Exclaimer: I am not the writer to this exciting story. But I am proud to introduce a Beautiful Mind and Soul, Convan. Thanks for allowing me to re-post this article on my blog.
Written and Publish on Oct 3 2005, 10:35 PM
When JD stepped out of his unit and headed out of his apartment, he saw Hendrix's silver BMW parking by the side, with a bouquet of red roses on hand. JD shook his head in disbelief and walked towards Hendrix, whose smile is as bright as the blazing sun.
"What are you doing here so early?" JD quipped with a smile. Hendrix passed the lovely red roses to JD, opened his car door and said, "I am here to drive you to work and to earn some impression points."
"You don't have to do that, I am doing fine. I get over sorrows easily and you already sent me home last night." JD said appreciately while inside the car. Hendrix just kept smiling and never replied.
Both of them listen to the friendly banter on radio and laughed occasionally at the jokes that the radio deejay cracked. JD felt peaceful and mindful of Hendrix's efforts. When they reached JD's office, JD said, "Hendrix, it's weekend tomorrow. I am thinking of heading down to the beach. You wanna join me?"
Hendrix's eyes opened wide and mumbled, "You are asking me along? You mean I have passed the test to officially date you?" JD laughed, "Hendrix, it's not a date. But I am thankful of you being here last night and now. It's just an outing to the beach. So keen or not?" "Yes! Of course!" Hendrix smiled.
JD walked passed Kai's cubicle on his way to his cubicle and as usual, Kai wasn't there. He smiled and thought to himself, "It's over. It's a new beginning. Time to look forward." He was deep in thoughts when Robbie pat him on the shoulders.
"Why are you smiling at yourself? Are you ok? Don't tell me you are on the brink of a mental breakdown? Gosh, let's go see a shrink now!" Robbie rattled off in his usual loud exaggerated tone.
"Robbie, it's time you grow up. Don't be such an idiot. Your jokes really fall flat most of the times." JD snapped. "Well, at least I brought you out of your state. So tell me, why so happy? You bedded that delicious piece of meat?" Robbie said with a wink.
"I have no idea what you are talking about. I need to go back to work, you can continue daydreaming if you like." JD shook his head and said. Robbie, getting the hint, replied, "You don't have to be smug about landing a rich man. No big deal, I have my fair share too. Mark my words, they are either trying to bed you or they have small dicks! Most ain't serious anyway. Just make sure you don't walk into another trap after what had happened between you and Kai."
JD stared at Robbie and snarled, "Don't bring Kai into our conversation. I have nothing to do with him. What had happened was no big deal. I want you to know that and bear that in mind. Don't make jokes about us anymore and don't go around spreading rumours." Robbie bent forward and inched so close to JD that JD smelled his fresh breath, then looked at JD's eyes and said, "I am glad you snapped out of it. Kai isn't really the kind of guy we gays can handle. See you later!"
JD took his mug and made his way to the pantry to make coffee when he bumped into the disheveled Kai. He has never seen Kai so untidy and his eye bags were heavy and droopy. Both of them stood in the pantry, with mugs in their hands, silent. JD was about to turn back when Kai whispered, "Don't turn your back on me. I am suffering. Give me another chance, JD!"
Exclaimer: I am not the writer to this exciting story. But I am proud to introduce a Beautiful Mind and Soul, Convan. Thanks for allowing me to re-post this article on my blog.
Saturday, March 31, 2007
Friday, March 30, 2007
(Issue 36) A Wait Worth Waiting for
Sometimes I feel so sick and tired of starting a relationship, not because I am loving the fact that I am single, but because my three past relations begins three days after we first met, someone whom I do not know well enough yet. Could a rush start lead to a short relation?
Will love last longer when we are with someone whom we know well, someone who has already opened up his life to you and someone you can be yourself and feel comfortable with farting in the same room, instead of an instant attraction?
I had cultivated a work nature, whereby I love to take on unknown and new challenges, and commit my whole self into making it work, regardless of the number of compromises and efforts I will have to make instead of backing out. Could I had subconscious cultivate it my love life too? Would a relation be easier if I had start in a different way, as emotions and feelings are involve in relationships unlike work?
I couldn't help but to think that relationships that started out as friends would last longer as the decision to be part of each other life is base on the understanding each other needs and demands, likes and dislike and the irresistible intimate feeling of having to hug one another to protect them from anything harsh, instead of sex.
A foundation is build between friends, a support that can be felt from each other and a care and concern we provide as friends. The love would be stronger as you realised that the compromises and time you are willing to give is even more than when you were just friends.
Every touch would have a stronger feeling and passion as you had longed for this moment to come. It would be hard to explain the difference (comparing a kiss to someone your just met and someone you knew and longed to kissed) in words, as it is an feeling that runs through your veins to your heart. It is an explosion and a rush of blood that we normally seen in movies, just like hugging someone you love deeply but had lost touch for years. You could feel that the wait is worth every moment, unlike any other hug or kiss from a stranger, which might lead to just an ONS. The desire for one another would be stronger, and therefore brings you to a different height in your relation. It is like getting something you thought was unreachable.
I say this is to acknowledge my need for a strong foundation before I step in again, I want to be love by someone knows me from within, instead of an instant attraction. Someone who loves for all my flaws and Someone whom I I feel comfortable opening up my heart to.
Never rush into love as it is the fruits from the tree you planted from day one that tastes the best, because in every bite, you could taste your sweat tear, blood, efforts and labor. It is a wait worth waiting for.
Coming to terms with (longing to love for the inner) Me, (lusting the inner him and not the outer shell) Myself and (nourishing my plant by the day before the bite) I.
Listening to: Vanessa Hudgens - Don't Talk
"Oh boy, You've got to be patient with me
Oh Boy, I wanna get to know you much better
Let's start it out being friends for awhile
You hold my eye when I first saw ur smile.
Oh boy, This could really turn into something
Oh boy, That's why I don?t wanna rush it."
"I know it feel that this is real
But I need sometime to see
If ur gonna be the one for me"
Will love last longer when we are with someone whom we know well, someone who has already opened up his life to you and someone you can be yourself and feel comfortable with farting in the same room, instead of an instant attraction?
I had cultivated a work nature, whereby I love to take on unknown and new challenges, and commit my whole self into making it work, regardless of the number of compromises and efforts I will have to make instead of backing out. Could I had subconscious cultivate it my love life too? Would a relation be easier if I had start in a different way, as emotions and feelings are involve in relationships unlike work?
I couldn't help but to think that relationships that started out as friends would last longer as the decision to be part of each other life is base on the understanding each other needs and demands, likes and dislike and the irresistible intimate feeling of having to hug one another to protect them from anything harsh, instead of sex.
A foundation is build between friends, a support that can be felt from each other and a care and concern we provide as friends. The love would be stronger as you realised that the compromises and time you are willing to give is even more than when you were just friends.
Every touch would have a stronger feeling and passion as you had longed for this moment to come. It would be hard to explain the difference (comparing a kiss to someone your just met and someone you knew and longed to kissed) in words, as it is an feeling that runs through your veins to your heart. It is an explosion and a rush of blood that we normally seen in movies, just like hugging someone you love deeply but had lost touch for years. You could feel that the wait is worth every moment, unlike any other hug or kiss from a stranger, which might lead to just an ONS. The desire for one another would be stronger, and therefore brings you to a different height in your relation. It is like getting something you thought was unreachable.
I say this is to acknowledge my need for a strong foundation before I step in again, I want to be love by someone knows me from within, instead of an instant attraction. Someone who loves for all my flaws and Someone whom I I feel comfortable opening up my heart to.
Never rush into love as it is the fruits from the tree you planted from day one that tastes the best, because in every bite, you could taste your sweat tear, blood, efforts and labor. It is a wait worth waiting for.
Coming to terms with (longing to love for the inner) Me, (lusting the inner him and not the outer shell) Myself and (nourishing my plant by the day before the bite) I.
Listening to: Vanessa Hudgens - Don't Talk
"Oh boy, You've got to be patient with me
Oh Boy, I wanna get to know you much better
Let's start it out being friends for awhile
You hold my eye when I first saw ur smile.
Oh boy, This could really turn into something
Oh boy, That's why I don?t wanna rush it."
"I know it feel that this is real
But I need sometime to see
If ur gonna be the one for me"
Thursday, March 29, 2007
(High Defination 4) Brothers and Sisters
Featuring: Calista Flockhart (Ally McBeal), Rachel Griffiths (Six Feet Under), Sally Field (Norman Rae),Balthazar Getty, Matthew Rhys & Dave Annable.
Show Category: Family Drama
About the Show: Brothers and Sisters is a compelling, new one-hour prime time drama about the California-based Walker family. In the series, we meet a collection of incredibly intertwined and somewhat damaged adult siblings who embrace one another unconditionally while striving to reflect the perceived perfection of their role model parents. In the days ahead, they will navigate waves of temptation, deception and grief.
Brothers and Sisters follows the Walkers through the maze of American life today -- the pressures, limitless options and the struggle to grow beyond our backgrounds into ourselves. Through these fascinating siblings -- Sarah, the corporate VP struggling to balance motherhood with career; Tommy, the loyal son and seeming heir to the family business; Kevin, the gay lawyer cautiously learning about love; Justin, the baby of the family, grappling with war trauma and addiction; and Kitty, right-wing radio host turned TV pundit who has always been Daddy's little girl -- the show explores what it means to be a family in the 21st century, and how these brothers and sisters balance their own lives as they strive to accept their parents as people -- flawed, contradictory and forgivable -- rather than just as a father and mother.
The parents are Tom Skerritt as William Walker, the larger-than-life patriarch and president of the family business, and Sally Field as Nora Holden, the opinionated wife and mother to the five Walker siblings.
My Comments (5/5): Although it posts some similarity to Season One of "Six Feet Under", but I got to say this shows grows into the viewer much better than the latter. This shows is evolves around stay-at-home parents, sibling rivalry at work, homosexual relationships, and other issues that affect many families around the world (note I used the word many. But since it is TV, we can forgive the fact that all this happen to one family, and thank the fact that the writers merged them together beautifully).
I am giving a perfect rating, because similarly to the real world, no matter how dysfunctional a family is there is still love, care and concern for one another. The show smartly shows how human choose to push their differences aside and stand beside one another, only when big major problems arise. It also shows regrets we were to have by not expressing yourself while you still have the chances to do so. It is a heart-warming drama which you can pick up a lot of lessons in life.
TV Promo:
You will notice in the next promo trailer, that two actors had been replaced by Sally Field and Matthew Rhys. The promo also showed that Kelvin was married with a kid. Guess they made many changes but the present show that is still running is excellant and exciting enough.
Note: it would be coming to Singapore soon, but I believed there would be many cuts made, so download and wait for the DVD.
Show Category: Family Drama
About the Show: Brothers and Sisters is a compelling, new one-hour prime time drama about the California-based Walker family. In the series, we meet a collection of incredibly intertwined and somewhat damaged adult siblings who embrace one another unconditionally while striving to reflect the perceived perfection of their role model parents. In the days ahead, they will navigate waves of temptation, deception and grief.
Brothers and Sisters follows the Walkers through the maze of American life today -- the pressures, limitless options and the struggle to grow beyond our backgrounds into ourselves. Through these fascinating siblings -- Sarah, the corporate VP struggling to balance motherhood with career; Tommy, the loyal son and seeming heir to the family business; Kevin, the gay lawyer cautiously learning about love; Justin, the baby of the family, grappling with war trauma and addiction; and Kitty, right-wing radio host turned TV pundit who has always been Daddy's little girl -- the show explores what it means to be a family in the 21st century, and how these brothers and sisters balance their own lives as they strive to accept their parents as people -- flawed, contradictory and forgivable -- rather than just as a father and mother.
The parents are Tom Skerritt as William Walker, the larger-than-life patriarch and president of the family business, and Sally Field as Nora Holden, the opinionated wife and mother to the five Walker siblings.
My Comments (5/5): Although it posts some similarity to Season One of "Six Feet Under", but I got to say this shows grows into the viewer much better than the latter. This shows is evolves around stay-at-home parents, sibling rivalry at work, homosexual relationships, and other issues that affect many families around the world (note I used the word many. But since it is TV, we can forgive the fact that all this happen to one family, and thank the fact that the writers merged them together beautifully).
