different phrase of our life, and this movies talks about how different people would handle difficult situations. Beautiful, however, some of the stories were left hanging. Definately a show for different age groups.
Trailer:
Songs From the Movie: Sugababes - Too Lost In You
Kelly Clarkson - The Trouble With Love Is, Dido - Here With Me, Maroon 5 - Sweetest Goodbye/Sunday Morning, Norah Jones - Turn Me On, Wyclef Jean - Take Me As I Am, Eva Cassidy - Songbird, The Calling - Wherever You Will Go, The Pointer Sisters - Jump (For My Love), Joni Mitchell - Both Sides Now, Lynden David Hall - All You Need Is Love, The Beach Boys - God Only Knows, Texas - I'll See It Through, Craig Armstrong - Glasgow Love Theme, Billy Mack - Christmas is All Around, Mariah Carey - All I Want For Christmas Is You & Gabrielle - Sometimes
Monday, February 26, 2007
(Issue 20) Compromise
Learning to compromise might promise you a better relationship, and to be able to compromise is a gift from you to your partner. It is something most people take for granted, especially when we compromise in silence. However if you think those who accepts these gifts for granted and misused it is bad enough, then you might not have met those that try to push the envelope further. I hope my luck stays as it is , whereby these group of "water testers" wouldn't come into my life.
Is there a drawn line to preventing compromise to compromising (i.e. jeopardizing)? Everyone has their own limits to the term compromise and therefore it can never be compared, it is drawn by the experience and the friends he has and once had. If this is the case, does it meant that a couple it is only considered as a fair game when both have the same limits of compromise?
Why do we compromise? It is because our partners likes something that we do not like as much or maybe disagree upon. The problem lies here, to him it might not be something of a big deal because he likes it and therefore when it is back to his turn some might have a whole lot of explanations to give. And if he refuse and ask you not to compromise him anymore and let everything return to normal, is it reasonable because you had actually compromise and might have done it?
I actually got a negative feedback on Open Relationships and I come to another conclusion. For the very possessive and conservative types, their extend of an "open relation" (which is also a compromise) is allowing their partner to meet up with their other gay friends or EXs alone, but no flirting or kissing, nevertheless to mention sex. This is a very big step for them and it is not right to judge anyone unless you were in their shoes. Whatever, the case it is either an open relation or mere compromise, they ending up regretting this decision, is this a case of compromising relationship?
I do believe that it is not always a case of bad, something compromise can get you some exceptional benefits, especially the sexual fetish compromise. You never know what he is good at unless you try, haa. On the serious note, it would be good if we are willing to do some compromising to make suits his needs or interest, but it would be better if you can learn his interest and do it together, keep an open mind and heart.
Coming to terms with (compromise) Me, (constantly changing to improve) Myself and (without compromising) I.
Screaming my lungs out to: Jennifer Hudson - I'm Changing
I am changing, I'll be better than I am
I'm trying to find a way to understand
And for those who loved the show and performance, here is an Oscar moment, Academy Award Winner;Jennifer Hudson , Multiple Grammy Winner;Beyonce Knowles, Tony Award Winner;Anika Noni Rose & Screen Actors Guild Awards Nominatee Keith Robinson performing nominated tracks, drumroll....
Jennifer Huson at Oscar Party - And I Am Telling You I'm Not Going
Is there a drawn line to preventing compromise to compromising (i.e. jeopardizing)? Everyone has their own limits to the term compromise and therefore it can never be compared, it is drawn by the experience and the friends he has and once had. If this is the case, does it meant that a couple it is only considered as a fair game when both have the same limits of compromise?
Why do we compromise? It is because our partners likes something that we do not like as much or maybe disagree upon. The problem lies here, to him it might not be something of a big deal because he likes it and therefore when it is back to his turn some might have a whole lot of explanations to give. And if he refuse and ask you not to compromise him anymore and let everything return to normal, is it reasonable because you had actually compromise and might have done it?
I actually got a negative feedback on Open Relationships and I come to another conclusion. For the very possessive and conservative types, their extend of an "open relation" (which is also a compromise) is allowing their partner to meet up with their other gay friends or EXs alone, but no flirting or kissing, nevertheless to mention sex. This is a very big step for them and it is not right to judge anyone unless you were in their shoes. Whatever, the case it is either an open relation or mere compromise, they ending up regretting this decision, is this a case of compromising relationship?
I do believe that it is not always a case of bad, something compromise can get you some exceptional benefits, especially the sexual fetish compromise. You never know what he is good at unless you try, haa. On the serious note, it would be good if we are willing to do some compromising to make suits his needs or interest, but it would be better if you can learn his interest and do it together, keep an open mind and heart.
Coming to terms with (compromise) Me, (constantly changing to improve) Myself and (without compromising) I.
Screaming my lungs out to: Jennifer Hudson - I'm Changing
I am changing, I'll be better than I am
I'm trying to find a way to understand
And for those who loved the show and performance, here is an Oscar moment, Academy Award Winner;Jennifer Hudson , Multiple Grammy Winner;Beyonce Knowles, Tony Award Winner;Anika Noni Rose & Screen Actors Guild Awards Nominatee Keith Robinson performing nominated tracks, drumroll....
Jennifer Huson at Oscar Party - And I Am Telling You I'm Not Going
Sunday, February 25, 2007
(Booty Shaking 7) John Galliano & 'Haute Couture'
John Galliano's London's prestigious St Martins College of Art & Design graduation collection, called 'Les Incroyables' ( http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rLMztU8vBP0 ) and inspired by the French Revolution, met with immediate acclaim (Vogue's Spy column described Galliano as "a modish costumier, with a preference for romanticism and androgyny").
Lauched his own label in 1984, won the british Fasion Designer Award in 1987, and joined the international designers in 1990 with his ready to wear in Paris. Secured a contract with luxury conglomerate LVMH Moet Hennessy Louis Vuitton, and become the first British designer to head a French couture house in 1995, as chief designer at Givenchy, and a year later, Dior. His first couture show for Dior coincided with the label's 50th anniversary, 20 January 1997. This is the video to the biggest fashion history moment he created.
'Haute Couture' is the French word for the highest, most exclusive work a big fashion house such as Chanel, Dior, Givenchy, Yves Saint Laurent, Oscar de la Renta (House of Balmain), Jean Paul Gaultier and Christian Lacroix, dresses and outfits are hand-made and made to the measures of the client. Not everyone are allowed to do a Haute Couture, every year the eligible haute couture houses are determined by a commission (the 'Chambre Syndicale de la Haute Couture') that meets at the Ministry of Industry.
10yrs of Dior Couture by John Galliano
Part 1: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jePvR-wGPhI
Part 2: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AxchJRbxDcw
Part 3: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jdp4Srs6Tqk
Part 4: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fenYUylsXWE
Lauched his own label in 1984, won the british Fasion Designer Award in 1987, and joined the international designers in 1990 with his ready to wear in Paris. Secured a contract with luxury conglomerate LVMH Moet Hennessy Louis Vuitton, and become the first British designer to head a French couture house in 1995, as chief designer at Givenchy, and a year later, Dior. His first couture show for Dior coincided with the label's 50th anniversary, 20 January 1997. This is the video to the biggest fashion history moment he created.
'Haute Couture' is the French word for the highest, most exclusive work a big fashion house such as Chanel, Dior, Givenchy, Yves Saint Laurent, Oscar de la Renta (House of Balmain), Jean Paul Gaultier and Christian Lacroix, dresses and outfits are hand-made and made to the measures of the client. Not everyone are allowed to do a Haute Couture, every year the eligible haute couture houses are determined by a commission (the 'Chambre Syndicale de la Haute Couture') that meets at the Ministry of Industry.
10yrs of Dior Couture by John Galliano
Part 1: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jePvR-wGPhI
Part 2: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AxchJRbxDcw
Part 3: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jdp4Srs6Tqk
Part 4: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fenYUylsXWE
Saturday, February 24, 2007
(Issue 19) Limited Confidence.
Many of times we rather cruise at someone or have a casual flirt in the hopes that he will come up to you and make a move in trying to know you better. But if he didn't, you either blame yourself for being not charming enough or you kick your arse hard for not making the move and complain to your friends with your "shoulda, woulda, coulda", which would not happen even if God had given you a chance to turn back time.
How do we make assumptions of the guy's standard of choice? Is it his present group of friends he mixed around with or his working environment (i.e. actors, models or stylist)? Must we be of equivalent looks of his friends to be his friend? Is there a possibility that he wishes to have a change of situation but he couldn't because everyone has presume his life for him? If "beauty is in the eye of the beholder", doesn't it meant that only he knows what is is looking for, so therefore instead of "making an ASS out of yoU and ME (assume)", shouldn't we step forward and let him decide if he is ready to have you enter his life?
I maybe what many people perceive as thick-skinned or too confident, however I like to take chances. I see something I like, I give it a shot. Because unlike a gun-shot, I don't get hurt or wound by doing so. Plus the fact that I am able to accept rejections and turn-downs because I do it myself too, therefore I do understand why these things happen, so there is nothing to be bitchy about.
Let us look closely, many times we ask ourselves or gossip to our friends, "What on earth is she/he thinking? They do not even look good even when they are placed a mile away from one another." But in reality, we know they must be really in love to be together, holding hands strolling down the streets in the world of their own. And we know it is the confidence of one man to approach the other. Sometimes, what we call "mismatch" happens and it is not how beautiful look against one another but how beautiful their relation is.
Sometimes, what is not beautiful in looks is beautiful in heart. I have to state a fact that many of you guys are Good Looking, but instead of having confident in yourself we tend to pay more attention to some unreasonable criticisms made by someone ages ago or pay attention to the wrong flaw we have and some even compare themselves to the most gorgeous guy in earth. Trust me, looks is not all about that perfect waistline or that flawless skin, its about how confident you are about yourself.
For once, take the chance forget about what he or his friends are going to think about you (at least they know that you have have the courage they do not have and gossiping and poking fun are what humans do when they are having sour grapes for dinner), approach the guy (along with lots of boozes, if you have to) and make a fool out of yourself, sometimes you will have lots of great unexpected returns.
Coming to terms with (knowing that there is a beautiful something inside) Me, (Loving) Myself and (not Mr shoulda, woulda, coulda) I.
Dancing at the Dancefloor next to Cutie Pie to:潘玮柏, 郭旭&王恺原唱 - Tell Me
just tell me 为什么
眼神有话要说, 是不是你想要认识我
偷偷的看你要让我等多久, 爱就爱不要用慢动作
男子汉的气魄说做就做, 怎么接近你我现在还在摸索
怎么办怎么ㄑ一ㄠˊ怎么挪但是, 就岁她不想做你的女朋友是他的自由
Translation: Tell Me - "Just tell me why is it that you have a look as if you have something to say, could it be you want to get to know me? Stealing glances at you, and see how long you want me to wait, come on don't hestiate if you like me so"
" A man should have a courage to do what he say, however what is holding you back?
What are you worrying about, it is her freedom to choose whether she wants to be your girlfriend after all"
How do we make assumptions of the guy's standard of choice? Is it his present group of friends he mixed around with or his working environment (i.e. actors, models or stylist)? Must we be of equivalent looks of his friends to be his friend? Is there a possibility that he wishes to have a change of situation but he couldn't because everyone has presume his life for him? If "beauty is in the eye of the beholder", doesn't it meant that only he knows what is is looking for, so therefore instead of "making an ASS out of yoU and ME (assume)", shouldn't we step forward and let him decide if he is ready to have you enter his life?
I maybe what many people perceive as thick-skinned or too confident, however I like to take chances. I see something I like, I give it a shot. Because unlike a gun-shot, I don't get hurt or wound by doing so. Plus the fact that I am able to accept rejections and turn-downs because I do it myself too, therefore I do understand why these things happen, so there is nothing to be bitchy about.
Let us look closely, many times we ask ourselves or gossip to our friends, "What on earth is she/he thinking? They do not even look good even when they are placed a mile away from one another." But in reality, we know they must be really in love to be together, holding hands strolling down the streets in the world of their own. And we know it is the confidence of one man to approach the other. Sometimes, what we call "mismatch" happens and it is not how beautiful look against one another but how beautiful their relation is.
Sometimes, what is not beautiful in looks is beautiful in heart. I have to state a fact that many of you guys are Good Looking, but instead of having confident in yourself we tend to pay more attention to some unreasonable criticisms made by someone ages ago or pay attention to the wrong flaw we have and some even compare themselves to the most gorgeous guy in earth. Trust me, looks is not all about that perfect waistline or that flawless skin, its about how confident you are about yourself.
For once, take the chance forget about what he or his friends are going to think about you (at least they know that you have have the courage they do not have and gossiping and poking fun are what humans do when they are having sour grapes for dinner), approach the guy (along with lots of boozes, if you have to) and make a fool out of yourself, sometimes you will have lots of great unexpected returns.
Coming to terms with (knowing that there is a beautiful something inside) Me, (Loving) Myself and (not Mr shoulda, woulda, coulda) I.
Dancing at the Dancefloor next to Cutie Pie to:潘玮柏, 郭旭&王恺原唱 - Tell Me
just tell me 为什么
眼神有话要说, 是不是你想要认识我
偷偷的看你要让我等多久, 爱就爱不要用慢动作
男子汉的气魄说做就做, 怎么接近你我现在还在摸索
怎么办怎么ㄑ一ㄠˊ怎么挪但是, 就岁她不想做你的女朋友是他的自由
Translation: Tell Me - "Just tell me why is it that you have a look as if you have something to say, could it be you want to get to know me? Stealing glances at you, and see how long you want me to wait, come on don't hestiate if you like me so"
" A man should have a courage to do what he say, however what is holding you back?
What are you worrying about, it is her freedom to choose whether she wants to be your girlfriend after all"
Friday, February 23, 2007
(Love Tales 1) Part 5 Who's The Third Party?
Exclaimer: I am not the writer to this exciting story. But I am proud to introduce a Beautiful Mind and Soul, Convan. Thanks for allowing me to re-post this article on my blog.
Written and Publish on Sep 21 2005, 09:25 PM
"What did you just said, Kai? Did you?..?" JD quivering voice trailed off into the silence. Kai was looking at the floor, not once dare to look at JD and that made JD reached out and held Kai's strong shoulders. He lifted Kai's handsome face and admired the strong manly features and repeat, "Kai, did I hear wrongly? Did you just say you..like..me?" With a sudden force, Kai hugged JD tightly and pressed his dry lips onto JD and both of them locked lips for the longest time possible.
When they finally released their grip on each other, JD was trying hard to breathe. He has never had such an adrenalin rush kissing another man before and his heart was thumping so fast that it became audible in the quiet corridor. After a long moment of silence, Kai finally said, "I am sorry, I didn't know what came over me. I don't mean to be offensive or taking advantage of you. I just need to let you know how I feel about you."
