(Issue 4) Giving a Cold Shoulder

*this issue is dedicated to Biocell fr. fridae (it is something that he wrote in his blog that instigate this issue).*

Is there someone in your life that gives you a sudden cold shoulder without a reason? I had. It is really a chilling feeling and all you can do is to ponder day and night, trying to find out that you did to make him upset, and how you should go about apologizing, only because you treasure his friendship.

Or was the mistake so obvious (to him) that he thinks you should know the answer to it without him actually telling you. After all it takes two hands to clap. Two people can look at the exact same thing and see something different. But if we do not bring talk about it, and assume that the other party is thinking likewise. I got to say *Assume-makes an ASS out of U and Me*. This is when mis-communication happens and this is why friendship turn sour and relationship turns bad.

Let's look back on all the quarrels you had with your family, friends or love one. Did it start because they did something you assume they won't do it on/to you? Did things turn out better when you guys trashes things out to have a better understanding of one another? Communication is the key to a happy marriage and friendship.

Have we wondered, how is the party at fault going to know what he did to upsets you and apologize for his doings without knowing his mistake?

Isn't a healthy relationship about being gracious to accept flaws, willingness to communicate thoughts, open minded to accept comments from your love ones and compromise during difficult situations.

Sometimes it is not about something that you did that is wrong, it could be a discrimination the other party has for something you had done and he presume that you belong to a certain category of FOOLS that is bound to hurt him. It does not matter to him whether it is your only flaw...

I guess only time will tell.. There is no point explaining, because with a prejudice, explanation will only sound like an excuses. Let fate bring you guys together again at a better timing. A timing when one can leave yesterday behind (as you cannot do anything about it anymore) and chooses to open up. I am not saying this as if I am perfect, because everyone has their own prejudice from past experiences, and I do have my own prejudice. Just remember it may be a prejudice to you, but it could be a hurtful lesson he had learned from his past experience.

Nobody is perfect, even yourself, so be the one to welcome him back with both arms when he is ready, because someone else is there to do the same for you.

Last words, one can only feel the chill, because you did love him and he left a footprint in your heart. Just remember you didn't let yourself or him down cos you did it with your true heart with no intentions of hurting the other party.

Coming to terms with (imperfect) Me, (innocent mistake) Myself and (waiting for your return) I.

Singing in the rain to: 蔡依林 - 开场白
Good Lyrics (Shown in MTV)
我们都笑了, 时间停了, 我们珍惜这一刻
放下累积的负荷, 卸下沉默, 学会了不保留.

再见后真的是朋友了, 我们都不再单纯
也会笑着看以后,时间过,了也更珍惜了
原来当时的快乐,仍在你我记忆中.

Translation: Prologue - "We both smiled and the time freezes as we teasure this moment.
I let go of the accumulated burden and rid off the silence, and I learnt not to hold back.

After goodbye, we are truely friends now, We are no longer innocent,
and we will look at thereafter with a smile, As time passes, I teasure [our feelings] even more,
It turns out that the happiness we had back then was still in our memory."