I am giving a perfect rating, because similarly to the real world, no matter how dysfunctional a family is there is still love, care and concern for one another. The show smartly shows how human choose to push their differences aside and stand beside one another, only when big major problems arise. It also shows regrets we were to have by not expressing yourself while you still have the chances to do so. It is a heart-warming drama which you can pick up a lot of lessons in life.
TV Promo:
You will notice in the next promo trailer, that two actors had been replaced by Sally Field and Matthew Rhys. The promo also showed that Kelvin was married with a kid. Guess they made many changes but the present show that is still running is excellant and exciting enough.
Note: it would be coming to Singapore soon, but I believed there would be many cuts made, so download and wait for the DVD.
Wednesday, March 28, 2007
(Issue 35) I am what I am
I guess it is very easy and common to stereotype someone and everyone does it, however did we ever reconsider and think that it would be fair to the victim? Although I do stereotype, like any other human being, I am now trying to take everyone as a blank canvas and let them paint their own drawings to me, this was only after I was a victim myself.
Recently manage to have some decent time and think back why did most of my possible relationship became unfruitful, and I found out that most of it are my Single-hood actions. When I am single, I am carefree, enjoy my freedom of not having a lover to answer my actions to and flirt around. There are the occasional flings and ONS, which in turn do portrait me as a "club slut". And it could be the reasons why I am stereotype as a "bad lover" at the same time.
However I do not feel sorry for myself because I believed in, being both true to myself and answerable to my own actions. My stand is that everyone puts on a different hat when they are place in a different environment. A poor analysis to explain my stand would be an example of a Hooker. I believe that there are some hookers who are good mothers and teaches their children good values, it doesn't meant that all hooker are indecent and bad, as it is a job 'in demand' and it pays their rent and get their children to universities. It does not mean that she behaves the same during her work and off-work time.
I am aware that I am able to recieve acceptable testimonials on how different I behave when I am single and when I am attached. I fully perform my role as a lover and am responsible for my actions. Because I believe that when I am attached I am not one responsible to myself but to my lover too.
I feel wronged but the judges people make at times, however I also found out that actually in life we just need to be responsible to our own actions and and the people around us. It also doesn't matter what people think about you as long as the people you love understand you (including friends and family). Importantly also, time will tell. Direct explanations would just be excuses to those who have a judgement on you, therefore I learn to disregard opinions and live a life I would not regret living up (at least to my own standards).
Coming to terms with (being happy) Me, (being able to answer to) Myself and (learning to care less on others opinion) I.
Listening and singing to: Gloria Gaynor - I Am What I Am
This is a remix version, with photos of Helen Mirren. What I like most Love is the things she said before the song starts.
(It takes a lifetime to become the best of what we can be. We have not the time or the righ to judge each other. It is one life, and there is no return and no deposit. One life. So make sure you like what's in your closet)
I am what I am, I don't want praise I don't want pity
I bang my own drum, Some think it's noise I think it's pretty
It's my life, That I want to have a little pride in
My life, so it's not a place I have to hide in
Life's not worth a dam, Till you can say, I am what I am
I am what I am, And what I am needs no excuses
I deal my own deck, Sometimes the aces sometimes the deuces
Missing lyrics from the original song-
I am what I am, I am my own special creation
So come take a look, Give me the hook, Or the ovation.
And so what if I love each sparkle and each bangle
Why not see things from a different angle
One life so it's time to open up your closet
Recently manage to have some decent time and think back why did most of my possible relationship became unfruitful, and I found out that most of it are my Single-hood actions. When I am single, I am carefree, enjoy my freedom of not having a lover to answer my actions to and flirt around. There are the occasional flings and ONS, which in turn do portrait me as a "club slut". And it could be the reasons why I am stereotype as a "bad lover" at the same time.
However I do not feel sorry for myself because I believed in, being both true to myself and answerable to my own actions. My stand is that everyone puts on a different hat when they are place in a different environment. A poor analysis to explain my stand would be an example of a Hooker. I believe that there are some hookers who are good mothers and teaches their children good values, it doesn't meant that all hooker are indecent and bad, as it is a job 'in demand' and it pays their rent and get their children to universities. It does not mean that she behaves the same during her work and off-work time.
I am aware that I am able to recieve acceptable testimonials on how different I behave when I am single and when I am attached. I fully perform my role as a lover and am responsible for my actions. Because I believe that when I am attached I am not one responsible to myself but to my lover too.
I feel wronged but the judges people make at times, however I also found out that actually in life we just need to be responsible to our own actions and and the people around us. It also doesn't matter what people think about you as long as the people you love understand you (including friends and family). Importantly also, time will tell. Direct explanations would just be excuses to those who have a judgement on you, therefore I learn to disregard opinions and live a life I would not regret living up (at least to my own standards).
Coming to terms with (being happy) Me, (being able to answer to) Myself and (learning to care less on others opinion) I.
Listening and singing to: Gloria Gaynor - I Am What I Am
This is a remix version, with photos of Helen Mirren. What I like most Love is the things she said before the song starts.
(It takes a lifetime to become the best of what we can be. We have not the time or the righ to judge each other. It is one life, and there is no return and no deposit. One life. So make sure you like what's in your closet)
I am what I am, I don't want praise I don't want pity
I bang my own drum, Some think it's noise I think it's pretty
It's my life, That I want to have a little pride in
My life, so it's not a place I have to hide in
Life's not worth a dam, Till you can say, I am what I am
I am what I am, And what I am needs no excuses
I deal my own deck, Sometimes the aces sometimes the deuces
Missing lyrics from the original song-
I am what I am, I am my own special creation
So come take a look, Give me the hook, Or the ovation.
And so what if I love each sparkle and each bangle
Why not see things from a different angle
One life so it's time to open up your closet
Tuesday, March 27, 2007
(Booty Shaking 12) CFDA Nominees are Out
The Council of Fashion Designers of America (CFDA) celebrates its 25th anniversary this June, when it holds its annual gala celebration in New York. And the nominees are out.
Womenswear Designer of the Year Award:
-Oscar de la Renta (2000 winner)
-Lazaro Hernandez and Jack McCollough for Proenza Schouler (multiple time nominee)
-Marc Jacobs (1997 & 1992 Winner)
Past winners are Francisco Coasta for Calvin Klein (2006), Vera Wang (2005), Tom Ford (2001), Donna Karen (1990).
Menswear Designer of the Year Award:
-Italo Zucchelli for Calvin Klein
-Ralph Lauren (1996 winner)
-Steven Cox and Daniel Silver for Duckie Brown
Past winners are Sean Combs For Sean John (2004), Michael Kors (2003), Marc Jacobs (2002), Helmut Lang (2000)
Accessory Designer of the Year Award:
-Marc Jacobs (2005, 2003 & 1998/99 winner)
-Micheal Kors
-Derek Lam
Past winners are Tom Ford for Yves Saint Laurent Rive Gauche (2002), Kate Spade (1997), Elsa Peretti for Tiffany and Co. (1996), Karl Lagerfeld, House of Chanel (1991) & Manolo Blahnik (1990) {The Stiletto Award(1997)}
What was exciting was their previous awards for Fashion Influence, and the winners were - Kate Moss (2005), Sarah Jessica Parker (2004), Nicole Kidman (2003), C.Z. Guest (2002). However this had stopped in year 2006.
But the must look for award for the evening would definately be the International Designer Award- Olivier Thryskens for Rochas, ALber Elbaz for Lavin (2005), Miuccia Prada (2004), Alexander McQueen (2003), Hedi Slimane for Dior Homme (2002) Nicolas Ghesquiere for Balenciaga (2001), Jean-Paul Gaultier (2000), Yohji Yamamoto (1998/1999), John Galiano (1997), Helmut Lang (1996), Tom Ford for Gucci(1995), Gianni Versace (1992)
Below is the clip of 2006 CFDA award prelude trailer and the red carpet clips of 2006.
BTW Lazaro Hernandez and Jack McCollough for Proenza Schouler are so cute haa.
Womenswear Designer of the Year Award:
-Oscar de la Renta (2000 winner)
-Lazaro Hernandez and Jack McCollough for Proenza Schouler (multiple time nominee)
-Marc Jacobs (1997 & 1992 Winner)
Past winners are Francisco Coasta for Calvin Klein (2006), Vera Wang (2005), Tom Ford (2001), Donna Karen (1990).
Menswear Designer of the Year Award:
-Italo Zucchelli for Calvin Klein
-Ralph Lauren (1996 winner)
-Steven Cox and Daniel Silver for Duckie Brown
Past winners are Sean Combs For Sean John (2004), Michael Kors (2003), Marc Jacobs (2002), Helmut Lang (2000)
Accessory Designer of the Year Award:
-Marc Jacobs (2005, 2003 & 1998/99 winner)
-Micheal Kors
-Derek Lam
Past winners are Tom Ford for Yves Saint Laurent Rive Gauche (2002), Kate Spade (1997), Elsa Peretti for Tiffany and Co. (1996), Karl Lagerfeld, House of Chanel (1991) & Manolo Blahnik (1990) {The Stiletto Award(1997)}
What was exciting was their previous awards for Fashion Influence, and the winners were - Kate Moss (2005), Sarah Jessica Parker (2004), Nicole Kidman (2003), C.Z. Guest (2002). However this had stopped in year 2006.
But the must look for award for the evening would definately be the International Designer Award- Olivier Thryskens for Rochas, ALber Elbaz for Lavin (2005), Miuccia Prada (2004), Alexander McQueen (2003), Hedi Slimane for Dior Homme (2002) Nicolas Ghesquiere for Balenciaga (2001), Jean-Paul Gaultier (2000), Yohji Yamamoto (1998/1999), John Galiano (1997), Helmut Lang (1996), Tom Ford for Gucci(1995), Gianni Versace (1992)
Below is the clip of 2006 CFDA award prelude trailer and the red carpet clips of 2006.
BTW Lazaro Hernandez and Jack McCollough for Proenza Schouler are so cute haa.
Monday, March 26, 2007
(Issue 34) Law vs Mindset
I notice a similarity among us AJs, when we were new in this circle we tend to rush for love. During that phrase, we tend to go into a relation without actually knowing the person well enough as friends before we commit. Why is it that the straights tend behave more "sensible" on this issue then us? Could it be the longing to be love after hiding in the closet for almost one third of our life?
Again, since we are comparing with the straights, why is it that straights' married couple are willing to sit down and figure things out longer than we do? Could it be the things that bind them together, like marriage, children and house? Do we need Law to make us reconsidering how worthy a relation should be, monetary and emotion wise? Could it be the separation period imposed by law that makes a couple reconsider and ponder, as issues get less heated up? Do we lose out because of a mentality of "nothing to lose", that in turn leads us to rush decision to end things fast and "move on"?
I read the papers today regarding a lesbian bringing her broken relation to court because of their child. I could understand her actions and it shows that even with Law, house and children, one can never be bound, it all lies with the mindset. Life could not be as easy, as it is because of the same-sex relation, not only because of the majority mindset but also our own.
As for her case, it is never easy to determine the '1' and the '0' by the public. Someone could be a '0' in the bed but still behave the same profile as the '1' in real life. On the contrary, I think she should not reconsider her sexual preferences (and become straight) because we should never live a life based on lies. Her situation is bound to come one day to a certain person in the world, and it happened to her, therefore like every relation, we should just make the decision we are able to live with and be GAY(i.e. happy) about it.
Coming to terms with (being hopeful) Me, (being) Myself and (hope that someone could love me for life) I.
Listening and Singing out loud on my bed to: 梁静茹 - 勇气
终于做了这个决定, 别人怎么说我不理, 只要你也一样的肯定
我愿意天涯海角都随你去, 我知道一切不容易
我的心一直温习说服自己, 最怕你忽然说要放弃
爱真的需要勇气, 来面对流言蜚语
只要你一个眼神肯定, 我的爱就有意义
我们都需要勇气, 去相信会在一起
人潮拥挤我能感觉你, 放在我手心里你的真心
如果我的坚强任性, 会不小心伤害了你, 你能不能温柔提醒,
我虽然心太急更害怕错过你
Translation: Courage - I have made up my mind and it doesn't matter others' opinions are as long as you are as sure as I am.
I am willing to follow you regardless of where you are, and I am aware it would be difficult (for us).
I having being persuading my myself, but I fear most that you give up suddenly.