"Er?well?I guess I know how you feel about me now. But I must say that was one of the best kiss I ever had." JD said with a smile. He hugged Kai tightly, breathing in his scent and relishing in the warmth of his hard chest. JD knew this will not last but he just wanted to bask in the moment and not worried about anything.
"Shall I send you home? It's late." Kai said in such a gentle tone that JD could not believe his own ears. Kai repeated in his unusual gentle tone, "JD? I send you home, ok? You all right?" JD looked at the caring look in Kai's eyes and he knew he is hopelessly in love with the greek god.
The ride home was a quiet journey, none of them talked but with the occasion changing of gears did Kai remove his hands off JD, they were essentially holding hands with smiles on their faces throughout the journey. When Kai's mazda 5 reaches the doorsteps of JD's apartment, they reluctantly released each other's hands.
They sat inside the car for good 5 minutes and finally JD took a deep breathe and said, "Ok, guess it's time to say goodnight. Thanks for the ride home, Kai." Before JD opened the car door, Kai leaned forward and kissed JD again, this time much more passionate but gentle and french kissed, when they broke apart, Kai looked at JD lovingly and said, "Sleep tight and sweet dreams, I will think of you tonight."
JD tossed and turned on his bed, it's already way past 3am and he still couldn't sleep. The flashbacks of Kai kissing him kept replaying at the back of his head. He is falling hopelessly in love with Kai and he knew it is not possible for the two of them to work out anything as long as Kai is still attached to his girlfriend. JD wanted to talk to Kai badly, he wanted reassurance from Kai but it is too late to call Kai at this hour and JD grew more frustrated.
The sound of a ringing phone tore through the silent room JD is in and JD scrambled to reach his ringing mobile. "Hello." JD mumbled. "Am I disturbing you, JD? Kai here. I can't really sleep and I kept thinking of you. I missed you so badly already." JD sat up straight and a wide grin appeared across his initially gloomy face, "Kai! I can't sleep either. I am so glad you called. I wanted to call you so badly but I am afraid that I might wake you up. I missed you too!" JD said with the wide grin still on his face.
Kai's sexy manly voice on the other line sounded coarse, "JD, I have a really wonderful night tonight. Do you think there will be more such nights?" JD's heart melted upon hearing this and replied, "Of course, Kai. You know how I feel about you. I am definitely looking forward to many more such nights and I am really excited about us. But your voice sound a little coarse, are you ok?"
"No, I am fine. Maybe just getting tired. I really need to hear your voice." Kai was interrupted when a female voice was heard and JD heard it clearly, "Honey, why are you still up at this hour? Who are you chatting with?" Kai pressed the hang up button soon after.
Exclaimer: I am not the writer to this exciting story. But I am proud to introduce a Beautiful Mind and Soul, Convan. Thanks for allowing me to re-post this article on my blog.
Written and Publish on Sep 21 2005, 09:25 PM
"What did you just said, Kai? Did you?..?" JD quivering voice trailed off into the silence. Kai was looking at the floor, not once dare to look at JD and that made JD reached out and held Kai's strong shoulders. He lifted Kai's handsome face and admired the strong manly features and repeat, "Kai, did I hear wrongly? Did you just say you..like..me?" With a sudden force, Kai hugged JD tightly and pressed his dry lips onto JD and both of them locked lips for the longest time possible.
When they finally released their grip on each other, JD was trying hard to breathe. He has never had such an adrenalin rush kissing another man before and his heart was thumping so fast that it became audible in the quiet corridor. After a long moment of silence, Kai finally said, "I am sorry, I didn't know what came over me. I don't mean to be offensive or taking advantage of you. I just need to let you know how I feel about you."
"Er?well?I guess I know how you feel about me now. But I must say that was one of the best kiss I ever had." JD said with a smile. He hugged Kai tightly, breathing in his scent and relishing in the warmth of his hard chest. JD knew this will not last but he just wanted to bask in the moment and not worried about anything.
"Shall I send you home? It's late." Kai said in such a gentle tone that JD could not believe his own ears. Kai repeated in his unusual gentle tone, "JD? I send you home, ok? You all right?" JD looked at the caring look in Kai's eyes and he knew he is hopelessly in love with the greek god.
The ride home was a quiet journey, none of them talked but with the occasion changing of gears did Kai remove his hands off JD, they were essentially holding hands with smiles on their faces throughout the journey. When Kai's mazda 5 reaches the doorsteps of JD's apartment, they reluctantly released each other's hands.
They sat inside the car for good 5 minutes and finally JD took a deep breathe and said, "Ok, guess it's time to say goodnight. Thanks for the ride home, Kai." Before JD opened the car door, Kai leaned forward and kissed JD again, this time much more passionate but gentle and french kissed, when they broke apart, Kai looked at JD lovingly and said, "Sleep tight and sweet dreams, I will think of you tonight."
JD tossed and turned on his bed, it's already way past 3am and he still couldn't sleep. The flashbacks of Kai kissing him kept replaying at the back of his head. He is falling hopelessly in love with Kai and he knew it is not possible for the two of them to work out anything as long as Kai is still attached to his girlfriend. JD wanted to talk to Kai badly, he wanted reassurance from Kai but it is too late to call Kai at this hour and JD grew more frustrated.
The sound of a ringing phone tore through the silent room JD is in and JD scrambled to reach his ringing mobile. "Hello." JD mumbled. "Am I disturbing you, JD? Kai here. I can't really sleep and I kept thinking of you. I missed you so badly already." JD sat up straight and a wide grin appeared across his initially gloomy face, "Kai! I can't sleep either. I am so glad you called. I wanted to call you so badly but I am afraid that I might wake you up. I missed you too!" JD said with the wide grin still on his face.
Kai's sexy manly voice on the other line sounded coarse, "JD, I have a really wonderful night tonight. Do you think there will be more such nights?" JD's heart melted upon hearing this and replied, "Of course, Kai. You know how I feel about you. I am definitely looking forward to many more such nights and I am really excited about us. But your voice sound a little coarse, are you ok?"
"No, I am fine. Maybe just getting tired. I really need to hear your voice." Kai was interrupted when a female voice was heard and JD heard it clearly, "Honey, why are you still up at this hour? Who are you chatting with?" Kai pressed the hang up button soon after.
Exclaimer: I am not the writer to this exciting story. But I am proud to introduce a Beautiful Mind and Soul, Convan. Thanks for allowing me to re-post this article on my blog.
Thursday, February 22, 2007
(Issue 18) Soul-Mates
There is a saying among friends and EXs during breakups, that "There is a soul-mate out there waiting for you, the one perfect person to complete you, it is just that it is not him/me". As sad as it sounds, I do not believe in that but on the contradictory I am glad that I don't. All because does it also mean that "If I don't find him, I am totally incomplete?"
I looked up the dictionary to search for the definition an it says:-
soul-mate
n. One of two persons compatible with each other in disposition, point of view, or sensitivity.
Someone who loves you for who you are: someone who's really hard to find. soul-mates are the people you want to spend the rest of your life with.
The "best" part of it all is that it is "someone who's really hard to find", does it also meant that your chances of finding your real soul-mate are as slim as Kate Moss? And will he appear in a hairpiece with the word "soul-mate" written on his head? It is because if he is the only ONE out of the zillions and billions in the entire world population, I do not want to miss him and remain single forever if I let the chance slipped by.
Then there is another type of definition that is suppose to affirm you, to make you feel stronger and better and have a better prospective in life so that you continue to find that perfect one:-
"A soul-mate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we're pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we're safe in our own paradise. Our soul-mate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. Our soul-mate is the one who makes life come to life.”
I wondered, is it an affirmation that is suppose to make you get back up on your feet and look for that person to fits you perfectly, or is it a reminder to you that it is such an unattainable task to look for that "perfect person" and you are been set up to fail?
However, I think otherwise as I took the time to read these definitions over again and reviewed everyone in my life, I am proud to say that I do have many soul-mates in my life and sure they are hard to find, just like how it is defined. The best news of all is that if each of us take a moment and looked again, we do have at least one holding on to our hand right now, regardless whether we are single or attached. They are our closest friends, friends that unlocks our hearts with whom we can be totally honest with, who cared and loved us of our truest selves, etc etc. Remember they did not define him as someone we have to be able to kiss and tell or have sex with to make thing work. They are simply the group of people we feel comfortable with, even in total silence.
Just like Charlotte (Sex and the City) would put it "having friends as soul-mates and men as someone to have fun with". After all, who is always there (even in the middle of the night) when we are really hurt by the ones we thought would loved us forever? Who are the ones who will always open their arms to welcome you back after you deserted them for having fun with a cute guy over a long period of time? These are the people who are really hard to find, people who love you no matter what, and therefore are worth keeping. I am glad that I found three.
However, I still wish that the fourth will come by sometime, as companion, a friend and a lover.
Coming to terms with (Lucky) Me, (Glad that I won't have to grow old and lonely all by) Myself and (having true soul-mates) I.
Humming in the middle of a busy road to: Queen - You're My Best Friend
Oh you're my best friend, Oooh you make me live
Oh I've been wandering round, but I still come back to you
In rain or shine, you've stood by me girl
I'm happy at home, you're my best friend
I looked up the dictionary to search for the definition an it says:-
soul-mate
n. One of two persons compatible with each other in disposition, point of view, or sensitivity.
Someone who loves you for who you are: someone who's really hard to find. soul-mates are the people you want to spend the rest of your life with.
The "best" part of it all is that it is "someone who's really hard to find", does it also meant that your chances of finding your real soul-mate are as slim as Kate Moss? And will he appear in a hairpiece with the word "soul-mate" written on his head? It is because if he is the only ONE out of the zillions and billions in the entire world population, I do not want to miss him and remain single forever if I let the chance slipped by.
Then there is another type of definition that is suppose to affirm you, to make you feel stronger and better and have a better prospective in life so that you continue to find that perfect one:-
"A soul-mate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we're pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we're safe in our own paradise. Our soul-mate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. Our soul-mate is the one who makes life come to life.”
I wondered, is it an affirmation that is suppose to make you get back up on your feet and look for that person to fits you perfectly, or is it a reminder to you that it is such an unattainable task to look for that "perfect person" and you are been set up to fail?
However, I think otherwise as I took the time to read these definitions over again and reviewed everyone in my life, I am proud to say that I do have many soul-mates in my life and sure they are hard to find, just like how it is defined. The best news of all is that if each of us take a moment and looked again, we do have at least one holding on to our hand right now, regardless whether we are single or attached. They are our closest friends, friends that unlocks our hearts with whom we can be totally honest with, who cared and loved us of our truest selves, etc etc. Remember they did not define him as someone we have to be able to kiss and tell or have sex with to make thing work. They are simply the group of people we feel comfortable with, even in total silence.
Just like Charlotte (Sex and the City) would put it "having friends as soul-mates and men as someone to have fun with". After all, who is always there (even in the middle of the night) when we are really hurt by the ones we thought would loved us forever? Who are the ones who will always open their arms to welcome you back after you deserted them for having fun with a cute guy over a long period of time? These are the people who are really hard to find, people who love you no matter what, and therefore are worth keeping. I am glad that I found three.
However, I still wish that the fourth will come by sometime, as companion, a friend and a lover.
Coming to terms with (Lucky) Me, (Glad that I won't have to grow old and lonely all by) Myself and (having true soul-mates) I.
Humming in the middle of a busy road to: Queen - You're My Best Friend
Oh you're my best friend, Oooh you make me live
Oh I've been wandering round, but I still come back to you
In rain or shine, you've stood by me girl
I'm happy at home, you're my best friend
Wednesday, February 21, 2007
(High Defination 2) America's Next Top Model
Featuring: World-Renowned Supermodel Tyra Banks (Creator, Executive Producer, Host & Judge), Jay Manuel (Art Diector/Make-Up Artist), Nigel Barker (Judge/Photographer), J. Alexander (Runway Expert/ Cycle 5-8 Judge), Self Proclaimed First Supermodel Janice Dickinson (Cycle 1-4 Judge) and First Teen Supermodel Twiggy (Cylce 5-8 Judge).
Show Category: Reality Drama
About the Show: AMERICA'S NEXT TOP MODEL chronicles the transformation of everyday young women into potentially fierce supermodels. Fourteen participants will live together and vie for the incredible grand prize: an opportunity to be managed by Top Reowned Modeling Agency, a fashion spread in a Reowned magazine, and a contract with CoverGirl.
Cameras catch each moment as participants face weekly tests that determine who makes the cut. With mentoring by supermodel Tyra Banks and exposure to high-profile fashion industry gurus, the finalists compete in a highly accelerated modeling boot camp, a crash course that could lead to supermodel fame.
Participants are asked to demonstrate both inner and outer beauty as they master complicated catwalks, intense physical fitness, fashion photo shoots and publicity skills, all under 24-hour-a-day surveillance of the AMERICA'S NEXT TOP MODEL cameras.
My Comments (4/5): I strongly believe everyone heard of this show, regardless they are a strong follower like me. I guess it was the bitching or models and the insides to a world of fashion that attracts me. Or was it the desire to be like a model like one of them, a male model of course. However, I got to mention, the show was much better with the larger than life bitch, Janice Dickinson.
Trailer: Cycle 8 is out in US.
(Spoiler Alert - This trailer will show the final 13 girls)
Show Category: Reality Drama
About the Show: AMERICA'S NEXT TOP MODEL chronicles the transformation of everyday young women into potentially fierce supermodels. Fourteen participants will live together and vie for the incredible grand prize: an opportunity to be managed by Top Reowned Modeling Agency, a fashion spread in a Reowned magazine, and a contract with CoverGirl.
Cameras catch each moment as participants face weekly tests that determine who makes the cut. With mentoring by supermodel Tyra Banks and exposure to high-profile fashion industry gurus, the finalists compete in a highly accelerated modeling boot camp, a crash course that could lead to supermodel fame.
Participants are asked to demonstrate both inner and outer beauty as they master complicated catwalks, intense physical fitness, fashion photo shoots and publicity skills, all under 24-hour-a-day surveillance of the AMERICA'S NEXT TOP MODEL cameras.
My Comments (4/5): I strongly believe everyone heard of this show, regardless they are a strong follower like me. I guess it was the bitching or models and the insides to a world of fashion that attracts me. Or was it the desire to be like a model like one of them, a male model of course. However, I got to mention, the show was much better with the larger than life bitch, Janice Dickinson.
Trailer: Cycle 8 is out in US.
(Spoiler Alert - This trailer will show the final 13 girls)
Tuesday, February 20, 2007
(Issue 17) Can we have it all?