(Our) love will need courage, to face criticisms.
(However) with an confirmation in your eyes, my love would be meaningful.
Both of us will need courage to believe that we would be together.
I can feel you(r love) amidst the crowd with your true heart in the palms of my hands.
If my willful and headstrong ways accidentally hurt you, will you please remind me gently,
(because) Even though my heart get too excited, I fear to lose you more .
Again, since we are comparing with the straights, why is it that straights' married couple are willing to sit down and figure things out longer than we do? Could it be the things that bind them together, like marriage, children and house? Do we need Law to make us reconsidering how worthy a relation should be, monetary and emotion wise? Could it be the separation period imposed by law that makes a couple reconsider and ponder, as issues get less heated up? Do we lose out because of a mentality of "nothing to lose", that in turn leads us to rush decision to end things fast and "move on"?
I read the papers today regarding a lesbian bringing her broken relation to court because of their child. I could understand her actions and it shows that even with Law, house and children, one can never be bound, it all lies with the mindset. Life could not be as easy, as it is because of the same-sex relation, not only because of the majority mindset but also our own.
As for her case, it is never easy to determine the '1' and the '0' by the public. Someone could be a '0' in the bed but still behave the same profile as the '1' in real life. On the contrary, I think she should not reconsider her sexual preferences (and become straight) because we should never live a life based on lies. Her situation is bound to come one day to a certain person in the world, and it happened to her, therefore like every relation, we should just make the decision we are able to live with and be GAY(i.e. happy) about it.
Coming to terms with (being hopeful) Me, (being) Myself and (hope that someone could love me for life) I.
Listening and Singing out loud on my bed to: 梁静茹 - 勇气
终于做了这个决定, 别人怎么说我不理, 只要你也一样的肯定
我愿意天涯海角都随你去, 我知道一切不容易
我的心一直温习说服自己, 最怕你忽然说要放弃
爱真的需要勇气, 来面对流言蜚语
只要你一个眼神肯定, 我的爱就有意义
我们都需要勇气, 去相信会在一起
人潮拥挤我能感觉你, 放在我手心里你的真心
如果我的坚强任性, 会不小心伤害了你, 你能不能温柔提醒,
我虽然心太急更害怕错过你
Translation: Courage - I have made up my mind and it doesn't matter others' opinions are as long as you are as sure as I am.
I am willing to follow you regardless of where you are, and I am aware it would be difficult (for us).
I having being persuading my myself, but I fear most that you give up suddenly.
(Our) love will need courage, to face criticisms.
(However) with an confirmation in your eyes, my love would be meaningful.
Both of us will need courage to believe that we would be together.
I can feel you(r love) amidst the crowd with your true heart in the palms of my hands.
If my willful and headstrong ways accidentally hurt you, will you please remind me gently,
(because) Even though my heart get too excited, I fear to lose you more .
Sunday, March 25, 2007
(Love Tales 1) Part 10 Finding Replacement
Exclaimer: I am not the writer to this exciting story. But I am proud to introduce a Beautiful Mind and Soul, Convan. Thanks for allowing me to re-post this article on my blog.
Written and Publish on Oct 1 2005, 07:11 PM
JD avoided Kai the rest of the day. He had wanted to lunch with Robbie but Robbie went out for a lunch appointment and JD ended up buying lunch back to office.
JD jumped a little when his phone rang, he was too engrossed in his work that he did not realized it was already 7.30pm. "Hello, JD speaking." "JD, Hendrix here. You still in the office? I am waiting downstairs." came the voice on the other side of the phone.
"Hendrix. I am sorry. I forgot to call you that I will not be meeting you. Thanks for the flowers but don?t spend unnecessarily. I am not into such gimmicks and once again, don't waste your time on me." JD hung up without saying goodbye.
He worked a little while longer and started packing up when Kai appeared. JD yelped a little when he saw Kai standing there quietly. "What the hell you think you are doing? Scaring people like this? It's not funny!" JD scolded.
Kai just stood there, looking at JD. JD felt uneasy and took his bag and wanted to leave when Kai grabbed him. "Why are you doing this to me? First, you accused me of being the Casanova and toying with your feelings then you returned my kiss and we made passionate love last night and now you are telling me you can't accept me?" JD kept quiet, he didn't want to refute Kai, he felt he had said enough. He struggled to break free from Kai's strong grip and headed straight to the lift lobby.
Kai followed close behind and kept saying, "Why? Why are you doing this, JD? Answer me!" JD pressed for the lift button and darted in when the lift doors opened and Kai followed in. Both of them stood motionless inside the lift and once the lift doors opened, JD dashed out, knocking into one of the security guards. JD didn't even apologize to the guard and kept walking, once outside the building, Kai caught up with JD and pulled him to one corner, controlling his temper and said, "Talk to me, JD! Why are you doing this to me?"
JD wanted to shout back at Kai when a voice broke the tense atmosphere, "Are you ok, JD?" It was Hendrix and Kai loosened his grip immediately. JD got away from Kai and went over to Hendrix, and said calmly, "Sorry to have kept you waiting. Where are we going for dinner?" Kai threw a punch on the pillar and stormed away.
Hendrix gave a pat on JD's shoulders and said, "Come, let me drive you home. I don't think you are serious about dinner. At least, allow me to drive you home." JD nodded and followed Hendrix to his car.
"o he was the reason you rejected my advances and now because of him, you accepted a ride from me?"Hendrix tried to break the silence between them when they got in the car. JD just kept quiet, not wanting to talk. Hendrix continued, "I don't mind being a back up. I am really serious in wanting to know you, I have a good pair of listening ears. My shoulders are strong enough if you need to rely on."
JD finally said, "Hendrix, I am sorry if I had made you felt being make use of. It's my personal affair and I want to keep it to myself." "I understand, JD. I just want to know you better and offering you what I can. I am not asking for anything in return." Hendrix replied.
When Hendrix pulled his BMW in front of JD's unit, JD remained in his seat, quiet. After a moment of silence, JD said softy, "Thanks Hendrix. You have been a really nice guy and I have been rude to you. Downright mean. Thanks for sending me home. I appreciate that."
Hendrix smiled and asked before JD got out of the car, "So does that mean I stand a chance to ask you next time?"
JD bent over, hands resting on the window pane, "Yes, I might consider seriously the next time. Good night."
Exclaimer: I am not the writer to this exciting story. But I am proud to introduce a Beautiful Mind and Soul, Convan. Thanks for allowing me to re-post this article on my blog.
Written and Publish on Oct 1 2005, 07:11 PM
JD avoided Kai the rest of the day. He had wanted to lunch with Robbie but Robbie went out for a lunch appointment and JD ended up buying lunch back to office.
JD jumped a little when his phone rang, he was too engrossed in his work that he did not realized it was already 7.30pm. "Hello, JD speaking." "JD, Hendrix here. You still in the office? I am waiting downstairs." came the voice on the other side of the phone.
"Hendrix. I am sorry. I forgot to call you that I will not be meeting you. Thanks for the flowers but don?t spend unnecessarily. I am not into such gimmicks and once again, don't waste your time on me." JD hung up without saying goodbye.
He worked a little while longer and started packing up when Kai appeared. JD yelped a little when he saw Kai standing there quietly. "What the hell you think you are doing? Scaring people like this? It's not funny!" JD scolded.
Kai just stood there, looking at JD. JD felt uneasy and took his bag and wanted to leave when Kai grabbed him. "Why are you doing this to me? First, you accused me of being the Casanova and toying with your feelings then you returned my kiss and we made passionate love last night and now you are telling me you can't accept me?" JD kept quiet, he didn't want to refute Kai, he felt he had said enough. He struggled to break free from Kai's strong grip and headed straight to the lift lobby.
Kai followed close behind and kept saying, "Why? Why are you doing this, JD? Answer me!" JD pressed for the lift button and darted in when the lift doors opened and Kai followed in. Both of them stood motionless inside the lift and once the lift doors opened, JD dashed out, knocking into one of the security guards. JD didn't even apologize to the guard and kept walking, once outside the building, Kai caught up with JD and pulled him to one corner, controlling his temper and said, "Talk to me, JD! Why are you doing this to me?"
JD wanted to shout back at Kai when a voice broke the tense atmosphere, "Are you ok, JD?" It was Hendrix and Kai loosened his grip immediately. JD got away from Kai and went over to Hendrix, and said calmly, "Sorry to have kept you waiting. Where are we going for dinner?" Kai threw a punch on the pillar and stormed away.
Hendrix gave a pat on JD's shoulders and said, "Come, let me drive you home. I don't think you are serious about dinner. At least, allow me to drive you home." JD nodded and followed Hendrix to his car.
"o he was the reason you rejected my advances and now because of him, you accepted a ride from me?"Hendrix tried to break the silence between them when they got in the car. JD just kept quiet, not wanting to talk. Hendrix continued, "I don't mind being a back up. I am really serious in wanting to know you, I have a good pair of listening ears. My shoulders are strong enough if you need to rely on."
JD finally said, "Hendrix, I am sorry if I had made you felt being make use of. It's my personal affair and I want to keep it to myself." "I understand, JD. I just want to know you better and offering you what I can. I am not asking for anything in return." Hendrix replied.
When Hendrix pulled his BMW in front of JD's unit, JD remained in his seat, quiet. After a moment of silence, JD said softy, "Thanks Hendrix. You have been a really nice guy and I have been rude to you. Downright mean. Thanks for sending me home. I appreciate that."
Hendrix smiled and asked before JD got out of the car, "So does that mean I stand a chance to ask you next time?"
JD bent over, hands resting on the window pane, "Yes, I might consider seriously the next time. Good night."
Exclaimer: I am not the writer to this exciting story. But I am proud to introduce a Beautiful Mind and Soul, Convan. Thanks for allowing me to re-post this article on my blog.
Saturday, March 24, 2007
(Issue 33) Learning
With reference to the previous post, I am thankful that my dad passed on his words of wisdom on "Graping a handful of sand". In Life, we are often rejected by someone we feel close to and love(family and friends), while many other times we fall into pit-holes. However why is it that we couldn't celebrate these moments like we did when we were accepted by family and friends for who we are, loved by the ones you love or when we were been recognise for our hard work?
Why is it so that we have to plunge ourselves to deeper grounds during our downs, instead of standing up and learn (to forgive, be wiser and be our true selves). Why do many choose to drink their sorrows to a no tomorrow or end their precious lives (before you even do so, think of the many people who wishes that they were in your position, being able to breathe, walk, run and eat). Does a rebirth guarantee a life with no downs? Have you thought of the ones who loved you when you choose to end you life over a misery flaw? Everyone has flaws even successful people, they just don't realise them as they have the positive energy in them that redirects attention from their flaws to their positive attributes. Instead of degrading your flaw, you can either recongnise it and flaunt it in a positive way or change it. But first you have to learn to accept your flaw.
I believe everything in life happens for a reason, and the reason is for us to learn. To learn about things that our parents, teachers or even books couldn't teach us. I once said "Somethings in life can only be learned by experiencing it". We should celebrate mistakes or rejections by learning from them. Reflect back on all our results, regardless it is good or bad, as nothing should be taken for granted. Taking things for granted might just lead you to a higher or greater fall, if you do not know how or what makes you successful in the first place.
In life, learning is not enough, because without practice, we would either end up having the same results that got us down the first place or we might not be able to stay on top for long.
Next time, while you were crying (which is never wrong to do so) because of someone or something you had done, think back of the good memories you had together and wipe your tears before you start to hate yourself for being true and being yourself, because we should never be someone else we are not for anyone. We have to first Love ourselves, before we could only Love others. Forgive, top up your emotions with love and trash out the hate. Thank not only to ones that makes you successful, but also the ones that taught you to be smarter in life, bringing you one step closer to greater heights.
Coming to terms with (Forgiving but not Forgetful)Me, (taking time to appreciate life and)Myself and (forever learning)I.