With the overloaded information (from friends, [ex] lovers, and the internet) of what a perfect lover should possess to make a relationship last, I can't help to wonder 'Does this kind of man really exist'? If he does and he falls deeply in love with you, 'Does it makes you a bad lover?', because we do know that we ourselves are not perfect. Then why are we so crazy over such a guy that doesn't exist and forgo possible opportunities with a guy who falls short in your list of qualities?
How much time should one be given to show his qualities before we strike him off our future plans? And to be fair, did you fulfill as much qualities in his list as he did on your list? Come back and think about it, we felt so blessed when we found a guy who fulfill 3 out of the 30 qualities on our "ideal partner list", and we couldn't help to shower all our love and affection to him, but what initialed the first complain about him to our friends? Was it because his time was up, whereby he does not 'live' to show the fourth qualities you need, therefore he deserve a "shot of harsh words through his heart" and get out of your sight. Or was it because he did something 'bad' that was not stated in your list (If this is the case when will your list ends?).
First and foremost, how did we came up with our list? Was it hearsay, experience or something you desired? Are we able to fulfill this qualities ourselves? Lets looked back in our past relations, and this time we evaluate ourselves instead of evaluating our partner. How many ticks do we have on the checklist boxes ourselves and how many crosses are there? Truthfully, do not find any excuses to explain for a possible crosses, as he wasn't given a chance to do so the other time when you were together and even your explanation is true, remember the fact that we all played the game of "Taking explanations as excuses" on him.
You will be surprised to learned that there are many people out there who are able to come out with the A's to Z's qualities and requirements that is essential in a relationship, and many others who uses the spelling of many sweet of words as initials of a Qualities to be fulfill. But can we have it all, and do we have it all? I wondered. Some wise man once said - Love is not about finding the perfect guy, but loving the imperfect guy perfectly, but are we able to do so and be satisfied with it? Can we not compare what we have to our never ending list, or to what our couples friends have and we wished we had?
Coming to terms with (the imperfect) Me, (evaluating) Myself and (hopefully, easily satisfied)
Singing in the rain to: 孙燕姿 - 同类
有没有别人跟我一样很想被安慰
风停了又吹我忽然想起谁
天亮了又黑我过了好几岁
心暖了又灰世界
有时候孤单的很需要另一个同类
爱收了又给我们都不太完美
Translation: Kindred Spirits - "Is there anyone else who wants to be comforted like I do?
The wind stops then starts to blow again; who do I think of suddenly?
The sky is bright then dark; how many years have passed by me?
The heart is warmed then dejected. On earth sometimes, lonely people need other people who feel the same way
Love is taken then given, none of us are really perfect"
How much time should one be given to show his qualities before we strike him off our future plans? And to be fair, did you fulfill as much qualities in his list as he did on your list? Come back and think about it, we felt so blessed when we found a guy who fulfill 3 out of the 30 qualities on our "ideal partner list", and we couldn't help to shower all our love and affection to him, but what initialed the first complain about him to our friends? Was it because his time was up, whereby he does not 'live' to show the fourth qualities you need, therefore he deserve a "shot of harsh words through his heart" and get out of your sight. Or was it because he did something 'bad' that was not stated in your list (If this is the case when will your list ends?).
First and foremost, how did we came up with our list? Was it hearsay, experience or something you desired? Are we able to fulfill this qualities ourselves? Lets looked back in our past relations, and this time we evaluate ourselves instead of evaluating our partner. How many ticks do we have on the checklist boxes ourselves and how many crosses are there? Truthfully, do not find any excuses to explain for a possible crosses, as he wasn't given a chance to do so the other time when you were together and even your explanation is true, remember the fact that we all played the game of "Taking explanations as excuses" on him.
You will be surprised to learned that there are many people out there who are able to come out with the A's to Z's qualities and requirements that is essential in a relationship, and many others who uses the spelling of many sweet of words as initials of a Qualities to be fulfill. But can we have it all, and do we have it all? I wondered. Some wise man once said - Love is not about finding the perfect guy, but loving the imperfect guy perfectly, but are we able to do so and be satisfied with it? Can we not compare what we have to our never ending list, or to what our couples friends have and we wished we had?
Coming to terms with (the imperfect) Me, (evaluating) Myself and (hopefully, easily satisfied)
Singing in the rain to: 孙燕姿 - 同类
有没有别人跟我一样很想被安慰
风停了又吹我忽然想起谁
天亮了又黑我过了好几岁
心暖了又灰世界
有时候孤单的很需要另一个同类
爱收了又给我们都不太完美
Translation: Kindred Spirits - "Is there anyone else who wants to be comforted like I do?
The wind stops then starts to blow again; who do I think of suddenly?
The sky is bright then dark; how many years have passed by me?
The heart is warmed then dejected. On earth sometimes, lonely people need other people who feel the same way
Love is taken then given, none of us are really perfect"
Monday, February 19, 2007
(Booty Shaking 6) Project Runway Season Three Designs
Project Runway Designers showing their work in New York Fashion Week. Hosted by Victoria Secret Supermodel Heidi Klum. Judged by American Designer Michael Kors, Fashion Director at ELLE Nina Garcia & Fern Mallis, the Creator of Olympus Fashion Week.
Winner Jeffrey Sebelia, followed by Uli Herzner, Laura Bennett and last but not least Michael Knight.
Designer: Jeffrey Sebelia
Designer: German Uli Herzner
Song: "Tell Me About It" by Natalie Cole
Designer: Laura Bennett
Song: "I Love You My Hope" by Hird (feat. in Hed-Kandi Beach House)
Designer: Michael Knight
Winner Jeffrey Sebelia, followed by Uli Herzner, Laura Bennett and last but not least Michael Knight.
Designer: Jeffrey Sebelia
Designer: German Uli Herzner
Song: "Tell Me About It" by Natalie Cole
Designer: Laura Bennett
Song: "I Love You My Hope" by Hird (feat. in Hed-Kandi Beach House)
Designer: Michael Knight
Sunday, February 18, 2007
(Issue 16) Common Teasing
I have to admit that I love to club when I am back to single-hood (regardless of whether I had heal from my past relation), only to practice common teasing. I guess I am looking for the sense of existence. It is at these moments I seek nothing more than the attention, because it is flattering to me, and it seems to make me want to move on with life.
So I was asked about common teasing from my aj and straight friends, as it seems so easy for me, but many of times they do not notice that they are doing it themselves without realizing. The common acts are platform dancing, taking everything into center stage. The obvious ones are the topless ones and those that does that does an act of "striptease / chipmunks" performance. They tease by flaunting either their dance moves or their rock hard abs.
Eye contact is the most important part of any tease, together with a smile of course. Make eyes meet, but do not send off the wrong signals, just long enough to send him the signal that he is cute and not stripping him with your eyes. Do it not more than three times, just enough to let him return a smile back to you, the most, to know his name. If he is not interested, let it be, don't be a nuisance, after all you are not intending to know him. If he do offer a drink, have small causal talks after introducing, but nothing pertaining to his life or yours.
Many were unaware that tease does not come from actions alone. The most obvious example would be their dressing. One, someone all covered up and someone dress to show skin, and two, someone wearing body hugging clothes and someone too causally dressed. It is said that when someone pays much attention on how his hair look that day, it is equivalent to how much attention he seeks. Then there are perfume, facial hair, etc etc, the list goes on.
There are much more to teasing (winking, sexy single eyebrow raise, sexy single finger biting, sitting posture, side eye 'peep', etc) but remember that there is a difference between Teasing and Flirting. You want him to remember you, but you do not want him physically therefore there are some rules:
1. Do it and Forget it.
2. Do not Cling.
3. Offering others more than you intend to give always backfires. (And it is definitely wrong to tease someone just to drive you home and nothing else after that).
4. Do not dwell on flirting. (Do not bitch what he does with others that night, because you are not doing something right yourself).
5. ONLY tease single-hoods (you do not want to be left cleaning up an ugly mess that you might create unintentionally, it is always best to ask his status before you go into the kissing phrase, that is if you intend to).
There is a big difference between the two, do not send out the wrong signals that you want him, but only separated by a thin line, furthermore too much teasing might also put you into the "Player" List.
Coming to Terms with (Teaser)Me, (not crossing the line) Myself and (attention seeking) I.
Winking at the cutest guy across the bar, with the perfect song playing in my mind: 罗志祥,小S(徐熙娣)友情合唱 - 恋爱达人
(Me)给你一分钟你若还不行动你就是没种装再酷也就都没用
(cute gay)宝贝你不会懂我就是要你心急我恋爱能力可是达人的等级 come on
(together)hey you 就是你请靠近我怀里别假装不在意你明明动了心
Translation: Love Expert - "(Me) I’ll give you a minute, if you’re still not touched then, you’re a loser, no matter how cool you pretend to be.
(Cute Gay) baby you won’t understand, I meant for you to get nervous
I have no opponents in love. come on
(together) hey you. It’s you. Come in to my arms. Don’t pretend that you don’t care. It’s obvious that your heart opened up."
Teasing with a flirtish dance to: PussyCat Dolls- Don't Cha
Dont cha wish your girlfriend was hot like me
Dont cha wish your girlfriend was a freak like me
Dont cha, dont cha
Dont cha wish your girlfriend was raw like me
Dont cha wish your girlfriend was fun like me
Dont cha, dont cha
So I was asked about common teasing from my aj and straight friends, as it seems so easy for me, but many of times they do not notice that they are doing it themselves without realizing. The common acts are platform dancing, taking everything into center stage. The obvious ones are the topless ones and those that does that does an act of "striptease / chipmunks" performance. They tease by flaunting either their dance moves or their rock hard abs.
Eye contact is the most important part of any tease, together with a smile of course. Make eyes meet, but do not send off the wrong signals, just long enough to send him the signal that he is cute and not stripping him with your eyes. Do it not more than three times, just enough to let him return a smile back to you, the most, to know his name. If he is not interested, let it be, don't be a nuisance, after all you are not intending to know him. If he do offer a drink, have small causal talks after introducing, but nothing pertaining to his life or yours.
Many were unaware that tease does not come from actions alone. The most obvious example would be their dressing. One, someone all covered up and someone dress to show skin, and two, someone wearing body hugging clothes and someone too causally dressed. It is said that when someone pays much attention on how his hair look that day, it is equivalent to how much attention he seeks. Then there are perfume, facial hair, etc etc, the list goes on.
There are much more to teasing (winking, sexy single eyebrow raise, sexy single finger biting, sitting posture, side eye 'peep', etc) but remember that there is a difference between Teasing and Flirting. You want him to remember you, but you do not want him physically therefore there are some rules:
1. Do it and Forget it.
2. Do not Cling.
3. Offering others more than you intend to give always backfires. (And it is definitely wrong to tease someone just to drive you home and nothing else after that).
4. Do not dwell on flirting. (Do not bitch what he does with others that night, because you are not doing something right yourself).
5. ONLY tease single-hoods (you do not want to be left cleaning up an ugly mess that you might create unintentionally, it is always best to ask his status before you go into the kissing phrase, that is if you intend to).
There is a big difference between the two, do not send out the wrong signals that you want him, but only separated by a thin line, furthermore too much teasing might also put you into the "Player" List.
Coming to Terms with (Teaser)Me, (not crossing the line) Myself and (attention seeking) I.
Winking at the cutest guy across the bar, with the perfect song playing in my mind: 罗志祥,小S(徐熙娣)友情合唱 - 恋爱达人
(Me)给你一分钟你若还不行动你就是没种装再酷也就都没用
(cute gay)宝贝你不会懂我就是要你心急我恋爱能力可是达人的等级 come on
(together)hey you 就是你请靠近我怀里别假装不在意你明明动了心
Translation: Love Expert - "(Me) I’ll give you a minute, if you’re still not touched then, you’re a loser, no matter how cool you pretend to be.
(Cute Gay) baby you won’t understand, I meant for you to get nervous
I have no opponents in love. come on
(together) hey you. It’s you. Come in to my arms. Don’t pretend that you don’t care. It’s obvious that your heart opened up."
Teasing with a flirtish dance to: PussyCat Dolls- Don't Cha
Dont cha wish your girlfriend was hot like me
Dont cha wish your girlfriend was a freak like me
Dont cha, dont cha
Dont cha wish your girlfriend was raw like me
Dont cha wish your girlfriend was fun like me
Dont cha, dont cha
Saturday, February 17, 2007
(Love Tales 1) Part 4 Kai's Sexual Orientation
Exclaimer: I am not the writer to this exciting story. But I am proud to introduce a Beautiful Mind and Soul, Convan. Thanks for allowing me to re-post this article on my blog.
Written and Publish on Sep 18 2005, 08:52 PM
"Why are you always so flirtatious? And to think to both guys and girls." JD asked Kai. Kai, with his usual sunshine smile, said" Everybody knows I have a girlfriend so all these flirts are done in a good natured way. Furthermore, no one minds being sweet talked." JD felt his heart sank to the bottomless pit, of course he had heard about Kai's model girlfriend, even 'sister' Robbie warned him too but he had secretly hoped that it is not true and all the sexual tensions between Kai and himself is not self imaginary.
JD's quietness caused an air of uneasiness among the guys and Kai put the supper on JD's desk and said, "Here, eat it while it's still hot. I still have to rush some work. See you around." Looking at Kai's walking away, JD opened the packet of supper and can't seemed to have any appetite. He has hoped for such a caring and wonderful perfect boyfriend and Kai fits the bill but now, the dream is shattered. Kai is taken and straight.
When JD finally finished typing his last sentence, he heaved a sign of relief and saved his work in the computer. He logged off from the system and got ready to leave. He looked over to the area where Kai is and saw lights still on. He decided to walk over and say bye, he has never stepped into Kai's cubicle before and when he did, he was surprised at how tidy and neat Kai kept his cubicle. He saw Kai's resting on the desk, snoring a little.
JD thought to himself, "He looked so cute while asleep, if only he is my man." JD inched closer to Kai quietly and from his view, saw Kai unbuttoned his shirt button to reveal a well developed chest, JD felt his heart thumping fast at the seductive pose but composed himself and reach for the blazer and put it over Kai's strong shoulders. Kai stirred a little and startled JD, he back stepped a few steps but Kai continued his soft snoring. JD let out a long breath and was about to leave when he tripped over the phone wire and fell.
"Huh. Who's that? You all right, JD?" Kai woke up from the commotion and helped JD up. JD flushed face caused Kai to laugh and said, "You looked so cute like that. So feel like kissing you." JD pushed Kai away and said angrily, "Enough is enough! Stop flirting with me like that. I might be gay but I am not Robbie, I value myself and will not stoop so low to get your attention. You can disregard that I am gay but please respect my dignity!"
With a puzzled look, Kai apologized, "Hey buddy, I am sorry. I didn't know you would be offended by my behaviour. I don't mean to look down or make fun of anyone's sexual orientation. I respect Robbie as much as everybody else. That includes you as well." JD felt embarrassed and said, "Well then, you know I am gay now so please restraint yourself from misleading me further!"
JD stormed out of Kai's cubicle and Kai followed. "JD, stop. JD, listen to me. I am sorry, I don't mean to mislead you or whatever. Hey, let me drive you home ok? Just give me a chance to say sorry." "Kai, just leave me alone. I am not your match. I don't play games, I am not a Casanova like you, I have other guys queuing to date me out. I don't need to be humiliated by you like this. I might have a liking for you but that doesn't mean I am willing to be your object of flirtation when you are bored!"
Kai grabbed JD's shoulders and pinned him to the walls, face close to each other, said in a hushed tone, "JD, I am not playing any games with you. Yes, I might be fooling around with the rest but I am not doing that when I am with you. I mean, I am serious. You know what I mean?"
JD struggled to get out of the uncompromising position, the distance between them was too close for comfort. JD felt Kai's hot breath from his mouth on his face and their crotches are only separated by the thin fabric of their pants. JD stammered," Let me go, I don't know what you are trying to say. But this is getting too much."
"What do you want me to say? Ok! I will be honest with you, I like you too! JD!" Kai blurted out and lossened his grip on JD. JD stood there motionless.
Exclaimer: I am not the writer to this exciting story. But I am proud to introduce a Beautiful Mind and Soul, Convan. Thanks for allowing me to re-post this article on my blog.
Written and Publish on Sep 18 2005, 08:52 PM
"Why are you always so flirtatious? And to think to both guys and girls." JD asked Kai. Kai, with his usual sunshine smile, said" Everybody knows I have a girlfriend so all these flirts are done in a good natured way. Furthermore, no one minds being sweet talked." JD felt his heart sank to the bottomless pit, of course he had heard about Kai's model girlfriend, even 'sister' Robbie warned him too but he had secretly hoped that it is not true and all the sexual tensions between Kai and himself is not self imaginary.
JD's quietness caused an air of uneasiness among the guys and Kai put the supper on JD's desk and said, "Here, eat it while it's still hot. I still have to rush some work. See you around." Looking at Kai's walking away, JD opened the packet of supper and can't seemed to have any appetite. He has hoped for such a caring and wonderful perfect boyfriend and Kai fits the bill but now, the dream is shattered. Kai is taken and straight.
When JD finally finished typing his last sentence, he heaved a sign of relief and saved his work in the computer. He logged off from the system and got ready to leave. He looked over to the area where Kai is and saw lights still on. He decided to walk over and say bye, he has never stepped into Kai's cubicle before and when he did, he was surprised at how tidy and neat Kai kept his cubicle. He saw Kai's resting on the desk, snoring a little.
JD thought to himself, "He looked so cute while asleep, if only he is my man." JD inched closer to Kai quietly and from his view, saw Kai unbuttoned his shirt button to reveal a well developed chest, JD felt his heart thumping fast at the seductive pose but composed himself and reach for the blazer and put it over Kai's strong shoulders. Kai stirred a little and startled JD, he back stepped a few steps but Kai continued his soft snoring. JD let out a long breath and was about to leave when he tripped over the phone wire and fell.
"Huh. Who's that? You all right, JD?" Kai woke up from the commotion and helped JD up. JD flushed face caused Kai to laugh and said, "You looked so cute like that. So feel like kissing you." JD pushed Kai away and said angrily, "Enough is enough! Stop flirting with me like that. I might be gay but I am not Robbie, I value myself and will not stoop so low to get your attention. You can disregard that I am gay but please respect my dignity!"
With a puzzled look, Kai apologized, "Hey buddy, I am sorry. I didn't know you would be offended by my behaviour. I don't mean to look down or make fun of anyone's sexual orientation. I respect Robbie as much as everybody else. That includes you as well." JD felt embarrassed and said, "Well then, you know I am gay now so please restraint yourself from misleading me further!"
JD stormed out of Kai's cubicle and Kai followed. "JD, stop. JD, listen to me. I am sorry, I don't mean to mislead you or whatever. Hey, let me drive you home ok? Just give me a chance to say sorry." "Kai, just leave me alone. I am not your match. I don't play games, I am not a Casanova like you, I have other guys queuing to date me out. I don't need to be humiliated by you like this. I might have a liking for you but that doesn't mean I am willing to be your object of flirtation when you are bored!"
Kai grabbed JD's shoulders and pinned him to the walls, face close to each other, said in a hushed tone, "JD, I am not playing any games with you. Yes, I might be fooling around with the rest but I am not doing that when I am with you. I mean, I am serious. You know what I mean?"
JD struggled to get out of the uncompromising position, the distance between them was too close for comfort. JD felt Kai's hot breath from his mouth on his face and their crotches are only separated by the thin fabric of their pants. JD stammered," Let me go, I don't know what you are trying to say. But this is getting too much."
"What do you want me to say? Ok! I will be honest with you, I like you too! JD!" Kai blurted out and lossened his grip on JD. JD stood there motionless.
Exclaimer: I am not the writer to this exciting story. But I am proud to introduce a Beautiful Mind and Soul, Convan. Thanks for allowing me to re-post this article on my blog.
Friday, February 16, 2007
(Issue 15) Friend's Ex
Did it ever happen to you that you and your partner have common friends which you didn't knew about their friendship, when you guys first met? These things happens when you are out in this circle long enough, and you do learn that this circle isn't that big after all. This actually lead to one other thought of mine, "Could you move on with your EXs friend? Is this betrayal?"
I specifically used the word "move on" and not "make a move on", in addition the word "Ex" and not "Partner". So we are not talking about betrayal of relationship, whereby your friend slept with boy whilst you are still attached. Instead what I am referring here could be known as the betrayal of friendship, or what the straight would refer as "wearing old shoes".
It is understandable that many take this as both a betrayal of friendship and relationship, because one could not help to wonder "Had these two been dating behind your back when you guys were still together?" If not, what is the reason to date my EX when there are so many fishes out there?
We understand that couples breakup because of indifference between them which they could not agree on, but what if someone near you is able to accept these qualities? Is it reasonable to announce to all your friends that "He's my ex, so back off and don't even have thoughts". Or is this a silenced known rule or code of ethics among all friends? Could this be consider as fair when there is a limited amount of "Right Enough" Guy out there, and when almost everyone knows everyone in this Hi-Bye circuit?
What may not be your qualities of a good boyfriend maybe the qualities of a good boyfriend of your friends. Why the sour grapes? However I got to say, we could be 'gracious' enough to bless them, but would we feel awkward during gatherings together? How should we behave in these gatherings? Maybe this is the reason why we wishes for them not to be together?
Or do we feel sour inside because something inside us is not willing to let go and wishes at either one of us could change to accept the indifference we used to have, after all he is a good catch.
I could not understand this, when the Straights refer EXs as old shoes, then why mess up a true friendship because of a pair of shoes that doesn't fit you but fits your friend perfectly? Why force yourself into a pair of Jimmy Choo just because it looks good in appearance but painful to walk with, after all you are going to throw it away (because it is classy enough for you to keep) and replace it with a Manolo Blahnik? Or is this the reason why girls have thousands of shoes in their shoe cabinet museum, regardless of it being outdated or broke? Are EXs really like a pair of shoes?
This situation actually happened to a straight friend of mine and now I have to say they are a happily married couple. Isn't this what we wishes for all our friends, no matter who she/he is with. Whichever the case, I do not dare to mention or ask about their friend.
No matter what, it should never be a case of "I told you so" when things do not work out, because how many true friends can we have? Instead, we should be there for him, because he was there for you, furthermore shouldn't you guys be closer now that you have a common EX now? Ironic.
Coming to terms with (hope this doesn't happen to) Me, (but willing to accept if it really happen to) Myself and (always there for my friends) I.
Singing in the rain to: 蔡健雅 孙燕姿 - 原点
别对我抱歉别总觉得对我亏欠,
现在谁在你的身边就对谁好一点.
我应该就走开就算感情还在,
我应该就放开对他不再依赖.
Translation: Start Point - "Do not apologise to be and feel that you owned me,
Cherish and treasure who you are with now,
I had already left, even though feelings still lingers,
I had already let go and no longer relied."
I specifically used the word "move on" and not "make a move on", in addition the word "Ex" and not "Partner". So we are not talking about betrayal of relationship, whereby your friend slept with boy whilst you are still attached. Instead what I am referring here could be known as the betrayal of friendship, or what the straight would refer as "wearing old shoes".
It is understandable that many take this as both a betrayal of friendship and relationship, because one could not help to wonder "Had these two been dating behind your back when you guys were still together?" If not, what is the reason to date my EX when there are so many fishes out there?
We understand that couples breakup because of indifference between them which they could not agree on, but what if someone near you is able to accept these qualities? Is it reasonable to announce to all your friends that "He's my ex, so back off and don't even have thoughts". Or is this a silenced known rule or code of ethics among all friends? Could this be consider as fair when there is a limited amount of "Right Enough" Guy out there, and when almost everyone knows everyone in this Hi-Bye circuit?
What may not be your qualities of a good boyfriend maybe the qualities of a good boyfriend of your friends. Why the sour grapes? However I got to say, we could be 'gracious' enough to bless them, but would we feel awkward during gatherings together? How should we behave in these gatherings? Maybe this is the reason why we wishes for them not to be together?
Or do we feel sour inside because something inside us is not willing to let go and wishes at either one of us could change to accept the indifference we used to have, after all he is a good catch.
I could not understand this, when the Straights refer EXs as old shoes, then why mess up a true friendship because of a pair of shoes that doesn't fit you but fits your friend perfectly? Why force yourself into a pair of Jimmy Choo just because it looks good in appearance but painful to walk with, after all you are going to throw it away (because it is classy enough for you to keep) and replace it with a Manolo Blahnik? Or is this the reason why girls have thousands of shoes in their shoe cabinet museum, regardless of it being outdated or broke? Are EXs really like a pair of shoes?
This situation actually happened to a straight friend of mine and now I have to say they are a happily married couple. Isn't this what we wishes for all our friends, no matter who she/he is with. Whichever the case, I do not dare to mention or ask about their friend.
No matter what, it should never be a case of "I told you so" when things do not work out, because how many true friends can we have? Instead, we should be there for him, because he was there for you, furthermore shouldn't you guys be closer now that you have a common EX now? Ironic.
Coming to terms with (hope this doesn't happen to) Me, (but willing to accept if it really happen to) Myself and (always there for my friends) I.
Singing in the rain to: 蔡健雅 孙燕姿 - 原点
别对我抱歉别总觉得对我亏欠,
现在谁在你的身边就对谁好一点.
我应该就走开就算感情还在,
我应该就放开对他不再依赖.
Translation: Start Point - "Do not apologise to be and feel that you owned me,
Cherish and treasure who you are with now,
I had already left, even though feelings still lingers,
I had already let go and no longer relied."
Thursday, February 15, 2007
(Surround Sound 4) Curse of the Golden Flower :: 满城尽带黄金甲 ::
Actors: Chow Yun-Fat, Gong Li, Liu Ye, Chen Jin & Jay Chou
Synopsis: A period high drama that concerns the volatile balance of power between the King and the Queen and his three sons, which entails betrayal, deceit and passion--pitting the King against Queen and father against sons.
My Comments (3/5): Zhang Yimou did it again with his color choreographic direction, but much lesser to my disappointment compared to his 2004 (Rating: 5/5) Movie "Hero" [英雄], with color symbology with Red {imagination},Green {enlightenment/peace}, Blue {perceived reality}, White (truth) and Black {vengeance}.
You know what is expected next from each scene of the show 满城尽带黄金甲, and Jay performance was a let down for a movie making it into Hollywood. However, it was still well taken thanks to the director and actors Gong Li and Chow Yun-Fat.
Trailer:
Songs From the Movie 满城尽带黄金甲:
Songs from the movie 英雄:
Synopsis: A period high drama that concerns the volatile balance of power between the King and the Queen and his three sons, which entails betrayal, deceit and passion--pitting the King against Queen and father against sons.
My Comments (3/5): Zhang Yimou did it again with his color choreographic direction, but much lesser to my disappointment compared to his 2004 (Rating: 5/5) Movie "Hero" [英雄], with color symbology with Red {imagination},Green {enlightenment/peace}, Blue {perceived reality}, White (truth) and Black {vengeance}.
You know what is expected next from each scene of the show 满城尽带黄金甲, and Jay performance was a let down for a movie making it into Hollywood. However, it was still well taken thanks to the director and actors Gong Li and Chow Yun-Fat.
Trailer:
Songs From the Movie 满城尽带黄金甲:
Songs from the movie 英雄:
Wednesday, February 14, 2007
(Issue 14) Valentines Day
Quote from my song of the day (Someone to Call My Lover)-
"Back on the road again. Feeling kinda lonely. And looking for the right guy. To be mine. Friends say I'm crazy cause. Easily I fall in love. You gotta do it different... I'll take my friends' advice this time."
"But he's gotta have the qualities. That I like in a man. Strong, smart, affectionate. He's gotta be all for me. And I'll be too"
"I spoil them when I'm in love. Given them what they dream of. Sometimes it's not a good thing."
If you had not heard of this song and read the lyrics above, you might thing that it is a rather sad song. However, it is not, my mood today is actually as upbeat as this song. This is a great example on how differently you can look at things. You can either choose to curse and swear the day because you are single, or look that the brighter side. I got off my seat today specially to reward and pamper myself, making myself feel great and absolutely fabulous all over again, ready to be back on the road again. I guess if he is not looking for me, then I will have to pick up the pace and look for him instead.
Come to think about it,like what the song mentioned, I should also do things a different way, instead continuing to have all my relations starting from clubs. But where ever he may be, he must still have the minimum qualities, which is loving me.
I delicate this day to:
-EXs for all the great times we had and good memories you left.
-Guys I had been seeing (although things didn't work out we wished it could), you guys are still beyond great with fabulous qualities, and you know that you do have a special place in my heart.
-Friends who had been there for me when I am down and lonely, you guys are the BEST.
-My next "Mr RIght Guy", although I may not had found or confirmed you (regardless of whether you had already appeared in my life or not), I know you will are there are will be always be there for me to make things happen for us.
-Last but not least, to everyone who gave me more confidence to carry on by dropping kind compliments, a Big Thank You and Hugs for you guys.
Coming to terms with (the Happy) Me, (Enjoy every bit of the day) Myself and (will be waiting for you) I.
Singing in the rain to: Janet Jackson - Someone to Call my Lover
"Back on the road again. Feeling kinda lonely. And looking for the right guy. To be mine. Friends say I'm crazy cause. Easily I fall in love. You gotta do it different... I'll take my friends' advice this time."