Singing out in the open field: Whitney Houston - Exhale
"Everyone falls in love sometime
Sometimes it's wrong, and sometimes it's right
For every win, someone must fail
But there comes a point when
When we exhale"
"Hearts are often broken
When there are words unspoken
In your soul there's answers to your prayers
If you're searching for a place you know
A familiar face, somewhere to go
You should look inside yourself
You're halfway there"
Why is it so that we have to plunge ourselves to deeper grounds during our downs, instead of standing up and learn (to forgive, be wiser and be our true selves). Why do many choose to drink their sorrows to a no tomorrow or end their precious lives (before you even do so, think of the many people who wishes that they were in your position, being able to breathe, walk, run and eat). Does a rebirth guarantee a life with no downs? Have you thought of the ones who loved you when you choose to end you life over a misery flaw? Everyone has flaws even successful people, they just don't realise them as they have the positive energy in them that redirects attention from their flaws to their positive attributes. Instead of degrading your flaw, you can either recongnise it and flaunt it in a positive way or change it. But first you have to learn to accept your flaw.
I believe everything in life happens for a reason, and the reason is for us to learn. To learn about things that our parents, teachers or even books couldn't teach us. I once said "Somethings in life can only be learned by experiencing it". We should celebrate mistakes or rejections by learning from them. Reflect back on all our results, regardless it is good or bad, as nothing should be taken for granted. Taking things for granted might just lead you to a higher or greater fall, if you do not know how or what makes you successful in the first place.
In life, learning is not enough, because without practice, we would either end up having the same results that got us down the first place or we might not be able to stay on top for long.
Next time, while you were crying (which is never wrong to do so) because of someone or something you had done, think back of the good memories you had together and wipe your tears before you start to hate yourself for being true and being yourself, because we should never be someone else we are not for anyone. We have to first Love ourselves, before we could only Love others. Forgive, top up your emotions with love and trash out the hate. Thank not only to ones that makes you successful, but also the ones that taught you to be smarter in life, bringing you one step closer to greater heights.
Coming to terms with (Forgiving but not Forgetful)Me, (taking time to appreciate life and)Myself and (forever learning)I.
Singing out in the open field: Whitney Houston - Exhale
"Everyone falls in love sometime
Sometimes it's wrong, and sometimes it's right
For every win, someone must fail
But there comes a point when
When we exhale"
"Hearts are often broken
When there are words unspoken
In your soul there's answers to your prayers
If you're searching for a place you know
A familiar face, somewhere to go
You should look inside yourself
You're halfway there"
Friday, March 23, 2007
(Surround Sound 8) The Breakup
Actors: Vince Vaughn, Jennifer Aniston, Jon Favreau, Joey Lauren Adams, Ann-Margret
Synopsis: In Chicago, the art dealer Brooke Meyers feels not appreciated and neglected by her immature husband Gary Grobowski, who is partner of his two brothers in a tourism business, and decides to break-up with him to make Gary misses her. Gary misunderstands her true intention, both follows the wrong advices of family members and friends, beginning a war of sexes with no winner.
My Comments (4.5/5):It is a good show to inform viewers that some quarrels can be resolved by compromising and communication. Sometimes we do things to spike the other in return for something he did, however it snowballed into something worst and sometimes a sorry is not enough. It talks about working things out before it is too late. 0.5 rating goes to the ending, it would not happen in our real life.
Trailer:
Songs From the Movie: Johnny Nash - I Can See Clearly Now (and then follows with "What A Wonderful World This Would Be", not in the movie. And take notice he only starts singing after the first minute of the clip, please skip the screaming lady, Shirley Bassey. This clip featured two good old songs).
Synopsis: In Chicago, the art dealer Brooke Meyers feels not appreciated and neglected by her immature husband Gary Grobowski, who is partner of his two brothers in a tourism business, and decides to break-up with him to make Gary misses her. Gary misunderstands her true intention, both follows the wrong advices of family members and friends, beginning a war of sexes with no winner.
My Comments (4.5/5):It is a good show to inform viewers that some quarrels can be resolved by compromising and communication. Sometimes we do things to spike the other in return for something he did, however it snowballed into something worst and sometimes a sorry is not enough. It talks about working things out before it is too late. 0.5 rating goes to the ending, it would not happen in our real life.
Trailer:
Songs From the Movie: Johnny Nash - I Can See Clearly Now (and then follows with "What A Wonderful World This Would Be", not in the movie. And take notice he only starts singing after the first minute of the clip, please skip the screaming lady, Shirley Bassey. This clip featured two good old songs).
Thursday, March 22, 2007
(Issue 32) Standing Up Again
Was I as Lucky as I my friends mentioned, to have one relationship after another, without having to go through a long period of heartache? Thinking about it, it was the feeling of being loved, scared of being alone and the need for someone to be there that makes me commit to one after another without hesitating, and honestly none of these are reasonable or fair reasons.
In spite of being Single now, I am glad that I did not choose to jump from one detach relation to another new love. Maybe I could have rejected the best God would had arrange for me, but I can never pass myself to be in a relation for the wrong reasons. This time round, I am glad to have peacefully thoughts and reflect, jotting down what I want in life and a life with my partner. Many factors starts to appear, but with one outstanding conclusion.
When it all comes down to Love, does age really matters? I had came across suitors of different age groups, but only happen to be partners with three of which within my own age group. They got my attention because they were young at heart and have a great zest when it comes down to courtship. However, I soon realise that closing up the age gap is insufficient because the real gap between us lies within our mentality.
I guess it would be safe to say, men does not mature with age but matures with experiences and desires. I realise that I have many friends who are senior in age, regardless of sexuality, but remain young at heart and mentality. It is not a minus factor to have a child within you, in fact I think it is important to have a child within everyone of us, so to create that spark in life. But my point is that, initially you feel young and full of zest when you were with them, but sooner that you can realise, everything comes down to reality and you get tired and worn out by the "child's play".
I believed in Playing Hard, but on the contradictory we must also Work Hard to balance things up. Furthermore, in life there are many decisions to be made which will affect our future and for every action we create an image, and certain image in life once formed are hard to shake off. However, we have to understand that it is not a matter of choice, as maturity grows together with the way we were brought up, the environment we studied and work in, the friends and enemies we make and the mistakes we learned to regret and be able to stand up again.
I had learned to make a decision, not after my first experience but after my third, that I will want to be with someone who is compatible with me mentally. I also learned that I would require more time to peace my mind and learn from experiences, instead of trying to stand up straight as fast as possible every time I fall. My dad used to remind me, "Grasp a Handful of Sand each time as you stand up after falling and put it in your pocket". I soon realise that it is not only important to stand up but also to you gain something out of the fall, either a lesson or an experience to remember.
After all, breakups could be the part and parcel of our Love Life, why not stand up and make the best out of it, instead of looking back at it as a bad memory. We should thank each other for the good times we once had before, instead of staying and feeling miserable.
Coming to terms with (a more emotionally Matured) Me, (happy that I never had lost faith in Love and) Myself and (making the best out of every moment, regardless of being single or attached) I.
Singing in the showers to: Tina Turner (feat. Calista Flockhart)
- When the Heartache is Over
"Once in a lifetime you find, Someone to show you the way
Someone to make your decisions, And I let you lead me astray"
"When the heartache is over, I know I wont be missing you missing you
Wont look over my shoulder, cause I know that I can live without you
Oh live without you, Oh I can live without you"
"Time to move on with my life now, Leaving the past all behind
I can make my own decisions, It was only a matter of time"
In spite of being Single now, I am glad that I did not choose to jump from one detach relation to another new love. Maybe I could have rejected the best God would had arrange for me, but I can never pass myself to be in a relation for the wrong reasons. This time round, I am glad to have peacefully thoughts and reflect, jotting down what I want in life and a life with my partner. Many factors starts to appear, but with one outstanding conclusion.
When it all comes down to Love, does age really matters? I had came across suitors of different age groups, but only happen to be partners with three of which within my own age group. They got my attention because they were young at heart and have a great zest when it comes down to courtship. However, I soon realise that closing up the age gap is insufficient because the real gap between us lies within our mentality.
I guess it would be safe to say, men does not mature with age but matures with experiences and desires. I realise that I have many friends who are senior in age, regardless of sexuality, but remain young at heart and mentality. It is not a minus factor to have a child within you, in fact I think it is important to have a child within everyone of us, so to create that spark in life. But my point is that, initially you feel young and full of zest when you were with them, but sooner that you can realise, everything comes down to reality and you get tired and worn out by the "child's play".
I believed in Playing Hard, but on the contradictory we must also Work Hard to balance things up. Furthermore, in life there are many decisions to be made which will affect our future and for every action we create an image, and certain image in life once formed are hard to shake off. However, we have to understand that it is not a matter of choice, as maturity grows together with the way we were brought up, the environment we studied and work in, the friends and enemies we make and the mistakes we learned to regret and be able to stand up again.
I had learned to make a decision, not after my first experience but after my third, that I will want to be with someone who is compatible with me mentally. I also learned that I would require more time to peace my mind and learn from experiences, instead of trying to stand up straight as fast as possible every time I fall. My dad used to remind me, "Grasp a Handful of Sand each time as you stand up after falling and put it in your pocket". I soon realise that it is not only important to stand up but also to you gain something out of the fall, either a lesson or an experience to remember.
After all, breakups could be the part and parcel of our Love Life, why not stand up and make the best out of it, instead of looking back at it as a bad memory. We should thank each other for the good times we once had before, instead of staying and feeling miserable.
Coming to terms with (a more emotionally Matured) Me, (happy that I never had lost faith in Love and) Myself and (making the best out of every moment, regardless of being single or attached) I.
Singing in the showers to: Tina Turner (feat. Calista Flockhart)
- When the Heartache is Over
"Once in a lifetime you find, Someone to show you the way
Someone to make your decisions, And I let you lead me astray"
"When the heartache is over, I know I wont be missing you missing you
Wont look over my shoulder, cause I know that I can live without you
Oh live without you, Oh I can live without you"
"Time to move on with my life now, Leaving the past all behind
I can make my own decisions, It was only a matter of time"
Wednesday, March 21, 2007
(Booty Shaking 11) Project Catwalk Season Two Designs
Project Catwalk Designers showing their work at London's Fashion Week. Host and Judge Kelly Osbourne. Also judged by British Designers Julien Macdonald & Ben de Lisi and Style Director of British Grazia Magazine Paula Reed.
The results are out all over the web, however I do not want to be a spoiler, just in case you have to catch them yet. The top three designers are Wayne Aveline, Monika Rene and Luke Youngblood. Simply loves the designs from the Winner and Runner up.
The results are out all over the web, however I do not want to be a spoiler, just in case you have to catch them yet. The top three designers are Wayne Aveline, Monika Rene and Luke Youngblood. Simply loves the designs from the Winner and Runner up.
Tuesday, March 20, 2007
(Issue 31) Disrespectful PLUs
Recently I am very furious by the some actions done by our fellow PLUs.
Once in a while, my female friends who make a trip to the clubs with me. She would never fail to look good and sexy to have an excellent time. Nevertheless to say, they enjoy the music and crowds of cute guys, with no intention to bring anyone home. However recently they got pissed off by one particular action a handful of degrading PLUs did. They touch their breasts intentionally. This is still a sexual insult, regardless you are Gay or Straight, as long as you have a Dicky. This clearly shows that the offended has no Respect for these lady friends of mine. What is your reaction if someone did this to your family member?
If you like the feeling of touching breasts so much, get yourself a pair. It is in the rule of a gentleman that certain parts of a female body are off-limits, unless permission is given, and this rule will never change 50 years down the road. I wonder what difference between this group of offenders compared with the straight leaches and perverts. Some actions can never be classified as jokes, and this is why it is protected by the Law.
I do admit that sometimes PLUs treat their lady friends as sisters and can have no restricts in verbal conversations, however it does not implies that you have free play over her physical self.
It also doesn't meant that just because they are out partying with PLUs they are a Losers or Hags who could not get men, then you are totally wrong. Some of my lady friends are happily married, while the others have lines of men to choose from. They coming to our parties is to catch up with their PLUs friends, enjoy the music and sometimes to get away from leaches, however now it seems otherwise.
For once I thought only the straights do not know how to behave themselves in front of a lady. And I promise you, these group of Outcasts Gays will get their punishment either from me, my lady friend or the Law. If you have know how to Respect, then you will not be treated by respect.
Coming to terms with (the furious) Me, (was brought up to Respect everyone including) Myself and (don't anyone try mess with my lady friends and) I.
Singing out Loud to make a point: Christina Aguilera Feat. Lil' Kim - Can't Hold Us Down
You're just a little boy, Think you're so cute, so coy
You must talk so big to make up for smaller things
You're just a little boy, All you do is annoy
You must talk so big to make up for smaller things
This is for my girls all around the world
Who've come across a man that don't respect your worth
Thinkin' all woman should be seen not heard
So what do we do girls, shout out loud
Lettin' 'em know we're gonna stand our ground
So lift your hands higher and wave 'em proud
Take a deep breath and say it loud
Never can, never will, Can't hold us down
Once in a while, my female friends who make a trip to the clubs with me. She would never fail to look good and sexy to have an excellent time. Nevertheless to say, they enjoy the music and crowds of cute guys, with no intention to bring anyone home. However recently they got pissed off by one particular action a handful of degrading PLUs did. They touch their breasts intentionally. This is still a sexual insult, regardless you are Gay or Straight, as long as you have a Dicky. This clearly shows that the offended has no Respect for these lady friends of mine. What is your reaction if someone did this to your family member?
If you like the feeling of touching breasts so much, get yourself a pair. It is in the rule of a gentleman that certain parts of a female body are off-limits, unless permission is given, and this rule will never change 50 years down the road. I wonder what difference between this group of offenders compared with the straight leaches and perverts. Some actions can never be classified as jokes, and this is why it is protected by the Law.
I do admit that sometimes PLUs treat their lady friends as sisters and can have no restricts in verbal conversations, however it does not implies that you have free play over her physical self.
It also doesn't meant that just because they are out partying with PLUs they are a Losers or Hags who could not get men, then you are totally wrong. Some of my lady friends are happily married, while the others have lines of men to choose from. They coming to our parties is to catch up with their PLUs friends, enjoy the music and sometimes to get away from leaches, however now it seems otherwise.
For once I thought only the straights do not know how to behave themselves in front of a lady. And I promise you, these group of Outcasts Gays will get their punishment either from me, my lady friend or the Law. If you have know how to Respect, then you will not be treated by respect.
Coming to terms with (the furious) Me, (was brought up to Respect everyone including) Myself and (don't anyone try mess with my lady friends and) I.
Singing out Loud to make a point: Christina Aguilera Feat. Lil' Kim - Can't Hold Us Down
You're just a little boy, Think you're so cute, so coy
You must talk so big to make up for smaller things
You're just a little boy, All you do is annoy
You must talk so big to make up for smaller things
This is for my girls all around the world
Who've come across a man that don't respect your worth
Thinkin' all woman should be seen not heard
So what do we do girls, shout out loud
Lettin' 'em know we're gonna stand our ground
So lift your hands higher and wave 'em proud
Take a deep breath and say it loud
Never can, never will, Can't hold us down
Monday, March 19, 2007
(Love Tales 1) Part 9 Backing Out
Exclaimer: I am not the writer to this exciting story. But I am proud to introduce a Beautiful Mind and Soul, Convan. Thanks for allowing me to re-post this article on my blog.
Written and Publish on Sep 30 2005, 11:42 PM
"Honestly, I am bi. JD, I have liking for guys but there hasn't been any guys who attracted me ever since I got to know my girlfriend. That is, till you appeared." Kai said earnestly.
JD shook his head and mumbled, "I should have known better to get myself into this. Kai, I can't and don't see myself getting together with a bisexual. Let's stop here before matters get worse. Go back to your girlfriend, that's where you belong." JD tried to open the car door but was stopped by Kai, Kai reached over, hugging JD tightly and whispered, "Don't go please. Give me one chance." Kai pressed his lips onto JD and passion ensued between them.
Kai drove JD back home and before JD got off the car, Kai said gently, "JD, tuck in your shirt. You wouldn't want your family to second guess what had happened, given your untidy state. It's a most memorable night." JD felt guilty, he had always ensured that he steered clear of bisexuals and straights but now he fouled on his own rules. JD did not say anything and got off the car. That night, he did not pick up Kai's numerous calls. He decided he don't want to be a third party.
When JD reached his cubicle the next morning, he was surprised to see a bouquet of flowers on his table. Initially, he thought it was from Kai and he looked around to check if any of his colleagues saw it, luckily he was the earliest one today. He picked up the bouquet of white lilies and looked at the attached card that read, 'JD, give me a chance to know you better. I will be picking you up tonight at 7pm. Hendrix'
JD let out a loud sign and threw the bouquet of lilies to the dustbin but soon after, he picked them up and searched for a vase to put them in. The lilies attracted the attention of his colleagues but only Robbie taking the initiative to ask, "Nice lilies! From who? Please don't tell me it's from Kai! You bitch."
JD rolled his eyes and replied, "No, not him. Hendrix. You saw him last night." "That fine specimen of males? You sure know how to work your charms, slut!" Robbie said with an envy.
JD continued typing his document and ignored Robbie. At that moment, Kai walked in with breakfast in hand. He was shocked to see Robbie in JD's cubicle but acted nonchalantly and said to JD, "JD, bought breakfast for you. Let's do lunch later yah?" Robbie was about to say something when JD replied coldly, "Thanks. I am meeting a client later."
Kai was astonished at JD's cold treatment so was Robbie, sensing the weird atmosphere, Robbie took a stalk of the lilies and said, "JD, give me this one, I needs to borrow your charms to work on some spell." After Robbie left, Kai sat down and asked, "JD, is everything ok? You don't look happy." JD stopped his typing, looked at Kai and said, "Kai, I think we should stopped this game. I don't share my man, especially not with another woman."
Kai said in a hushed tone, "JD, I thought we have been through this last night? I will let her know but you need to give me some time." "Let her know? How are you going to let her know? That you fall in love with another guy after been with her for 2 years? Then what? Be with me and tell me one year later you decide to get married after all?" JD continued with anger, "I don't want to be labeled a relationship wrecker. I don't want to be the one that your girlfriend hates. I don't even want to be telling you all this! Now, would you excuse me? I still have work to do."
Kai could not believe what he just heard. He whispered, "But we made love last night. It was so passionate! I thought we are ok. I just need some more time, JD. It's my fault not yours. You don't have to feel guilty. I was the one who defaulted on my relationship. I just want to be with you. Is that wrong?"
Exclaimer: I am not the writer to this exciting story. But I am proud to introduce a Beautiful Mind and Soul, Convan. Thanks for allowing me to re-post this article on my blog.
Written and Publish on Sep 30 2005, 11:42 PM
"Honestly, I am bi. JD, I have liking for guys but there hasn't been any guys who attracted me ever since I got to know my girlfriend. That is, till you appeared." Kai said earnestly.
JD shook his head and mumbled, "I should have known better to get myself into this. Kai, I can't and don't see myself getting together with a bisexual. Let's stop here before matters get worse. Go back to your girlfriend, that's where you belong." JD tried to open the car door but was stopped by Kai, Kai reached over, hugging JD tightly and whispered, "Don't go please. Give me one chance." Kai pressed his lips onto JD and passion ensued between them.
Kai drove JD back home and before JD got off the car, Kai said gently, "JD, tuck in your shirt. You wouldn't want your family to second guess what had happened, given your untidy state. It's a most memorable night." JD felt guilty, he had always ensured that he steered clear of bisexuals and straights but now he fouled on his own rules. JD did not say anything and got off the car. That night, he did not pick up Kai's numerous calls. He decided he don't want to be a third party.
When JD reached his cubicle the next morning, he was surprised to see a bouquet of flowers on his table. Initially, he thought it was from Kai and he looked around to check if any of his colleagues saw it, luckily he was the earliest one today. He picked up the bouquet of white lilies and looked at the attached card that read, 'JD, give me a chance to know you better. I will be picking you up tonight at 7pm. Hendrix'
JD let out a loud sign and threw the bouquet of lilies to the dustbin but soon after, he picked them up and searched for a vase to put them in. The lilies attracted the attention of his colleagues but only Robbie taking the initiative to ask, "Nice lilies! From who? Please don't tell me it's from Kai! You bitch."
JD rolled his eyes and replied, "No, not him. Hendrix. You saw him last night." "That fine specimen of males? You sure know how to work your charms, slut!" Robbie said with an envy.
JD continued typing his document and ignored Robbie. At that moment, Kai walked in with breakfast in hand. He was shocked to see Robbie in JD's cubicle but acted nonchalantly and said to JD, "JD, bought breakfast for you. Let's do lunch later yah?" Robbie was about to say something when JD replied coldly, "Thanks. I am meeting a client later."
Kai was astonished at JD's cold treatment so was Robbie, sensing the weird atmosphere, Robbie took a stalk of the lilies and said, "JD, give me this one, I needs to borrow your charms to work on some spell." After Robbie left, Kai sat down and asked, "JD, is everything ok? You don't look happy." JD stopped his typing, looked at Kai and said, "Kai, I think we should stopped this game. I don't share my man, especially not with another woman."
Kai said in a hushed tone, "JD, I thought we have been through this last night? I will let her know but you need to give me some time." "Let her know? How are you going to let her know? That you fall in love with another guy after been with her for 2 years? Then what? Be with me and tell me one year later you decide to get married after all?" JD continued with anger, "I don't want to be labeled a relationship wrecker. I don't want to be the one that your girlfriend hates. I don't even want to be telling you all this! Now, would you excuse me? I still have work to do."
Kai could not believe what he just heard. He whispered, "But we made love last night. It was so passionate! I thought we are ok. I just need some more time, JD. It's my fault not yours. You don't have to feel guilty. I was the one who defaulted on my relationship. I just want to be with you. Is that wrong?"
Exclaimer: I am not the writer to this exciting story. But I am proud to introduce a Beautiful Mind and Soul, Convan. Thanks for allowing me to re-post this article on my blog.
Sunday, March 18, 2007
(Issue 30) Newbies
I came out of the closet 3 years ago, provided that my calculations were right. Reflecting back, I realise the first year is full of temptations and realisation that the circle is not as beautiful as our pride flag, in facts there were many grey areas waiting for you to fall into and learn to avoid. But some lessons can never learned until you experience it.
Coming out is different from being Gay. You can be gay at the age of 18 but come out in your later years. Some might think that acknowledging and being proud of your own sexually is the hardest thing to deal with, you might be wrong.
I prepared myself by reading forums and articles of the circle, to prevent myself from falling into any grey areas, before braving a whole new world. Thinking that I am fully armour with knowledge, I was confident that I will not be "played" or "fooled around" with by the seasoned players and can be one of them. However, what I was not prepared for were a mindset call "Temptations".
Temptations are the cause of all 7 deadly sins, and in my case, temptations makes me want to experience everything in the shortest time. This is when the word "NEWBIE" is written all over you face. The experienced one seizes the opportunity of an easy target, with everything to their advantage; a fresh face with an innocent mind.
The only reasons why many newbies think that they are the center of attraction are because cute with an alluring X factor. They felt as if they were at the top of the whole, and with so many choices to choose from, they feel flattered over the attention and get head over heels, thinking that they are in control.
However, in my opinion, newbies get the attention only because they are a new face to the surrounding. You will realise this after clubbing every weekend for a month, everyone including you is seen last week or the week before, and you soon get 'tired' of it, therefore a new face never fails to be the center of attraction.
It is this moment you are most likely to be led into the gray areas, by sweet talks from the attractive guys you had always fantasy of meeting, and feel like heaven now that you are able to touch a live flesh and meat. This is the time you might feel tempted to satisfy your fantasy and decide to go with the flow.
Or it could be your eagerness to get attached and be love by someone, or to have a friend in a new environment. Whatever the case is, I am not saying this to advise everyone to stay in their closet. Instead, I had always encourage people to come out of the closet and be comfortable being themselves.
My advise is to take things slow and try not to let temptations get over your principles. Like I mentioned earlier, some lessons have to be experienced to be learn. Just make sure you stay out of drugs and unsafe sex, this way your mistakes would not ruin your life. Words are cheap, especially when it is coming out from a stranger, prevention is better than cure.
Coming out is always a great thing, in life you are bound to learn some lessons through experience, and sometimes it will led to the occasional heartbreaks and regrets but you will soon get over with when you meet your true love and real friends. You will also realise that there are more colors in life than black and white. Rise up your pride flag and live your "GAY (i.e.happy)" Life.
My word of reminder is that, "Always look back and remember how you were once led to your regrets and mistakes, and remind yourself not become that "JERK" who once fooled or played you when you are a newbie. Whom you might have cursed and swear that one day he will have a rotten Dick.