"But he's gotta have the qualities. That I like in a man. Strong, smart, affectionate. He's gotta be all for me. And I'll be too"
"I spoil them when I'm in love. Given them what they dream of. Sometimes it's not a good thing."
If you had not heard of this song and read the lyrics above, you might thing that it is a rather sad song. However, it is not, my mood today is actually as upbeat as this song. This is a great example on how differently you can look at things. You can either choose to curse and swear the day because you are single, or look that the brighter side. I got off my seat today specially to reward and pamper myself, making myself feel great and absolutely fabulous all over again, ready to be back on the road again. I guess if he is not looking for me, then I will have to pick up the pace and look for him instead.
Come to think about it,like what the song mentioned, I should also do things a different way, instead continuing to have all my relations starting from clubs. But where ever he may be, he must still have the minimum qualities, which is loving me.
I delicate this day to:
-EXs for all the great times we had and good memories you left.
-Guys I had been seeing (although things didn't work out we wished it could), you guys are still beyond great with fabulous qualities, and you know that you do have a special place in my heart.
-Friends who had been there for me when I am down and lonely, you guys are the BEST.
-My next "Mr RIght Guy", although I may not had found or confirmed you (regardless of whether you had already appeared in my life or not), I know you will are there are will be always be there for me to make things happen for us.
-Last but not least, to everyone who gave me more confidence to carry on by dropping kind compliments, a Big Thank You and Hugs for you guys.
Coming to terms with (the Happy) Me, (Enjoy every bit of the day) Myself and (will be waiting for you) I.
Singing in the rain to: Janet Jackson - Someone to Call my Lover
Tuesday, February 13, 2007
(Booty Shaking 5) Victoria's Secret Fashion Show 2006
Beening the most Luxurious Lingerie Line for years, Victoria's Secret had put put another glamourous show for 2006 (my advise is for you to download the entire video elsewhere for fuller clips).
This year Gisele Bundchen and Heidi Klum are joined by Adriana Lima, Karolina Kurkova, Alessandra Ambrosio, Selita Ebanks, Izabel Goulart and Miranda Kerr, together with performance by Justin Timberlake "Sexy Back", performing at The Kodak Theater in Los Angeles.
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Part3:
Monday, February 12, 2007
(Issue 13) Bath-houses
I do believe that 99% of us here regard bath houses as a cheap and sleazy place whereby everyone in there is looking for multiple ONS without any strings attached, and after read forums after forums on these places there is no reason doubting why it is so. Nevertheless, I have to admit I am was member of a certain bath house years back. My first visit was done out of curiosity, however all my later visits, were to go there after a tired day to enjoy the facilities.
After being there for several visits and hearing PLUs experiences in bath houses, I seriously understand why almost everyone find it hard to believe my last statement. However I still remain guilt free, as I have my conscious to vow for me and a few friends, whom I brought them in due to references issue. My stand is that it is easier to reject than to regret for your actions later, as what is done cannot be undone. If you genuinely are looking for sex, I would never recommend a bath house as you never know how safe it is.
Although they provide condoms for safe sex, but you never know if anyone had meddled with them. And even if you used your own, what about the lubricant, it could also be easily tampered with (hearsay- some throw used condoms inside the dispensers) and how clean are their beds from spreading disease. I do avoid bringing friends into these places when I know that they are unable to withstand temptation. And for friends who are sensible enough, I will still "offer" them a lecture before I referred them in. My simples rules are, I will only tour you in the public areas, therefore if you want to explore further into the dark rooms, you are on their own and should be responsible for your own actions.
I had actually stopped my visits (for the hot pools, whirlpools, saunas and a simple cup of coffee after relaxation, which can be easily found in gyms now) for more than a year, as these bath houses had already became a meeting place for sex.
Very often we spoil things for ourselves by being vociferous and flamboyant, drawing negative publicity and unwanted attention, therefore I do agree why it begins to draw a negative image. And with the present themes of Full Moon Parties, Speedos/Underwears nights, it has become an inappropriate encouragement to multiple ONS and negative publicity.
Coming to terms with (disappointed) Me, (can't help but to agree with the general public) Myself and (rather reject than regret) I.
This Song os abit to sensual to what I am feeling, but hey we shouldn't let a nice song go by, especially with a hot video: Prince - Cream
You got the horn, so why don't you blow it (Go on and blow it).
You're so fine (U're so fine)You're filthy cute and baby. You know it (U know it)
Cream, Get on top. Cream, You will cop. Cream, Don't u stop. Cream, Sh-boogie bop.
After being there for several visits and hearing PLUs experiences in bath houses, I seriously understand why almost everyone find it hard to believe my last statement. However I still remain guilt free, as I have my conscious to vow for me and a few friends, whom I brought them in due to references issue. My stand is that it is easier to reject than to regret for your actions later, as what is done cannot be undone. If you genuinely are looking for sex, I would never recommend a bath house as you never know how safe it is.
Although they provide condoms for safe sex, but you never know if anyone had meddled with them. And even if you used your own, what about the lubricant, it could also be easily tampered with (hearsay- some throw used condoms inside the dispensers) and how clean are their beds from spreading disease. I do avoid bringing friends into these places when I know that they are unable to withstand temptation. And for friends who are sensible enough, I will still "offer" them a lecture before I referred them in. My simples rules are, I will only tour you in the public areas, therefore if you want to explore further into the dark rooms, you are on their own and should be responsible for your own actions.
I had actually stopped my visits (for the hot pools, whirlpools, saunas and a simple cup of coffee after relaxation, which can be easily found in gyms now) for more than a year, as these bath houses had already became a meeting place for sex.
Very often we spoil things for ourselves by being vociferous and flamboyant, drawing negative publicity and unwanted attention, therefore I do agree why it begins to draw a negative image. And with the present themes of Full Moon Parties, Speedos/Underwears nights, it has become an inappropriate encouragement to multiple ONS and negative publicity.
Coming to terms with (disappointed) Me, (can't help but to agree with the general public) Myself and (rather reject than regret) I.
This Song os abit to sensual to what I am feeling, but hey we shouldn't let a nice song go by, especially with a hot video: Prince - Cream
You got the horn, so why don't you blow it (Go on and blow it).
You're so fine (U're so fine)You're filthy cute and baby. You know it (U know it)
Cream, Get on top. Cream, You will cop. Cream, Don't u stop. Cream, Sh-boogie bop.
Sunday, February 11, 2007
(Love Tales 1) Part 3 Falling In Love
Exclaimer: I am not the writer to this exciting story. But I am proud to introduce a Beautiful Mind and Soul, Convan. Thanks for allowing me to re-post this article on my blog.
Written and Publish on Sep 16 2005, 11:47 PM
JD walked through the corridor to his cubicle with his sleepy eyes, stealing a quick glance at Kai's cubicle when he passed by. Kai was not in his cubicle, JD thought to himself, "the ride home last night was fantastic. We talked so much, about sports, about each other, about ambitions and about Robbie." Kai seemed to have a lot of good things to say about Robbie which JD found it bewildering. Still, the ride home had enabled JD to know Kai on a much deeper level and he felt his infatuation with Kai grew strongly and JD laughed at himself for being a love struck teenager. JD has always been a hot choice among the clubbers in Happy, he is out and proud in varsity and his classmates accepted and loved him for who he is, whether it is due to his intelligence or good looks. But here, he is falling head over heels over a 'straight as a rod' Kai.
JD was working though his files when Robbie came over and said in a monotone, "Pretty boy, mummy said you are to accompany me to visit this prospect later. Sleep your way up or crawl under the table, do whatever you can, charm the guy and the account is yours." JD looked puzzled, "Mummy? Who's mummy? Sleep with who? Why do I need to crawl?" Robbie rolled his eyes, put his hands in the sky and squealed," What are you? Don't try to act demure with me! Pauline wanted me to pass you this account to work on and you better clean your ass and get ready before 3pm. And I am not asking you to sleep but to do ala Monica Lewinsky, blondie!" Robbie was about to storm away when he turned back to stare at JD and quipped, "Don't be a virgin, Madonna! I can see through you! I know you don't go for skirts so don't try to pretend you are above me! FYI, I don?t stay downstairs always! I go upstairs once a while too!"
JD's mouth open wide, he did not know what to say or how to react to Robbie's behaviour and just allowed Robbie to turn his back and walk back to his cubicle. The appointment with the prospect was a chore to JD, he didn't have a single opportunity to talk to the prospect as Robbie was handling the conversation throughout but JD did realized a huge difference in Robbie in front of the prospect. Robbie was professional throughout and never at a single moment allowed his inner Cher/Midler's attitude came crushing out. Robbie looked so different when he is handling clients and that earned JD's respect. When they finally left the prospect's office after presenting for 2 hours, Robbie resumed his bitchy ways and said to JD without looking at him, "Pretty boy, you will take over this account from now on. He is all yours." JD felt his anger rising within him and shouted back, "Don't keep calling me pretty boy, I have a name and it is JD. If you think you are doing charity by giving me this account, take it back! I don't need it!"
Robbie stopped in his tracks, looked at JD with his big round eyes and laughed, "That's my girl! Show some spunk! That's the right attitude. We sisters shouldn't hide anything from each other. I know you are one of us the very first time you walked in. But I just can't stand the way you pretend you are so above me!" "What are you talking about? What sister? I am not your sister! And I am serious about you not calling me pretty boy anymore!" JD argued. "All right. All right! I know already. Quick, there's a cab! Come fast, sister JD!" Robbie retorted. When both of them reached office, Robbie passed the file to JD and said, "Work out the details tonight and email the client first thing tomorrow morning. Do a good job, JD." JD thought to himself, "Not again! I will have to work late again tonight!"
"Knock knock. Suppertime!" Kai's chirpy voice in the quiet office caused JD to jump. Looking at JD's reaction, Kai can't help but laughed, "What's wrong? You are so timid! Did something guilty?" JD threw Kai's a disgusted look and saw the time, 10pm! "What are you doing in the office at this hour? I did not see you the whole day." Kai flirted, "I was out meeting the whole day and specially came back with supper for you as I heard you are working late. So missed me?"
Exclaimer: I am not the writer to this exciting story. But I am proud to introduce a Beautiful Mind and Soul, Convan. Thanks for allowing me to re-post this article on my blog.
Written and Publish on Sep 16 2005, 11:47 PM
JD walked through the corridor to his cubicle with his sleepy eyes, stealing a quick glance at Kai's cubicle when he passed by. Kai was not in his cubicle, JD thought to himself, "the ride home last night was fantastic. We talked so much, about sports, about each other, about ambitions and about Robbie." Kai seemed to have a lot of good things to say about Robbie which JD found it bewildering. Still, the ride home had enabled JD to know Kai on a much deeper level and he felt his infatuation with Kai grew strongly and JD laughed at himself for being a love struck teenager. JD has always been a hot choice among the clubbers in Happy, he is out and proud in varsity and his classmates accepted and loved him for who he is, whether it is due to his intelligence or good looks. But here, he is falling head over heels over a 'straight as a rod' Kai.
JD was working though his files when Robbie came over and said in a monotone, "Pretty boy, mummy said you are to accompany me to visit this prospect later. Sleep your way up or crawl under the table, do whatever you can, charm the guy and the account is yours." JD looked puzzled, "Mummy? Who's mummy? Sleep with who? Why do I need to crawl?" Robbie rolled his eyes, put his hands in the sky and squealed," What are you? Don't try to act demure with me! Pauline wanted me to pass you this account to work on and you better clean your ass and get ready before 3pm. And I am not asking you to sleep but to do ala Monica Lewinsky, blondie!" Robbie was about to storm away when he turned back to stare at JD and quipped, "Don't be a virgin, Madonna! I can see through you! I know you don't go for skirts so don't try to pretend you are above me! FYI, I don?t stay downstairs always! I go upstairs once a while too!"
JD's mouth open wide, he did not know what to say or how to react to Robbie's behaviour and just allowed Robbie to turn his back and walk back to his cubicle. The appointment with the prospect was a chore to JD, he didn't have a single opportunity to talk to the prospect as Robbie was handling the conversation throughout but JD did realized a huge difference in Robbie in front of the prospect. Robbie was professional throughout and never at a single moment allowed his inner Cher/Midler's attitude came crushing out. Robbie looked so different when he is handling clients and that earned JD's respect. When they finally left the prospect's office after presenting for 2 hours, Robbie resumed his bitchy ways and said to JD without looking at him, "Pretty boy, you will take over this account from now on. He is all yours." JD felt his anger rising within him and shouted back, "Don't keep calling me pretty boy, I have a name and it is JD. If you think you are doing charity by giving me this account, take it back! I don't need it!"
Robbie stopped in his tracks, looked at JD with his big round eyes and laughed, "That's my girl! Show some spunk! That's the right attitude. We sisters shouldn't hide anything from each other. I know you are one of us the very first time you walked in. But I just can't stand the way you pretend you are so above me!" "What are you talking about? What sister? I am not your sister! And I am serious about you not calling me pretty boy anymore!" JD argued. "All right. All right! I know already. Quick, there's a cab! Come fast, sister JD!" Robbie retorted. When both of them reached office, Robbie passed the file to JD and said, "Work out the details tonight and email the client first thing tomorrow morning. Do a good job, JD." JD thought to himself, "Not again! I will have to work late again tonight!"
"Knock knock. Suppertime!" Kai's chirpy voice in the quiet office caused JD to jump. Looking at JD's reaction, Kai can't help but laughed, "What's wrong? You are so timid! Did something guilty?" JD threw Kai's a disgusted look and saw the time, 10pm! "What are you doing in the office at this hour? I did not see you the whole day." Kai flirted, "I was out meeting the whole day and specially came back with supper for you as I heard you are working late. So missed me?"
Exclaimer: I am not the writer to this exciting story. But I am proud to introduce a Beautiful Mind and Soul, Convan. Thanks for allowing me to re-post this article on my blog.
Saturday, February 10, 2007
(Issue 12) Clubs
Sunday Nights, it used to be my weekly routine to make a trip down to enjoy the music and drinks. Sometimes I wondered was it purely for the drinks and music or was it a loneliness I have, or could it be that I love the attention? Whatever the case is, I do make occasional self visits to these places just to let out, rewarding myself after a week of Hard work. We got to learn to play hard and work hard at the same time. I do not make good money, however I am not stingy when it comes to enjoyment. Do I miss it? Yes, I do, as life couldn't be much more boring here.
From what I remembered clubbers are classified into certain categories: There are the (a) Singles looking for True Love, (b) Singles/Attached/Couples looking for another guy to have fun with no strings attached, (c) People celebrating an event, (d) there are also those who are there just to show the world they are still alive and (e) there are also people who wishes to bump into someone they like, and was last seen there.