Let us welcome the Newbies with your arms open, without ill intentions, this is in fact the period they need the most support, as they are taking their first steps into the new whole.
Coming to terms with (learned well from experiences) Me, (trying to to step into the same hole and have a DeJaVu) Myself and (staying away from Newbies) I.
Humming to the song: Diana Ross - I'm Coming Out (Remix)
There's a new me coming out,
And I just had to live, And I wanna give
Im completely positive, I think this time around
I am gonna do it, Like you never do it
Like you never knew it, Ooh, Ill make it through
The time has come for me, To break out of the shell
I have to shout, That Im coming out
Im coming out, I want the world to know, Got to let it show
Coming out is different from being Gay. You can be gay at the age of 18 but come out in your later years. Some might think that acknowledging and being proud of your own sexually is the hardest thing to deal with, you might be wrong.
I prepared myself by reading forums and articles of the circle, to prevent myself from falling into any grey areas, before braving a whole new world. Thinking that I am fully armour with knowledge, I was confident that I will not be "played" or "fooled around" with by the seasoned players and can be one of them. However, what I was not prepared for were a mindset call "Temptations".
Temptations are the cause of all 7 deadly sins, and in my case, temptations makes me want to experience everything in the shortest time. This is when the word "NEWBIE" is written all over you face. The experienced one seizes the opportunity of an easy target, with everything to their advantage; a fresh face with an innocent mind.
The only reasons why many newbies think that they are the center of attraction are because cute with an alluring X factor. They felt as if they were at the top of the whole, and with so many choices to choose from, they feel flattered over the attention and get head over heels, thinking that they are in control.
However, in my opinion, newbies get the attention only because they are a new face to the surrounding. You will realise this after clubbing every weekend for a month, everyone including you is seen last week or the week before, and you soon get 'tired' of it, therefore a new face never fails to be the center of attraction.
It is this moment you are most likely to be led into the gray areas, by sweet talks from the attractive guys you had always fantasy of meeting, and feel like heaven now that you are able to touch a live flesh and meat. This is the time you might feel tempted to satisfy your fantasy and decide to go with the flow.
Or it could be your eagerness to get attached and be love by someone, or to have a friend in a new environment. Whatever the case is, I am not saying this to advise everyone to stay in their closet. Instead, I had always encourage people to come out of the closet and be comfortable being themselves.
My advise is to take things slow and try not to let temptations get over your principles. Like I mentioned earlier, some lessons have to be experienced to be learn. Just make sure you stay out of drugs and unsafe sex, this way your mistakes would not ruin your life. Words are cheap, especially when it is coming out from a stranger, prevention is better than cure.
Coming out is always a great thing, in life you are bound to learn some lessons through experience, and sometimes it will led to the occasional heartbreaks and regrets but you will soon get over with when you meet your true love and real friends. You will also realise that there are more colors in life than black and white. Rise up your pride flag and live your "GAY (i.e.happy)" Life.
My word of reminder is that, "Always look back and remember how you were once led to your regrets and mistakes, and remind yourself not become that "JERK" who once fooled or played you when you are a newbie. Whom you might have cursed and swear that one day he will have a rotten Dick.
Let us welcome the Newbies with your arms open, without ill intentions, this is in fact the period they need the most support, as they are taking their first steps into the new whole.
Coming to terms with (learned well from experiences) Me, (trying to to step into the same hole and have a DeJaVu) Myself and (staying away from Newbies) I.
Humming to the song: Diana Ross - I'm Coming Out (Remix)
There's a new me coming out,
And I just had to live, And I wanna give
Im completely positive, I think this time around
I am gonna do it, Like you never do it
Like you never knew it, Ooh, Ill make it through
The time has come for me, To break out of the shell
I have to shout, That Im coming out
Im coming out, I want the world to know, Got to let it show
Saturday, March 17, 2007
(Surround Sound 7) Life is Beautiful ::Buongiorno Principessa
Actors: Roberto Benigni & Nicoletta Braschi
Synopsis: In 1939, Guido, an Italian Jew, falls in love with Dora, who isn't Jewish. He woos her away from the Fascist official she has been dating, and they get married. Their son Giosue grows up among growing anti-Semitism. As the war progresses, Guido and Giosue are arrested and taken to a concentration camp. Dora goes too, determined not to separate the family. In the midst of the horrors of the camp, Guido protects his son by pretending that survival in the concentration camp is an elaborate game with which Giosue must play along or be sent home.
My Comments (5/5): Different types of love is shown in this film, from Courtship to Fatherly Love. The ending is the most touching. It is also how a person turn negatives into positives for the sake of Love. Touching, the first show I shed tears willing. Bauetiful story.
Trailer: La Vita E Bella
http://www.movie-list.com/l/lifeisbeautiful.shtml
Friday, March 16, 2007
(Issue 29) To Be or not To Be
We know that Love can either make or break a person and very often we meet our friends to share the experience of the "unworthy" man who once brought us down to the knees, sometimes with tears and sorrows. However it is still our choice to either hang on it or to end it, as friends could only offer a shoulder to lean on and give advises that most probably falls into deaf ears.
This moment had befall onto me once in my life, I learned a valuable lesson, and remember never to have my knees anywhere near the ground for a man. Am I a selfish person? To me, my basic condition for a relation is satisfying each others mutual emotional need, without having either party to suffer just to dreadfully maintain a relationship.
From then onwards I became I am emotionally strong and arrogant enough to never let a man have such effect one me, and I would shut off possibilities if I know that a possibly unfruitful relation is about to begin. Do I love myself too much to let the possibilities hurt me? Then again, why go through a relationship when you do not even have the faith in yourself that it will last, only to hurt yourself again?
I believe in instant attractions and chance meetings. Love seem to be so real, ridiculous, consuming and can't-live-without-each-other when you are together. But what matters most is that, do you see yourselves holding hands, working things out, going through tough obstacles while meeting each other emotional needs? Basically, do you have the faith in yourself not to hurt either party or do you think that infatuation is sufficient enough to bring you through every obstacles in life.
I believe, sometimes we have to learn to let go early, leave when things have not turn sour and when there are still presence of beautiful memories, because you never know, maybe one day with a twist of fate, someone or something might bring you together again at a better timing in life.
Love, for me, is as simple as to know that " the one you love will never be hurt by you, and is someone you will go through anything for without hurting yourself." Loving someone does not always means hanging on to him, sometimes we have to learn to let go at the right moment. There is no right or wrong in a relation, it takes two to clap and it also takes two to experience the love within each others heart.
Coming to terms with (arrogant) Me, (preventing) Myself (from getting emotionally bruised) and I (hope you can understand).
Lying on my bed singing to the tune of: 莫文蔚 - 盛夏的果实
" 也许放弃, 才能靠近你, 不再见你, 你才会把我记起 "
" 我要试着离开你, 不要再想你, 虽然这并不是我本意 "
" 别用沉默, 再去掩饰什么, 当结果是那么赤裸裸 "
" 其实不用说什么, 才能离开我, 起码那些经过 属于我 "
" 我以为不露痕迹, 思念却满溢, 或许这代表我的心,
如果你会梦见我, 请你再抱紧我 "
Translation: The Fruits of Midsummer - "Maybe I've to give up to get you near, as You'd recall me if I no longer see you."
"I'll try to leave you, and miss you no more, though not my intention at all."
"Never does silence veil over,When the outcome is painfully bare."
"There is no need to say anything before you leave my world. At least I have those experiences still kept in my mind."
"I thought I left no traces, but my heart brims with yearning, maybe this represent what my heart is feeling. If I show up in your dreams, please hold me tight again."
This moment had befall onto me once in my life, I learned a valuable lesson, and remember never to have my knees anywhere near the ground for a man. Am I a selfish person? To me, my basic condition for a relation is satisfying each others mutual emotional need, without having either party to suffer just to dreadfully maintain a relationship.
From then onwards I became I am emotionally strong and arrogant enough to never let a man have such effect one me, and I would shut off possibilities if I know that a possibly unfruitful relation is about to begin. Do I love myself too much to let the possibilities hurt me? Then again, why go through a relationship when you do not even have the faith in yourself that it will last, only to hurt yourself again?
I believe in instant attractions and chance meetings. Love seem to be so real, ridiculous, consuming and can't-live-without-each-other when you are together. But what matters most is that, do you see yourselves holding hands, working things out, going through tough obstacles while meeting each other emotional needs? Basically, do you have the faith in yourself not to hurt either party or do you think that infatuation is sufficient enough to bring you through every obstacles in life.
I believe, sometimes we have to learn to let go early, leave when things have not turn sour and when there are still presence of beautiful memories, because you never know, maybe one day with a twist of fate, someone or something might bring you together again at a better timing in life.
Love, for me, is as simple as to know that " the one you love will never be hurt by you, and is someone you will go through anything for without hurting yourself." Loving someone does not always means hanging on to him, sometimes we have to learn to let go at the right moment. There is no right or wrong in a relation, it takes two to clap and it also takes two to experience the love within each others heart.
Coming to terms with (arrogant) Me, (preventing) Myself (from getting emotionally bruised) and I (hope you can understand).
Lying on my bed singing to the tune of: 莫文蔚 - 盛夏的果实
" 也许放弃, 才能靠近你, 不再见你, 你才会把我记起 "
" 我要试着离开你, 不要再想你, 虽然这并不是我本意 "
" 别用沉默, 再去掩饰什么, 当结果是那么赤裸裸 "
" 其实不用说什么, 才能离开我, 起码那些经过 属于我 "
" 我以为不露痕迹, 思念却满溢, 或许这代表我的心,
如果你会梦见我, 请你再抱紧我 "
Translation: The Fruits of Midsummer - "Maybe I've to give up to get you near, as You'd recall me if I no longer see you."
"I'll try to leave you, and miss you no more, though not my intention at all."
"Never does silence veil over,When the outcome is painfully bare."
"There is no need to say anything before you leave my world. At least I have those experiences still kept in my mind."
"I thought I left no traces, but my heart brims with yearning, maybe this represent what my heart is feeling. If I show up in your dreams, please hold me tight again."
Thursday, March 15, 2007
(Booty Shaking 10) Mercedes-Benz Fashion Week
Bryant Park never fails to loses its charm to be one of the annual fashion spot. Every year it features American designers displaying their creations and talents. Not forgetting that celebrities will find all ways to get themselves a sit in the front row and back stage to establish their presence.
IMG had put up videos on YouTube whereby you get to check out scenes from Mercedes-Benz Fashion Week. They provide you with insides of a fashion show and the glam. I had inserted a clip on that features Celebrity Trends, and if you connect yourself to the webpage ( http://www.youtube.com/profile_videos?user=IMGVideoClips ) it shows clips from Ralph Rucci & Zac Posen to Calvin Klien, Micheal Kors, Bill Blass & Oscar de la Renta.
Menswear: John Bartlett, Perry Ellis, Lacoste
Go official website to see the entire showcase of designers and their collections : http://mbfashionweek.com/newyork/fall2007/
IMG had put up videos on YouTube whereby you get to check out scenes from Mercedes-Benz Fashion Week. They provide you with insides of a fashion show and the glam. I had inserted a clip on that features Celebrity Trends, and if you connect yourself to the webpage ( http://www.youtube.com/profile_videos?user=IMGVideoClips ) it shows clips from Ralph Rucci & Zac Posen to Calvin Klien, Micheal Kors, Bill Blass & Oscar de la Renta.
Menswear: John Bartlett, Perry Ellis, Lacoste
Go official website to see the entire showcase of designers and their collections : http://mbfashionweek.com/newyork/fall2007/
Wednesday, March 14, 2007
(Issue 28) Beauty
Lately when I last returned to Singapore, I realise many guys who are at least 5 years my senior, regardless of sexuality preference, look younger than I am because of their flawless skin, and I am ashamed to say a handful of them are even 10 years seniority. In addition, I had every friend, both new and old, commented that I look like the thirtysomethings but I took it was a 'joke', as if everyone had decided to ganged up on me to bitch about my single yet fabulous life.
The harsh truth only hit me hard, and got my self-esteem paralyse, when everyone start sending me photos of my trip. They looked like scenes I that were to only be taken on my Big "Three Five" birthday. And adding oil to fire, is that all my friends actually looked like the twentysomethings. I realise that instead of enjoying the benefits of being the youngest among most of my friends, I was brought to utterless shame by looking the oldest in every photo.