(a) are we able to find true love there? If you are looking for a goody shoes, maybe you are at the wrong place (I do know that some of them still exist), but if you are looking for someone who has the same interest in clubbing maybe yes. I used the word "maybe" because sometimes that person is too high (aka drunk) to think straight when he was with you, therefore will he feel the same for you when he becomes sober? And (Haa) sometimes clubs do not provide the best lighting, thou its true that looks is not important but nevertheless it do play some part in life. He may turn out better looking than you thought and that is when insecurity comes into a relationship for some. With so many people in category (b) how sure are you that he didn't sweet talk you, so to get into your pants and get your heart breaking after a day or two?
(b) do I need to say more? Just practice Safe sex, as we never know how casual one is and how frequent he has been doing this. Yes, Play hard but Play Smart.
(c) these are when we get to meet the occasional goody shoes.
(d) do I belong to this category, hope not...but my "self visits" make me think otherwise. Whatever said and done, I do remember someone telling me," when you disappear from this scene for quite sometime, everyone seems to forget about your existence". But I asked myself," Am i looking for the title circuit boy, club bitch or whatsoever nick acquaintances are giving me?". Definitely not. Up till now I do not know what nicks I had in these clubs," attention seeker", "loner", "stuck-up bitch" or "cute guy over there" (haa), I do hope it is the latter, but after sometime, it comes to me that it is no longer important what nick I have. What is important is that I got my money worth.
(e) I do belong to this group sometimes. Looking for the guy, I didn't dare to approach last week and kick myself in the arse for the entire week. But it is when I bump onto him again, the same un-courageous me is back. So what is the point? Just to have a dream and occasional fantasy? Again I feel sorry for myself that night, because it seems that the money wasn't well spend and I have kick my arse again. Haa.
Thinking back, I do regard myself as a stuck-up bitch, giving a few "not interest lines", and rather dance to the music or enjoy my Cosmo (note: when I am having a cosmo, you should back off, but when I am having my Long Island, come on baby, haa). Hey forgive me if you came at the wrong timing but that is me especially when I think that we are not compatible for one another. It is just my way of saying, "hey let us not waste time, and the good thing is that neither one of us will have to go through that shitty breakup thing".
Then there are the club queues. Do I envy people on the guest list? I don't actually, as long as the queue is alright, I might use a little connection only when I don't feel like queuing (haa). Queuing is the time I get to cruise in bright lights, and not disco mirror ball lights (haa, slut right?) I guess some of us like the occasional attention, and I am one of them, honest truth.
I don't kiss around but I have to agree with someone who told me this seconds ago, "A kiss is nothing in clubs". I guess we have to agree in this superficial world huh?
Coming to terms with (attention seeking) Me, (likes to enjoy Cosmo by) Myself and (music loving) I.
(You do not want to disturb me when the DJ is playing this particular song, because it rare and close to extinction).
Singing in the rain to: Narcotic Thrust - I Like It
I long to be connected, I long to be affected
the bright lights beckon me, beckon me to you
I like it when we go to extremes
I like it when you enter my dreams
I like it when i feel your touch
I like it.. I like it so much
I like it when we're one on one
I like it when we come undone
I like it when we go to extremes
you let me, let me live my dreams
From what I remembered clubbers are classified into certain categories: There are the (a) Singles looking for True Love, (b) Singles/Attached/Couples looking for another guy to have fun with no strings attached, (c) People celebrating an event, (d) there are also those who are there just to show the world they are still alive and (e) there are also people who wishes to bump into someone they like, and was last seen there.
(a) are we able to find true love there? If you are looking for a goody shoes, maybe you are at the wrong place (I do know that some of them still exist), but if you are looking for someone who has the same interest in clubbing maybe yes. I used the word "maybe" because sometimes that person is too high (aka drunk) to think straight when he was with you, therefore will he feel the same for you when he becomes sober? And (Haa) sometimes clubs do not provide the best lighting, thou its true that looks is not important but nevertheless it do play some part in life. He may turn out better looking than you thought and that is when insecurity comes into a relationship for some. With so many people in category (b) how sure are you that he didn't sweet talk you, so to get into your pants and get your heart breaking after a day or two?
(b) do I need to say more? Just practice Safe sex, as we never know how casual one is and how frequent he has been doing this. Yes, Play hard but Play Smart.
(c) these are when we get to meet the occasional goody shoes.
(d) do I belong to this category, hope not...but my "self visits" make me think otherwise. Whatever said and done, I do remember someone telling me," when you disappear from this scene for quite sometime, everyone seems to forget about your existence". But I asked myself," Am i looking for the title circuit boy, club bitch or whatsoever nick acquaintances are giving me?". Definitely not. Up till now I do not know what nicks I had in these clubs," attention seeker", "loner", "stuck-up bitch" or "cute guy over there" (haa), I do hope it is the latter, but after sometime, it comes to me that it is no longer important what nick I have. What is important is that I got my money worth.
(e) I do belong to this group sometimes. Looking for the guy, I didn't dare to approach last week and kick myself in the arse for the entire week. But it is when I bump onto him again, the same un-courageous me is back. So what is the point? Just to have a dream and occasional fantasy? Again I feel sorry for myself that night, because it seems that the money wasn't well spend and I have kick my arse again. Haa.
Thinking back, I do regard myself as a stuck-up bitch, giving a few "not interest lines", and rather dance to the music or enjoy my Cosmo (note: when I am having a cosmo, you should back off, but when I am having my Long Island, come on baby, haa). Hey forgive me if you came at the wrong timing but that is me especially when I think that we are not compatible for one another. It is just my way of saying, "hey let us not waste time, and the good thing is that neither one of us will have to go through that shitty breakup thing".
Then there are the club queues. Do I envy people on the guest list? I don't actually, as long as the queue is alright, I might use a little connection only when I don't feel like queuing (haa). Queuing is the time I get to cruise in bright lights, and not disco mirror ball lights (haa, slut right?) I guess some of us like the occasional attention, and I am one of them, honest truth.
I don't kiss around but I have to agree with someone who told me this seconds ago, "A kiss is nothing in clubs". I guess we have to agree in this superficial world huh?
Coming to terms with (attention seeking) Me, (likes to enjoy Cosmo by) Myself and (music loving) I.
(You do not want to disturb me when the DJ is playing this particular song, because it rare and close to extinction).
Singing in the rain to: Narcotic Thrust - I Like It
I long to be connected, I long to be affected
the bright lights beckon me, beckon me to you
I like it when we go to extremes
I like it when you enter my dreams
I like it when i feel your touch
I like it.. I like it so much
I like it when we're one on one
I like it when we come undone
I like it when we go to extremes
you let me, let me live my dreams
Friday, February 09, 2007
(Surround Sound 3) The Devil Wears Prada
Actors: Meryl Streep, Anne Hathaway, Emily Blunt & Stanley Tucci
Synopsis: A naive young woman comes to New York and scores a job as the assistant to one of the city's biggest magazine editors, the ruthless and cynical Miranda Priestly.
My Comments (5/5): Base on a true story on Vogue editor, this film inspired the series "Ugly Betty", and a soon to come a Steven Spielberg movie and drama of the "World of High Fashion" starring supermodel Christy Turlington, on based twentysomething friends who work behind the scenes of the industry.
This movie shows the insides of a High Fashion Magazine, which I believed was inspired by 1994 (another 5/5 rating) Fashion Documentary Movie Prêt-à-Porter (Ready-to-Wear) starred various Designers, Models & many Well-Knowns. A clever touch to the influences of fashion. Thumbs up.
Trailer:
Song From the Movie Prêt-à-Porter: Ini Kamoze - Here Comes The Hotstepper
The original video was too 'intense' and was removed
Song From the Movie The Devil Wears Prada:
Madonna - Vogue, Bitter Sweet-Bittersweet Faith, Moby - Beautiful, Jamiroquai - Seven Days in Sunny June, Dj Colette - Feelin Hypnotized, Mocean Worker - Tres Tres Chic, David Morales with Tamra Keenan - Here I Am & Theodore Shapiro - Suite.
Song From Trailer in not featured in their OST: Madonna - Jump (video feat shots of Fashion Capital, Tokyo)
Synopsis: A naive young woman comes to New York and scores a job as the assistant to one of the city's biggest magazine editors, the ruthless and cynical Miranda Priestly.
My Comments (5/5): Base on a true story on Vogue editor, this film inspired the series "Ugly Betty", and a soon to come a Steven Spielberg movie and drama of the "World of High Fashion" starring supermodel Christy Turlington, on based twentysomething friends who work behind the scenes of the industry.
This movie shows the insides of a High Fashion Magazine, which I believed was inspired by 1994 (another 5/5 rating) Fashion Documentary Movie Prêt-à-Porter (Ready-to-Wear) starred various Designers, Models & many Well-Knowns. A clever touch to the influences of fashion. Thumbs up.
Trailer:
Song From the Movie Prêt-à-Porter: Ini Kamoze - Here Comes The Hotstepper
The original video was too 'intense' and was removed
Song From the Movie The Devil Wears Prada:
Madonna - Vogue, Bitter Sweet-Bittersweet Faith, Moby - Beautiful, Jamiroquai - Seven Days in Sunny June, Dj Colette - Feelin Hypnotized, Mocean Worker - Tres Tres Chic, David Morales with Tamra Keenan - Here I Am & Theodore Shapiro - Suite.
Song From Trailer in not featured in their OST: Madonna - Jump (video feat shots of Fashion Capital, Tokyo)
Thursday, February 08, 2007
(Issue 11) Healing Process
The cause of a breakup is normally because both parties felt that they are not right for one another (and could live a better life without one another), but why do we still feel lonely at night, instead of being happy that the "unpleasant" relation has passed? What's more is that we even wishes to pick him from your dreams/nonsensical thoughts and hug him tight, for one last time, but we know this one last time never ends.
Why is so we chooses to see sad movies/songs or go to old hangouts just to remind us about the relationship we used have, and sometimes even make ourselves drunk the past the day by. Didn't we want to move on and let life be back to normal stage again, working and staying focus again on the immediate necessities of life.
And there are those breakups without an explanations, we spend every moment figuring out why things happened the way it is, and most of the times we even end up blaming ourselves, then putting the blame on him and right back to ourselves. But remember we didn't let ourselves down because we did loved with him with our true heart, and in front is a new path for us to bash and conquer again.
Does it mean that we miss our EXs (and could not let them go) when we mention about to our Present Boyfriend? Maybe because we want our present to relate to what we like and dislike in a relationship we had? I guess it is okay to mentioned if he asked, and not let it be everyday topic, as long as you are not comparing him with your present (love should never be compared). After all, everyone has a past and as long as we know how to treasure the present, then it should be fine. I believe that even your present also wishes to leave a footprint in your heart, and have you smile when ever you think of him.
Another thing is that, should we plot revenge or be sour grapes when we see our EXs moved on? There are no right or wrongs, but for me (not trying to sound like Mr. Perfect or Mr. Nice Guy) I actually feel glad for him and that is even more a better reason for me to move on. After all I wish for him to the same for me when I moved on too.
Sometimes we have to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one, when we finally meet the right person, we will be grateful and thankful. Let us work together and search for the new and remember the good times we had in the past instead of dwelling, see, life should never come into a standstill, ever.
Coming to terms with (past EXs and) Me, (present) Myself and (future) I (and the right guy, of course).
Singing in the rain to: 孙燕姿 - 眼泪成诗
分手伤了谁, 谁把他变美, 我的眼泪写成了诗已无所谓.
让你再回味, 字不醉人人自醉, 因为回忆总是美.
Translation: Poem Of Tears - "who was hurt? what changed the flavor of love? my tears has already been written into a poem.
i'll give you a chance to taste it again, words can't liquored up a man however man chooses to intoxicate, all because memory is always beautiful"
This is a beautiful song, and the meaning of each chinese character is so deep and meaningful, sometimes it is too hard to translate.
Why is so we chooses to see sad movies/songs or go to old hangouts just to remind us about the relationship we used have, and sometimes even make ourselves drunk the past the day by. Didn't we want to move on and let life be back to normal stage again, working and staying focus again on the immediate necessities of life.
And there are those breakups without an explanations, we spend every moment figuring out why things happened the way it is, and most of the times we even end up blaming ourselves, then putting the blame on him and right back to ourselves. But remember we didn't let ourselves down because we did loved with him with our true heart, and in front is a new path for us to bash and conquer again.
Does it mean that we miss our EXs (and could not let them go) when we mention about to our Present Boyfriend? Maybe because we want our present to relate to what we like and dislike in a relationship we had? I guess it is okay to mentioned if he asked, and not let it be everyday topic, as long as you are not comparing him with your present (love should never be compared). After all, everyone has a past and as long as we know how to treasure the present, then it should be fine. I believe that even your present also wishes to leave a footprint in your heart, and have you smile when ever you think of him.
Another thing is that, should we plot revenge or be sour grapes when we see our EXs moved on? There are no right or wrongs, but for me (not trying to sound like Mr. Perfect or Mr. Nice Guy) I actually feel glad for him and that is even more a better reason for me to move on. After all I wish for him to the same for me when I moved on too.
Sometimes we have to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one, when we finally meet the right person, we will be grateful and thankful. Let us work together and search for the new and remember the good times we had in the past instead of dwelling, see, life should never come into a standstill, ever.
Coming to terms with (past EXs and) Me, (present) Myself and (future) I (and the right guy, of course).
Singing in the rain to: 孙燕姿 - 眼泪成诗
分手伤了谁, 谁把他变美, 我的眼泪写成了诗已无所谓.
让你再回味, 字不醉人人自醉, 因为回忆总是美.
Translation: Poem Of Tears - "who was hurt? what changed the flavor of love? my tears has already been written into a poem.
i'll give you a chance to taste it again, words can't liquored up a man however man chooses to intoxicate, all because memory is always beautiful"
This is a beautiful song, and the meaning of each chinese character is so deep and meaningful, sometimes it is too hard to translate.
Wednesday, February 07, 2007
(Booty Shaking 4) Project Runway Season Two Designs
Project Runway Designers showing their work in New York Fashion Week. Hosted by Victoria Secret Supermodel Heidi Klum. Judged by American Designer Michael Kors, Fashion Director at ELLE Nina Garcia & Actress Debra Messing of "Will & Grace".
Winner Chloe Dao, Daniel Vosovic (2nd Place) & Santino Rice (3rd Place) Collection
Chloe Dao had her own store known as Lot8, at Houston, Texas.
Winner Chloe Dao, Daniel Vosovic (2nd Place) & Santino Rice (3rd Place) Collection
Chloe Dao had her own store known as Lot8, at Houston, Texas.
Tuesday, February 06, 2007
(Issue 10) Timing
Sometimes you start somethings with the best of intentions and you actually believe you are doing the right thing, and you could never imagine it could become what it became. That it would spiral into something so horrible, and irreversible and damaging and you just could not go back and make it right.
Have you being swept off your feet but later been swept away for the mistake you make, which in turn makes you doubt every move you are about to make? I did and the worst move I make was to keep myself busy, just to avoid the confusion, which in turn distance the relation and dismiss any possibility there was left.
"Mistakes" vs "doing a right thing at a wrong moment". Look back at all the guys who came into your life, regardless of the minutes you had together, and think back why he is not with you now. Is there a higher possibility of being together for a longer period, if he came at a different phrase of your life?
I am not regretful of any of my decisions or actions, it was definitely the most right thing to do at that moment. I have to admit some of them were childish thinking back of what I did, however I only mature and grew from experience, without him I would still be my same old self. Everyone changes constantly from experiences, the things (books, movies, etc) we came across and the people we mixed around with.
To me, there isn't a perfect guy (just a right enough guy) out there, and at the right timing, things becomes perfect enough. My biological sister once asked me, is it right to go back to a guy whom you rejected his love several times in the past because, at that moment, he wasn't the right guy? And what if she,herself, had become the "wrong" girl for him now?
Life is about chances and making that move, but there are times when your heart/mind tells you that the timing isn't right for both of you. Should you take a step back and wait for the right timing? And what if, I say what if, the right timing comes, do you have the courage to make the move and maybe the feeling isn't there anymore? Can you ever define a right timing? How many times does chances come knocking on the door twice?
There is also friends, I am not blaming anyone (only because they are just opinions and ultimately I made the decision- in fact I thank you guys for listening), that gives you advise on what moves to make. Is it possible that your friends are right because they see a clearer picture than you (just because you were possibility blinded by love)? But we should never forget that they can't feel what you felt from him and how you feel for him. Make your own decision because it is your own life, although it is never wrong to get a second opinion.
Thinking about it now, you could always say, "wait two years when things get better", but how sure are you that two years later new things would not have come up in your life and you have to postpone for another two years? I guess time waits for no one and it is unfair to ask someone you think is right for you to wait. What should he do during this period of time? Is he allowed to date and fall for others? And if he fall for others, I should say, who is there to blame but yourself.
Is there a rule whereby "You are only allowed to be lovers once and never to look back"? Is this fair? He is only doing the right thing in his mind at that point of his life. Should he be condemn even when he had proved to learn from his "mistake" that cause the breakup. I have no further comments for this, as it depends on how hurtful was the breakup (was it a real mistake or was it something done at a wrong timing?). Sometimes we can remain as friends because of we are willing to forgive, but forgiving does not meant we forgot. [Once bitten, Twice Shy - And sometimes a leopard never changes its spots]
So back to the main topic, should we take the chance and make the move? Isn't life about taking chances, if so, should we not be worried about "timing"? Or should we let fate decide for us, but then again, doesn't every move you make, changes your fate?
Coming to terms with (the what if) Me, (contradicting) Myself and (hopefully) I (do get the right guy one day).
Singing in the rain to: 周杰伦 - 倒带
我受够了等待,你所谓的安排, 到底多久 多久才来.
你总是要我乖,慢慢计划将来, 我想依赖却你都不在.
Translation: Rewind - "I've had enough of waiting, Your so-called arrangement, At last when, When will it come?
You always want me to be obedient, Slowly planning out the future, I want to depend on you but yet you are not here"
Have you being swept off your feet but later been swept away for the mistake you make, which in turn makes you doubt every move you are about to make? I did and the worst move I make was to keep myself busy, just to avoid the confusion, which in turn distance the relation and dismiss any possibility there was left.
"Mistakes" vs "doing a right thing at a wrong moment". Look back at all the guys who came into your life, regardless of the minutes you had together, and think back why he is not with you now. Is there a higher possibility of being together for a longer period, if he came at a different phrase of your life?
I am not regretful of any of my decisions or actions, it was definitely the most right thing to do at that moment. I have to admit some of them were childish thinking back of what I did, however I only mature and grew from experience, without him I would still be my same old self. Everyone changes constantly from experiences, the things (books, movies, etc) we came across and the people we mixed around with.
To me, there isn't a perfect guy (just a right enough guy) out there, and at the right timing, things becomes perfect enough. My biological sister once asked me, is it right to go back to a guy whom you rejected his love several times in the past because, at that moment, he wasn't the right guy? And what if she,herself, had become the "wrong" girl for him now?
Life is about chances and making that move, but there are times when your heart/mind tells you that the timing isn't right for both of you. Should you take a step back and wait for the right timing? And what if, I say what if, the right timing comes, do you have the courage to make the move and maybe the feeling isn't there anymore? Can you ever define a right timing? How many times does chances come knocking on the door twice?
There is also friends, I am not blaming anyone (only because they are just opinions and ultimately I made the decision- in fact I thank you guys for listening), that gives you advise on what moves to make. Is it possible that your friends are right because they see a clearer picture than you (just because you were possibility blinded by love)? But we should never forget that they can't feel what you felt from him and how you feel for him. Make your own decision because it is your own life, although it is never wrong to get a second opinion.
Thinking about it now, you could always say, "wait two years when things get better", but how sure are you that two years later new things would not have come up in your life and you have to postpone for another two years? I guess time waits for no one and it is unfair to ask someone you think is right for you to wait. What should he do during this period of time? Is he allowed to date and fall for others? And if he fall for others, I should say, who is there to blame but yourself.
Is there a rule whereby "You are only allowed to be lovers once and never to look back"? Is this fair? He is only doing the right thing in his mind at that point of his life. Should he be condemn even when he had proved to learn from his "mistake" that cause the breakup. I have no further comments for this, as it depends on how hurtful was the breakup (was it a real mistake or was it something done at a wrong timing?). Sometimes we can remain as friends because of we are willing to forgive, but forgiving does not meant we forgot. [Once bitten, Twice Shy - And sometimes a leopard never changes its spots]
So back to the main topic, should we take the chance and make the move? Isn't life about taking chances, if so, should we not be worried about "timing"? Or should we let fate decide for us, but then again, doesn't every move you make, changes your fate?
Coming to terms with (the what if) Me, (contradicting) Myself and (hopefully) I (do get the right guy one day).
Singing in the rain to: 周杰伦 - 倒带
我受够了等待,你所谓的安排, 到底多久 多久才来.
你总是要我乖,慢慢计划将来, 我想依赖却你都不在.
Translation: Rewind - "I've had enough of waiting, Your so-called arrangement, At last when, When will it come?
You always want me to be obedient, Slowly planning out the future, I want to depend on you but yet you are not here"
Monday, February 05, 2007
(Love Tales 1) Part 2 Knowing Better
Exclaimer: I am not the writer to this exciting story. But I am proud to introduce a Beautiful Mind and Soul, Convan. Thanks for allowing me to re-post this article on my blog.
Written and Publish on Sep 13 2005, 09:32 PM
It was a hearty lunch and JD got to know his new colleagues much better over lunch. Robertson, who is the quietest among all, has been a permanent resident here for 4 years and is still looking out for the right one. Even though Robertson is a skin head, his well coordinated dress sense stood him out and dispel any misgivings that skin heads are sleazy. Robbie, though loud mouthed, is always the joker of the bunch, he loves being the centre of attention and always the first one to lead a bitching session among the ladies. The rest of the team, all ladies, are either married with no kids or divorced. They are all good lookers in their own rights and JD can?t help but feels that good looks really count in sales especially the highly competitive investment banking industry.
Looking at himself inside the Gents, JD was admiring his youthful good looks. He loves looking at himself, admiring his smooth youthful face, tanned healthy complexion, naturally born double eyelids (people kept second guessing that he surgically enhanced his eyelids), nicely built chest and pecs. He said to himself, "I am perfect, the dream guy of myself. Heehee." At that instant, Kai swung open the Gent's door and dashed to the urinals and within seconds, loud sounds of urine hitting the urinals greeted JD, JD was about to leave the Gents when Kai called out to him, "So JD, how's your day so far?" Feeling awkward to have to chat in the Gents, JD reluctantly replied, "It's been ok so far. Getting used to work life will be the main concern now." "This is your first job? You looked young, just graduated?" Kai was fidgeting with his zip while continued chatting, JD a well groomed gay who never understood the mentality of straight men chatting in the Gents and at the same time, adjusting their crotch, just like what Kai is doing now.
"Yup, I just graduated from NUS and I am already 25 this year." JD said with a slight annoyance, "Sometimes youthful looks could be a double edge sword. You are only 25! Still so young, my buddy! Lucky you, you could pass off as an army boy anytime. I am already 33 and no one ever guess my age wrongly. Hahaha!" joked Kai. JD showed a look of disbelief, "You are 33? Wow! You don't look anywhere near that! I would have guessed you are only slightly senior than me." "You have been checking me out, huh? Hahaha! I am used to that." Kai laughed, oblivious to the embarrassment he had caused JD.
It was about 8pm when JD felt his stomach growling and he looked up and saw the time. "My! It's already 8pm. My first day and I am already working so late and I have not had dinner yet." JD mumbled to himself. He got up and stretched himself when Kai?s voice startled him, "Working late? Have your dinner yet?" "No not yet. I am getting hungry, to be honest." JD smiled. "Well, let's go grab some bite at China Square." JD nodded and was about to go to his drawer to get his wallet when Kai grabbed his shoulders with his strong hands and said, "Don't bother. My treat. Come, let's go!" and quick as a flash, he held JD's hands and led him out of the cubicle, with JD's face fully blushed.
"So how do you find your new teammates?" quipped Kai. JD can't help but admire the Kai's good looks. His eyes darted away when Kai's gaze met his. "Hm..I guess they are ok. The ladies are more distanced. They don't really talk as for the guys, all I can say is Robbie definitely made the most impression." JD said. "Haha! Of course, Robbie. Who won't pay attention to that muscle man? But he really is a nice guy when you got to know him better. Notwithstanding, he is one of the top bankers from your team." Kai smiled. JD felt his liking for Kai deepened, not only because of his good looks but he never speaks ill of anyone though it is only the first day he knows Kai. But JD knew he is right about Kai. Both of them had such a good time chatting that neither finished their dinner and continued chatting back to office.
"Hey, you wanna hit a ride home?" Kai popped over to JD's cubicle and asked. "Oh! It's already 11pm! I don't want to trouble you." JD said. "Come, let's go. I send you home. It's late." Kai pulled JD up with his strong hands.
Exclaimer: I am not the writer to this exciting story. But I am proud to introduce a Beautiful Mind and Soul, Convan. Thanks for allowing me to re-post this article on my blog.
Written and Publish on Sep 13 2005, 09:32 PM
It was a hearty lunch and JD got to know his new colleagues much better over lunch. Robertson, who is the quietest among all, has been a permanent resident here for 4 years and is still looking out for the right one. Even though Robertson is a skin head, his well coordinated dress sense stood him out and dispel any misgivings that skin heads are sleazy. Robbie, though loud mouthed, is always the joker of the bunch, he loves being the centre of attention and always the first one to lead a bitching session among the ladies. The rest of the team, all ladies, are either married with no kids or divorced. They are all good lookers in their own rights and JD can?t help but feels that good looks really count in sales especially the highly competitive investment banking industry.
Looking at himself inside the Gents, JD was admiring his youthful good looks. He loves looking at himself, admiring his smooth youthful face, tanned healthy complexion, naturally born double eyelids (people kept second guessing that he surgically enhanced his eyelids), nicely built chest and pecs. He said to himself, "I am perfect, the dream guy of myself. Heehee." At that instant, Kai swung open the Gent's door and dashed to the urinals and within seconds, loud sounds of urine hitting the urinals greeted JD, JD was about to leave the Gents when Kai called out to him, "So JD, how's your day so far?" Feeling awkward to have to chat in the Gents, JD reluctantly replied, "It's been ok so far. Getting used to work life will be the main concern now." "This is your first job? You looked young, just graduated?" Kai was fidgeting with his zip while continued chatting, JD a well groomed gay who never understood the mentality of straight men chatting in the Gents and at the same time, adjusting their crotch, just like what Kai is doing now.
"Yup, I just graduated from NUS and I am already 25 this year." JD said with a slight annoyance, "Sometimes youthful looks could be a double edge sword. You are only 25! Still so young, my buddy! Lucky you, you could pass off as an army boy anytime. I am already 33 and no one ever guess my age wrongly. Hahaha!" joked Kai. JD showed a look of disbelief, "You are 33? Wow! You don't look anywhere near that! I would have guessed you are only slightly senior than me." "You have been checking me out, huh? Hahaha! I am used to that." Kai laughed, oblivious to the embarrassment he had caused JD.
It was about 8pm when JD felt his stomach growling and he looked up and saw the time. "My! It's already 8pm. My first day and I am already working so late and I have not had dinner yet." JD mumbled to himself. He got up and stretched himself when Kai?s voice startled him, "Working late? Have your dinner yet?" "No not yet. I am getting hungry, to be honest." JD smiled. "Well, let's go grab some bite at China Square." JD nodded and was about to go to his drawer to get his wallet when Kai grabbed his shoulders with his strong hands and said, "Don't bother. My treat. Come, let's go!" and quick as a flash, he held JD's hands and led him out of the cubicle, with JD's face fully blushed.
"So how do you find your new teammates?" quipped Kai. JD can't help but admire the Kai's good looks. His eyes darted away when Kai's gaze met his. "Hm..I guess they are ok. The ladies are more distanced. They don't really talk as for the guys, all I can say is Robbie definitely made the most impression." JD said. "Haha! Of course, Robbie. Who won't pay attention to that muscle man? But he really is a nice guy when you got to know him better. Notwithstanding, he is one of the top bankers from your team." Kai smiled. JD felt his liking for Kai deepened, not only because of his good looks but he never speaks ill of anyone though it is only the first day he knows Kai. But JD knew he is right about Kai. Both of them had such a good time chatting that neither finished their dinner and continued chatting back to office.
"Hey, you wanna hit a ride home?" Kai popped over to JD's cubicle and asked. "Oh! It's already 11pm! I don't want to trouble you." JD said. "Come, let's go. I send you home. It's late." Kai pulled JD up with his strong hands.
Exclaimer: I am not the writer to this exciting story. But I am proud to introduce a Beautiful Mind and Soul, Convan. Thanks for allowing me to re-post this article on my blog.
Sunday, February 04, 2007
(Issue 9) Conversational Questions
From one intense topic to an much lighter issue. Many asked me, what is there to say on first dates or blind dates, without looking desperate or not to mislead the other party (because after all it is not only how you dress[first impression] or eat [body language] that matters).
Normally I will lay down some ground rules as advises, "no EXs (or relationships topics)" and preferably no "Sexual related" topics unless you are trying to get it. And the worst reply I got is, "Then what else is left to say?".