My dearest friends defended my mellowness due to stress from work and my breakup, however the I am aware that the truth is that my skin are on strike against my "couldn't give a damn" attitude. It is a lesson well-learned lesson with a heavy emotional price to pay, for not paying enough attention to what had once meant most to me.
I regret taking granted of a god-gift and abused it, while the rest of the world is starting to learn the importance of skin care and even more and more straight men are claiming to be Metrosexual. What is the price of beauty? How much should we spend on keeping ourselves well "doll up" without the miracles of makeups and foundations.
Given to the fact that I am gay, should I had spend more attention on looking fabulous always and spend blindly on skincare products to delay the aging of my skin and postponing the age whereby I would require surgical help. Do I need to reach the age of 40 to realise that it is not possible of me to have a natural birth child, with my partner, to worry about his education fees? I guess spending money now to maintain and improve natural beauty would sum up to be lesser than the cost of a surgery to create a miracle.
Is looking good in appearance an evidence to feeling good inside? What makes a man "masculine" with all the beauty products catering to us? Are we strongly influence by footballers, celebrities and models? Is men no longer judge by the amount of wealth he has (and women by her beauty), or do we have to excel in both? Would it ever happen in the near future whereby men starts to carry around their beauty products and touching up in the toilet? What ever it may be in the future, I am not taking anymore chance and going to my improve skin, hopefully to make men weak on their knees, haa (or at least admire my hopefully flawless skin) when I return in July.
Coming to terms with (going to look outside and therefore feel good inside) Me, (willing spending on products to help me look at least my actual age) Myself and (fabulous always inside out) I.
Slapping on Moisturers while dancing to the tune of: Nelly Furtado - Man Eater
And when she walks she walks with passion
When she talks, she talks like she can handle it
When she asks for something boy she means it
Even if you never ever see it
Everybody get your necks to crack around
All you crazy people come on jump around
You doing anything to keep her by your side
Nelly Furtado - Maneater (Jelo's Toronto & George B. Rework)http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ge_83pYd9yE
The harsh truth only hit me hard, and got my self-esteem paralyse, when everyone start sending me photos of my trip. They looked like scenes I that were to only be taken on my Big "Three Five" birthday. And adding oil to fire, is that all my friends actually looked like the twentysomethings. I realise that instead of enjoying the benefits of being the youngest among most of my friends, I was brought to utterless shame by looking the oldest in every photo.
My dearest friends defended my mellowness due to stress from work and my breakup, however the I am aware that the truth is that my skin are on strike against my "couldn't give a damn" attitude. It is a lesson well-learned lesson with a heavy emotional price to pay, for not paying enough attention to what had once meant most to me.
I regret taking granted of a god-gift and abused it, while the rest of the world is starting to learn the importance of skin care and even more and more straight men are claiming to be Metrosexual. What is the price of beauty? How much should we spend on keeping ourselves well "doll up" without the miracles of makeups and foundations.
Given to the fact that I am gay, should I had spend more attention on looking fabulous always and spend blindly on skincare products to delay the aging of my skin and postponing the age whereby I would require surgical help. Do I need to reach the age of 40 to realise that it is not possible of me to have a natural birth child, with my partner, to worry about his education fees? I guess spending money now to maintain and improve natural beauty would sum up to be lesser than the cost of a surgery to create a miracle.
Is looking good in appearance an evidence to feeling good inside? What makes a man "masculine" with all the beauty products catering to us? Are we strongly influence by footballers, celebrities and models? Is men no longer judge by the amount of wealth he has (and women by her beauty), or do we have to excel in both? Would it ever happen in the near future whereby men starts to carry around their beauty products and touching up in the toilet? What ever it may be in the future, I am not taking anymore chance and going to my improve skin, hopefully to make men weak on their knees, haa (or at least admire my hopefully flawless skin) when I return in July.
Coming to terms with (going to look outside and therefore feel good inside) Me, (willing spending on products to help me look at least my actual age) Myself and (fabulous always inside out) I.
Slapping on Moisturers while dancing to the tune of: Nelly Furtado - Man Eater
And when she walks she walks with passion
When she talks, she talks like she can handle it
When she asks for something boy she means it
Even if you never ever see it
Everybody get your necks to crack around
All you crazy people come on jump around
You doing anything to keep her by your side
Nelly Furtado - Maneater (Jelo's Toronto & George B. Rework)http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ge_83pYd9yE
Tuesday, March 13, 2007
(Love Tales 1) Part 8 Charging Ahead
Exclaimer: I am not the writer to this exciting story. But I am proud to introduce a Beautiful Mind and Soul, Convan. Thanks for allowing me to re-post this article on my blog.
Written and Publish on Sep 29 2005, 10:14 PM
Robbie and JD took the lift to the ground level and walked out of the office building when someone called out to JD. JD turned and saw Hendrix running up to him, "JD, can I talk to you for a second?" said Hendrix. Robbie gave a knowing look and walked away.
JD was feeling embarrassed by Hendrix's action and said, "Mr Hendrix, I really think we should keep our relationship purely professional." Hendrix looked hurt but still managed a smile and said, "JD, just give me a chance to know you better. I was waiting for you till now, at least hear me out. I know it's impulsive but I really hope to know you as a personal friend. Just don't turn me away, ok?"
"Mr Hendrix, you have to understand that my life outside work is totally irrelevant to my work. At work, I have to be professional and I don't meet clients on a personal basis." JD maintained his stance.
"Then don't see me as your client, see me as the guy who bought you drinks at the club. I just want to know you better. This is my personal contact. Keep it." Hendrix stuffed a name card into JD's hands and bid goodbye.
"Whoa. You are quite something eh? That man looked delicious and he obviously is smitten with you. Damn, what's so wonderful about you? That man is a catch and I don't even have such quality man going after me." Robbie joked when both of them sat comfortably at the bar counter in Onyx Club.
"When will you be more serious, Robbie? That guy is getting on my nerves and I am already so preoccupied with the other stuffs!" lamented JD. Robbie gave a pat on JD's shoulders and encouraged, "JD, I have told you not to fall into Kai's trap. He is a player in this field, you are young, fresh, cute and attractive, of course he will target you but you should be wise enough not to see through this infatuation?"
"Why do you keep saying such things, Robbie? I don't think Kai is what you said. He told me that he liked me. He just needed more time to sort things out with his girlfriend." JD argued.
"What?! You guys have developed to this stage already? Have you slept with him? My! How silly can you be? I have warned you numerous times and yet you are still hooked? JD, you are not the first person that Kai said he liked, and you will not be the last!" Robbie finished his sentence without taking a single breath.
JD looked at Robbie unbelievably and quipped, "You mean Kai said such things to you too? He said these things to others as well? That's impossible! Even if he doesn't mean it, at least our kiss is the testament!"
Robbie grabbed JD to face him and whispered, "Both of you kissed? To each other? Of course, what am I asking? But But..he kissed you? Now, that's news. I know Kai is flirtatious but he has never crossed the border of kissing someone. Well, at least he cherishes his kiss, I think. But I can tell you, he has bedded at least 3 female colleagues this past year but darn! He never hits on me."
When JD reached home later that night, he saw Kai's Mazda 5 waiting in the car park. Kai got out immediately when he saw JD, JD quickened his steps and had hoped to avoid Kai but unsuccessfully. "JD, I need to talk to you." Kai pleaded.
Kai drove JD to a nearby reservoir and parked in a quiet corner. Both of them stay quiet for a long while and finally JD broke the silence, "You said you needed to talk, are we talking or not?" Kai tried to hold JD's hands but JD shied away.
Kai took a deep breath and said, "JD, I know I am at fault for lying to you. But I am truthful of my feelings to you. I meant all I said to you, all I ask for is a little more time for me to sort this out with my girlfriend." JD looked at Kai and saw his sad look on his face, he couldn't bear to see such a lovely face looking so sad and replied, "Kai, I felt like an idiot. You have a girlfriend and I am just some guy you kissed. Are you gay? Bisexual? Or confused?"
Exclaimer: I am not the writer to this exciting story. But I am proud to introduce a Beautiful Mind and Soul, Convan. Thanks for allowing me to re-post this article on my blog.
Written and Publish on Sep 29 2005, 10:14 PM
Robbie and JD took the lift to the ground level and walked out of the office building when someone called out to JD. JD turned and saw Hendrix running up to him, "JD, can I talk to you for a second?" said Hendrix. Robbie gave a knowing look and walked away.
JD was feeling embarrassed by Hendrix's action and said, "Mr Hendrix, I really think we should keep our relationship purely professional." Hendrix looked hurt but still managed a smile and said, "JD, just give me a chance to know you better. I was waiting for you till now, at least hear me out. I know it's impulsive but I really hope to know you as a personal friend. Just don't turn me away, ok?"
"Mr Hendrix, you have to understand that my life outside work is totally irrelevant to my work. At work, I have to be professional and I don't meet clients on a personal basis." JD maintained his stance.
"Then don't see me as your client, see me as the guy who bought you drinks at the club. I just want to know you better. This is my personal contact. Keep it." Hendrix stuffed a name card into JD's hands and bid goodbye.
"Whoa. You are quite something eh? That man looked delicious and he obviously is smitten with you. Damn, what's so wonderful about you? That man is a catch and I don't even have such quality man going after me." Robbie joked when both of them sat comfortably at the bar counter in Onyx Club.
"When will you be more serious, Robbie? That guy is getting on my nerves and I am already so preoccupied with the other stuffs!" lamented JD. Robbie gave a pat on JD's shoulders and encouraged, "JD, I have told you not to fall into Kai's trap. He is a player in this field, you are young, fresh, cute and attractive, of course he will target you but you should be wise enough not to see through this infatuation?"
"Why do you keep saying such things, Robbie? I don't think Kai is what you said. He told me that he liked me. He just needed more time to sort things out with his girlfriend." JD argued.
"What?! You guys have developed to this stage already? Have you slept with him? My! How silly can you be? I have warned you numerous times and yet you are still hooked? JD, you are not the first person that Kai said he liked, and you will not be the last!" Robbie finished his sentence without taking a single breath.
JD looked at Robbie unbelievably and quipped, "You mean Kai said such things to you too? He said these things to others as well? That's impossible! Even if he doesn't mean it, at least our kiss is the testament!"
Robbie grabbed JD to face him and whispered, "Both of you kissed? To each other? Of course, what am I asking? But But..he kissed you? Now, that's news. I know Kai is flirtatious but he has never crossed the border of kissing someone. Well, at least he cherishes his kiss, I think. But I can tell you, he has bedded at least 3 female colleagues this past year but darn! He never hits on me."
When JD reached home later that night, he saw Kai's Mazda 5 waiting in the car park. Kai got out immediately when he saw JD, JD quickened his steps and had hoped to avoid Kai but unsuccessfully. "JD, I need to talk to you." Kai pleaded.
Kai drove JD to a nearby reservoir and parked in a quiet corner. Both of them stay quiet for a long while and finally JD broke the silence, "You said you needed to talk, are we talking or not?" Kai tried to hold JD's hands but JD shied away.
Kai took a deep breath and said, "JD, I know I am at fault for lying to you. But I am truthful of my feelings to you. I meant all I said to you, all I ask for is a little more time for me to sort this out with my girlfriend." JD looked at Kai and saw his sad look on his face, he couldn't bear to see such a lovely face looking so sad and replied, "Kai, I felt like an idiot. You have a girlfriend and I am just some guy you kissed. Are you gay? Bisexual? Or confused?"
Exclaimer: I am not the writer to this exciting story. But I am proud to introduce a Beautiful Mind and Soul, Convan. Thanks for allowing me to re-post this article on my blog.
Monday, March 12, 2007
(Issue 27) Opening the Heart to Uncertainties
There are many moments we feel so hurt and at many times we no longer wish to open our vulnerable hearts to the harsh world. But it is always during these moments, love comes to us without warning. Was it a signal we send out, a signal that reads "we need care and concern"? Or were we delusional to take every care and concern from a concern friend/stranger into love/courtship?
I guess it is the fear of loneliness, the desire to be love and the selfishness to start a new relation just to forget the past, that makes us open our heart to a new guy. Could these 'rebound' relationship last? How long should we wait before opening our hearts?