For crying out loud, there is always Food, Leisure and Work to talk about, ain't these the basic things at least a third of our life? OKay, Let me drop some conversational questions.
1. "Have you been to any concerts, plays, movies, good restaurants, etc. lately?" Give him three choices to talk about, so the answer will not be a highly possible "NO". If the answer is "Yes", do not change the topic, make him feel comfortable, ask him about it or ask for recommendations. Remember to make it two ways and tell him about yours.
2. "What do you do on Sundays?" or "What do you like to do in your free time?". Take note of the answer, as it could be your excuse when you want to ask for a second date.
3. "What kind of food do you like?", "What's your favorite food?" or/and "Do you like to cook?". These three can be used one after another.
4. "Are you a 'morning' or 'night' person?" and "Which do you prefer, sunrises or sunsets?" Ask this when you think that the conversation is getting rather intense, this would ease up each other. But be ready for your own answers, don't just ask this question and not talk about it.
5. "Do you have any pets?", "Why?" when he answers NO, or maybe even "So what types of animals you like best?" This changes the topic from pets to animals he like, as there is a bigger range to talk about, because there are people who like horses, eagles or tigers, but they are not pets.
6. "Do you like to travel? Have you been on any vacations lately? What other places would you like to travel to?".
7. "What type of music/television shows do you listen to most often?". Ask these two questions separately.
8. If you think you are a risk taker with tons of cash, you might want to ask "What item that you don't currently possess would you most like to have in your home?" You will have gifts ideas for him but if you think you can't afford it and do not want to look too cheap, you can always say "I like that (or something similar and close enough) too."
9. You can ask about work, much not too much about it, as most people spend 5 out of 7 days working therefore they might not want to mention about it. "What do you like most about your job?", if the answer is bad, ask "Do you have a best buddy or a lunch pal at work?", and if the answer is no, then say "So can I ask you out for lunch whenever I am near your work place next time?"
10. Last but not least, in fact this could be your first question, "How do you like/find this place?" Talk about the surrounding, this should be the easiest.
Now that I am done with the topics we should move on to the timing and venue. If you are not looking for sex, it is best to meet in the afternoon for tea or maybe museum/art fair or even the zoo. Avoid movies and clubs (nevertheless to say his place or somewhere near, sometimes swim is not that advisable too, if you don't know him well enough) on the first dates, these places tend to change the situation into something more sexual later. If he is a friend's friend, ask that common friend along but not on a double date, this might mislead him. Another word of advise is not to bring someone he does not knows along, one of you will feel left out.
My preference is that I would prefer to chat on the net or through email, to make sure that we have more common topics before meeting. And if he is those impatient types that couldn't wait to meet you immediately, without even bother to want to know you, I do not bother. "don't waste time on someone is is unwilling to waste time with/on you". Unless you like him because of the looks, then just be wary and bring a condom along (LOL).
Coming to terms with (Learned from mistakes) Me, (Wanting to make more pure FRIENDS for) Myself and (Searching) I.
Singing to the melody of: 光良 - 第一次
当你看着我, 我没有开口已被你猜透
爱是没把握, 还是没有符合你的要求
是我自己想得太多, 还是你也在闪躲
Translation: The First Time - "When you look at me, You've already figured out before I speak,
Love has no confidence, or I don't meet with your standards
Did I think too much, or are you trying to avoid me?"
Normally I will lay down some ground rules as advises, "no EXs (or relationships topics)" and preferably no "Sexual related" topics unless you are trying to get it. And the worst reply I got is, "Then what else is left to say?".
For crying out loud, there is always Food, Leisure and Work to talk about, ain't these the basic things at least a third of our life? OKay, Let me drop some conversational questions.
1. "Have you been to any concerts, plays, movies, good restaurants, etc. lately?" Give him three choices to talk about, so the answer will not be a highly possible "NO". If the answer is "Yes", do not change the topic, make him feel comfortable, ask him about it or ask for recommendations. Remember to make it two ways and tell him about yours.
2. "What do you do on Sundays?" or "What do you like to do in your free time?". Take note of the answer, as it could be your excuse when you want to ask for a second date.
3. "What kind of food do you like?", "What's your favorite food?" or/and "Do you like to cook?". These three can be used one after another.
4. "Are you a 'morning' or 'night' person?" and "Which do you prefer, sunrises or sunsets?" Ask this when you think that the conversation is getting rather intense, this would ease up each other. But be ready for your own answers, don't just ask this question and not talk about it.
5. "Do you have any pets?", "Why?" when he answers NO, or maybe even "So what types of animals you like best?" This changes the topic from pets to animals he like, as there is a bigger range to talk about, because there are people who like horses, eagles or tigers, but they are not pets.
6. "Do you like to travel? Have you been on any vacations lately? What other places would you like to travel to?".
7. "What type of music/television shows do you listen to most often?". Ask these two questions separately.
8. If you think you are a risk taker with tons of cash, you might want to ask "What item that you don't currently possess would you most like to have in your home?" You will have gifts ideas for him but if you think you can't afford it and do not want to look too cheap, you can always say "I like that (or something similar and close enough) too."
9. You can ask about work, much not too much about it, as most people spend 5 out of 7 days working therefore they might not want to mention about it. "What do you like most about your job?", if the answer is bad, ask "Do you have a best buddy or a lunch pal at work?", and if the answer is no, then say "So can I ask you out for lunch whenever I am near your work place next time?"
10. Last but not least, in fact this could be your first question, "How do you like/find this place?" Talk about the surrounding, this should be the easiest.
Now that I am done with the topics we should move on to the timing and venue. If you are not looking for sex, it is best to meet in the afternoon for tea or maybe museum/art fair or even the zoo. Avoid movies and clubs (nevertheless to say his place or somewhere near, sometimes swim is not that advisable too, if you don't know him well enough) on the first dates, these places tend to change the situation into something more sexual later. If he is a friend's friend, ask that common friend along but not on a double date, this might mislead him. Another word of advise is not to bring someone he does not knows along, one of you will feel left out.
My preference is that I would prefer to chat on the net or through email, to make sure that we have more common topics before meeting. And if he is those impatient types that couldn't wait to meet you immediately, without even bother to want to know you, I do not bother. "don't waste time on someone is is unwilling to waste time with/on you". Unless you like him because of the looks, then just be wary and bring a condom along (LOL).
Coming to terms with (Learned from mistakes) Me, (Wanting to make more pure FRIENDS for) Myself and (Searching) I.
Singing to the melody of: 光良 - 第一次
当你看着我, 我没有开口已被你猜透
爱是没把握, 还是没有符合你的要求
是我自己想得太多, 还是你也在闪躲
Translation: The First Time - "When you look at me, You've already figured out before I speak,
Love has no confidence, or I don't meet with your standards
Did I think too much, or are you trying to avoid me?"
Saturday, February 03, 2007
(High Defination 1) Sex and the City
Featuring: Sarah Jessica Parker,Kim Cattrall, Cynthia Nixon, Kristin Davis, Chris Noth & Willie Garson
Show Category: Reality Drama
About the Show: Carrie Bradshaw writes a column about sex and relationships in New York city. With three of her closets friends Samantha Jones, a big time publicist who is more interested on being "on the spot" than in a long term relationship; Miranda Hobbs, a cynic lawyer, who refuses to accept the possibility of being single and fights society against the social pre-concepts to keep a relationship alive and Charlotte McDougal, an art gallery curator who is a bit prudish when it comes to sex, but hasn't yet lost her faith in finding true love.
Based on the bestselling book by Candace Bushnell, "Sex and the City" revolves around the lives of four young professional women in search of the perfect relationship... and orgasm!
My Comments (5/5): First and foremost, Carrie is my inspiration to write, however I am not as lucky as her to get a job just to write once a week. I guess this show portriat many parts of our life. The four separate characters actual composite to make up a single normal real life person, but the difference is the percentage of the character in us. Many of times, we were either more of Charlotte than Samantha (love wise) or more of Carrie than Miranda (relationship and friendship wise) or vise-verse. I guess this is the reason why we feel so connected to the show.
I guess my Sex and the City Combination for the present moment would be: 25% Carrie (always writing about the walks of life), 35% Charlotte (hoping for the perfect guy), 25% Samantha (Straight-forward) and 15% Miranda (always there be my friend).
I guess my Sex and the City Combination when I am in Singapore would be: 5% Carrie (sabotaging her relation), 25% Charlotte (hoping for the perfect guy), 35% Samantha (Sexual and must always look Fabulous) and 35% Miranda (always there be my friend).
TV Promo:
Show Category: Reality Drama
About the Show: Carrie Bradshaw writes a column about sex and relationships in New York city. With three of her closets friends Samantha Jones, a big time publicist who is more interested on being "on the spot" than in a long term relationship; Miranda Hobbs, a cynic lawyer, who refuses to accept the possibility of being single and fights society against the social pre-concepts to keep a relationship alive and Charlotte McDougal, an art gallery curator who is a bit prudish when it comes to sex, but hasn't yet lost her faith in finding true love.
Based on the bestselling book by Candace Bushnell, "Sex and the City" revolves around the lives of four young professional women in search of the perfect relationship... and orgasm!
My Comments (5/5): First and foremost, Carrie is my inspiration to write, however I am not as lucky as her to get a job just to write once a week. I guess this show portriat many parts of our life. The four separate characters actual composite to make up a single normal real life person, but the difference is the percentage of the character in us. Many of times, we were either more of Charlotte than Samantha (love wise) or more of Carrie than Miranda (relationship and friendship wise) or vise-verse. I guess this is the reason why we feel so connected to the show.
I guess my Sex and the City Combination for the present moment would be: 25% Carrie (always writing about the walks of life), 35% Charlotte (hoping for the perfect guy), 25% Samantha (Straight-forward) and 15% Miranda (always there be my friend).
I guess my Sex and the City Combination when I am in Singapore would be: 5% Carrie (sabotaging her relation), 25% Charlotte (hoping for the perfect guy), 35% Samantha (Sexual and must always look Fabulous) and 35% Miranda (always there be my friend).
TV Promo:
Friday, February 02, 2007
(Issue 8) Communication
Someone once wrote communication is 7percent verbal, 38percent vocal, 55percent visual. I will have to agree. One of the reasons being, it is the touch, the body language and the eyes that does most of the talking. If you can't feel it or touch it, you can feel that special something is amiss from the conversation. That is the reason why sometimes we prefer a phone call rather than an email, and a meeting rather than a phone call.
I experienced all this during my LDR, sometimes it is never enough, even with the technology of web-cam and 3G phones. Sometimes you just want to hug him for real, to run your fingers down his cheeks or just to hold his hands even. These are the times you feel that talking is not even important. Its another form of communication, through the eyes and touch. [This is also why I gave up on having another LDR, not wanting to hurt him, no matter how strong my feelings for him is. It is difficult to show your commitment when you can't be there for him physically.]
Then there is also the one sided communication. Is it possible to have one partner that is always a listener and never tell you about himself, just because he do not feel like opening up? I thought love is about the trust, the trust and faith that he will still be there no matter what you had done in the past. Or could it be that he thinks you are not mature enough to handle/understand his problem, that you are someone of another level? If so, I wonder if this relation ever last.
Sex and Making Love, there are many who can tell the difference and prefer for it to be the latter. I do think sex is important in a relation but is it love making or pure penetration, to me it is the foreplay that plays the most important part, rather than the moaning and the groaning. There are also many who feel weird to talk about sex and fantasy when you are not in bed, but since everyone agrees that sex plays an important part, wouldn't it be wise to find out what your lover like and dislike in bed?
Communication is so important in a relation, regardless it is at the "seeing each other" stage, the "romantic moments" or the "breakup". It is the one thing that keeps playing in your head over and over again. You can also notice how it is presented with a different tone and body language at different stages. This is why I have to agree on the very first sentence (BenjiX) commented.
Coming to terms with (Visual and Touch Communicator) Me, (All by) Myself (overseas, but never despair) and (Longing for a Real True Hug) I.
Singing in the rain to : 周杰伦 - 开不了口
就是开不了口让她知道
就是那么简单几句我办不到
整颗心悬在半空我只能够远远看著
这些我都做得到但那个人已经不是我
Translation: Couldn't Speak - "I just can’t open my mouth to let her know
Those mere simple sentences, I can’t say them
My whole heart hangs in the air, I can only watch from afar
I can do all these things but that person [she love] is already not me"
I experienced all this during my LDR, sometimes it is never enough, even with the technology of web-cam and 3G phones. Sometimes you just want to hug him for real, to run your fingers down his cheeks or just to hold his hands even. These are the times you feel that talking is not even important. Its another form of communication, through the eyes and touch. [This is also why I gave up on having another LDR, not wanting to hurt him, no matter how strong my feelings for him is. It is difficult to show your commitment when you can't be there for him physically.]
Then there is also the one sided communication. Is it possible to have one partner that is always a listener and never tell you about himself, just because he do not feel like opening up? I thought love is about the trust, the trust and faith that he will still be there no matter what you had done in the past. Or could it be that he thinks you are not mature enough to handle/understand his problem, that you are someone of another level? If so, I wonder if this relation ever last.
Sex and Making Love, there are many who can tell the difference and prefer for it to be the latter. I do think sex is important in a relation but is it love making or pure penetration, to me it is the foreplay that plays the most important part, rather than the moaning and the groaning. There are also many who feel weird to talk about sex and fantasy when you are not in bed, but since everyone agrees that sex plays an important part, wouldn't it be wise to find out what your lover like and dislike in bed?
Communication is so important in a relation, regardless it is at the "seeing each other" stage, the "romantic moments" or the "breakup". It is the one thing that keeps playing in your head over and over again. You can also notice how it is presented with a different tone and body language at different stages. This is why I have to agree on the very first sentence (BenjiX) commented.
Coming to terms with (Visual and Touch Communicator) Me, (All by) Myself (overseas, but never despair) and (Longing for a Real True Hug) I.
Singing in the rain to : 周杰伦 - 开不了口
就是开不了口让她知道
就是那么简单几句我办不到
整颗心悬在半空我只能够远远看著
这些我都做得到但那个人已经不是我
Translation: Couldn't Speak - "I just can’t open my mouth to let her know
Those mere simple sentences, I can’t say them
My whole heart hangs in the air, I can only watch from afar
I can do all these things but that person [she love] is already not me"
Thursday, February 01, 2007
(Booty Shaking 3) Victoria's Secret Fashion Show 2005
Victoria's Secret has been the glamourous lingerie for years and their show has always been anticipating every year, not only because of their top notch supermodels but also due to their stage presentation.
2005 was Victoria's Secret 10 anniversary and this was also Tyra Banks Last Catwalk for Victoria's Secret and retire to be a Host/Judge/Producer. Joined together with Heidi Klum is her Husband Seal performing separately with Ricky Martin.
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