I had this situation, but this is only my side of the story. There was someone who might had waited long enough and decided to brave the world again to open his heart, however I shut the doors, not because there wasn't a connection between us (in fact the connection was mighty strong) but the reason to my actions was that I foresee a possible big obstacle we would not be able to overcome. It was a major obstacle to me because my previous relation ended due to it, LDR.
Regardless of the pursuit, I told him my stand of LDR, a strong foundation. It is because I learned that to be separate for months without physical contact, trust and many other factors are required. I did not want him to open his heart to get hurt. However, I may have forgotten that the heart was already open and feelings had been put in.
There is also part two, where I was in a situation instead. Regardless, we were left speechless, maybe because we were unsure who was the hurting party. To me, it is no longer important. The most important thing for me now is to know that he is doing fine and not close himself behind the doors I slammed in his face.
☆◎☆ "Even if much restrain was acted, i realised that a certain of you still lingers inside me. Sometimes i would wonder where you have been and what you have done. More than anything else, i wonder if you are happy or sad. But i know things will never be the same again, and i will never bring myself to ever ask you." ☆◎☆
When we prepare ourselves to brave the world and open our hearts, should we be prepare to accept rejects? Will it make us reluctant to open our hearts again and give up hope on love? I believe no matter when we are in love or dump there are bound to be moments when our hearts hurts, yet our roads are still long and distant, therefore we have to learn to embrace and move on, instead of lingering over something or someone and wish for a miracle. Be ready to open your heart always, because sometimes the best and the most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen, cannot be touched, but can be felt in the heart.
Coming to terms with (confused) Me, (Stop, Look, Listen, not to listen 100% to my friends or) Myself(, but to my heart) and I (am Sorry).
Singing in the rain to: Toni Braxton & Michael McDonald - Stop, Look and Listen (to your heart)
You're alone all the time, Does it ever puzzle you, did you ask why
You seem to fall in love, and out again, Do you ever really love or just pretend
Oh, baby why fool yourself, Don't be afraid to help yourself
It's never too late, too late to Stop, look, Listen to your heart, hear what it's saying.
Though you try, you can't hide, All the things you really feel, this time decide
That you will open up, and let it in There's no shame in sharing love you feel within
So darling, just jump right in Head over heels, and fall right in
'Cause it's never too late too late to Stop, look, And listen to your heart, hear what it's saying
Dedicated to the special someone, who will always has a place in my heart. Guess we choose the wrong theme song, due to our poor Chinese. Smiles. No matter what happens, we shall walk on to live on. 周杰伦 - 搁浅
久未放晴的天空, 依旧留着你的笑容, 哭过却无法掩埋歉疚
风筝在阴天搁浅,想念还在等待救援, 我拉着线复习你给的温柔
暴晒在一旁的寂寞, 笑我给不起承诺, 怎么会怎么会你竟原谅了我
我只能永远读着对白, 读着我给你的伤害
我原谅不了我, 就请你当作我已不在
我睁开双眼看着空白, 忘记你对我的期待
读完了依赖, 我很快就离开
Translation: Run Aground - "The sky that hasn't cleared up for a while, As usual retains your smile, Cried before Yet no way to bury guilt.
The kite has run aground in the overcast sky, Missing you, still waiting to be saved I'm pulling the string, Reviewing the tenderness you gave
Loneliness that is insolating, Laughing at me for not being able to give a promise
How come, how come, You unexpectedly forgave me.
I can only forever be reading the lines, Reading the hurt I gave you
I cannot forgive myself, Then ask you to regard that I'm already not here
I open my eyes, Looking at the empty space, Forget the expectation you had towards me
Finished reading dependency, I will leave very soon."
I guess it is the fear of loneliness, the desire to be love and the selfishness to start a new relation just to forget the past, that makes us open our heart to a new guy. Could these 'rebound' relationship last? How long should we wait before opening our hearts?
I had this situation, but this is only my side of the story. There was someone who might had waited long enough and decided to brave the world again to open his heart, however I shut the doors, not because there wasn't a connection between us (in fact the connection was mighty strong) but the reason to my actions was that I foresee a possible big obstacle we would not be able to overcome. It was a major obstacle to me because my previous relation ended due to it, LDR.
Regardless of the pursuit, I told him my stand of LDR, a strong foundation. It is because I learned that to be separate for months without physical contact, trust and many other factors are required. I did not want him to open his heart to get hurt. However, I may have forgotten that the heart was already open and feelings had been put in.
There is also part two, where I was in a situation instead. Regardless, we were left speechless, maybe because we were unsure who was the hurting party. To me, it is no longer important. The most important thing for me now is to know that he is doing fine and not close himself behind the doors I slammed in his face.
☆◎☆ "Even if much restrain was acted, i realised that a certain of you still lingers inside me. Sometimes i would wonder where you have been and what you have done. More than anything else, i wonder if you are happy or sad. But i know things will never be the same again, and i will never bring myself to ever ask you." ☆◎☆
When we prepare ourselves to brave the world and open our hearts, should we be prepare to accept rejects? Will it make us reluctant to open our hearts again and give up hope on love? I believe no matter when we are in love or dump there are bound to be moments when our hearts hurts, yet our roads are still long and distant, therefore we have to learn to embrace and move on, instead of lingering over something or someone and wish for a miracle. Be ready to open your heart always, because sometimes the best and the most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen, cannot be touched, but can be felt in the heart.
Coming to terms with (confused) Me, (Stop, Look, Listen, not to listen 100% to my friends or) Myself(, but to my heart) and I (am Sorry).
Singing in the rain to: Toni Braxton & Michael McDonald - Stop, Look and Listen (to your heart)
You're alone all the time, Does it ever puzzle you, did you ask why
You seem to fall in love, and out again, Do you ever really love or just pretend
Oh, baby why fool yourself, Don't be afraid to help yourself
It's never too late, too late to Stop, look, Listen to your heart, hear what it's saying.
Though you try, you can't hide, All the things you really feel, this time decide
That you will open up, and let it in There's no shame in sharing love you feel within
So darling, just jump right in Head over heels, and fall right in
'Cause it's never too late too late to Stop, look, And listen to your heart, hear what it's saying
Dedicated to the special someone, who will always has a place in my heart. Guess we choose the wrong theme song, due to our poor Chinese. Smiles. No matter what happens, we shall walk on to live on. 周杰伦 - 搁浅
久未放晴的天空, 依旧留着你的笑容, 哭过却无法掩埋歉疚
风筝在阴天搁浅,想念还在等待救援, 我拉着线复习你给的温柔
暴晒在一旁的寂寞, 笑我给不起承诺, 怎么会怎么会你竟原谅了我
我只能永远读着对白, 读着我给你的伤害
我原谅不了我, 就请你当作我已不在
我睁开双眼看着空白, 忘记你对我的期待
读完了依赖, 我很快就离开
Translation: Run Aground - "The sky that hasn't cleared up for a while, As usual retains your smile, Cried before Yet no way to bury guilt.
The kite has run aground in the overcast sky, Missing you, still waiting to be saved I'm pulling the string, Reviewing the tenderness you gave
Loneliness that is insolating, Laughing at me for not being able to give a promise
How come, how come, You unexpectedly forgave me.
I can only forever be reading the lines, Reading the hurt I gave you
I cannot forgive myself, Then ask you to regard that I'm already not here
I open my eyes, Looking at the empty space, Forget the expectation you had towards me
Finished reading dependency, I will leave very soon."
Sunday, March 11, 2007
(High Defination 3) Project Runway & Project Catwalk
Project Runway Featuring: Host and Judge Heidi Klum, American Designer and Judge Michael Kors, ELLE magazine fashion director and Judge Nina Garcia & Fashion Chair at Parsons The New School for Design and Metor Tim Gunn.
Project Catwalk Featuring: Season One Host & Judge Elizabeth Hurley, Season Two Host and Judge Kelly Osbourne. Britain's Designer and Judge Julien Macdonald, Britain's Designer and Mentor Ben de Lisi, Season One Judge and Editor-in-Chief of ELLE Lorraine Candy & Season Two Judge Style Director of British Grazia Magazine Paula Reed.
Show Category: Reality
About the Show: Project Runway-
From the minds of the Bravo Network, supermodel Heidi Klum, and Elle Magazine comes Project Runway (a spinoff of the Emmy-nominated series Project Greenlight), an all-new behind-the-scene documentary series and competition set in the other most glamorous business in the world: the fashion industry. Cameras will roll for ten episodes as up-and-coming designers compete in weekly challenges and are given all the resources of a top designer to prepare a competitive runway show for the next New York Fall Fashion Week.
Project Catwalk-
Britain's answer to Project Runway is Project Catwalk, a reality show centered around twelve competing fashion designers. The lucky winner has their collection shown at London Fashion Week among other great rewards.
My Comments (5/5): Love the show and their challenges, the difference between these two shows would be their design point of view, Catwalk presents a British kind of fashion while Runway presents an American Design.
There are two designers whom I think should compete, Austin Scarlett (from Season 1 Project Runway)who is presently designing for Kenneth Pool Wedding Dresses and Christopher Raeburn (from Season 1 Project Catwalk)
I would be featuring their collection for the show soon, stay tune to this post. You can look at their present designs now on:
Austin Scarlett - http://weddings.about.com/od/weddingdressdesigners/ig/Austin-Scarlett-Wedding-Dress/index.htm
Chirstopher Raeburn - http://www.christopherraeburn.co.uk/
Clips:
Project Catwalk Featuring: Season One Host & Judge Elizabeth Hurley, Season Two Host and Judge Kelly Osbourne. Britain's Designer and Judge Julien Macdonald, Britain's Designer and Mentor Ben de Lisi, Season One Judge and Editor-in-Chief of ELLE Lorraine Candy & Season Two Judge Style Director of British Grazia Magazine Paula Reed.
Show Category: Reality
About the Show: Project Runway-
From the minds of the Bravo Network, supermodel Heidi Klum, and Elle Magazine comes Project Runway (a spinoff of the Emmy-nominated series Project Greenlight), an all-new behind-the-scene documentary series and competition set in the other most glamorous business in the world: the fashion industry. Cameras will roll for ten episodes as up-and-coming designers compete in weekly challenges and are given all the resources of a top designer to prepare a competitive runway show for the next New York Fall Fashion Week.
Project Catwalk-
Britain's answer to Project Runway is Project Catwalk, a reality show centered around twelve competing fashion designers. The lucky winner has their collection shown at London Fashion Week among other great rewards.
My Comments (5/5): Love the show and their challenges, the difference between these two shows would be their design point of view, Catwalk presents a British kind of fashion while Runway presents an American Design.
There are two designers whom I think should compete, Austin Scarlett (from Season 1 Project Runway)who is presently designing for Kenneth Pool Wedding Dresses and Christopher Raeburn (from Season 1 Project Catwalk)
I would be featuring their collection for the show soon, stay tune to this post. You can look at their present designs now on:
Austin Scarlett - http://weddings.about.com/od/weddingdressdesigners/ig/Austin-Scarlett-Wedding-Dress/index.htm
Chirstopher Raeburn - http://www.christopherraeburn.co.uk/
Clips:
Saturday, March 10, 2007
(Issue 26) Married
How do we define ourselves as married? Legally their is nothing to bind us together, could it be a joint ownership of a house or adopting a child and raise them like a straight couple would.
Many of us are not ready for a joint ownership of a house, although it is the thing most married couple would do. Is it because we want to have a place over our own to run to when things fall apart, but if you are considering marrying one another should this thought be in your mind?
As for adopting a child, we can never see raising a child as a gay couple would be healthy, however did we think of the abandon child's present future (education and career wise) and his life after adoption? And why is it not legal for a gay parent to raise the child, are we abnormal? Face it many straights are no as loving as gays, so why the biased against us? Is it because it is difficult for the child to acknowledge that he has two fathers? Instead can't we bring him up as two uncles? Then again knowing how vulnerable a relation might come to for us, is it wise to have a pet dog instead of a child?
How do we consider ourselves as married? Holding a ceremony with friends and family or having weekend breakfast with your in-laws? No matter what I guess we are considered marry, not when we can live together under the same roof but it is when we can't live without one another. Thumb of rule, hang on and learn to close one eye along the way. We do not have to worry because even when both of you closes one eye each, you still have two eyes looking, just hold on to each other tight (but if you still find yourselves falling into a hole, it shows you guys are not coordinated enough to walk together).
Coming to terms with (hopefully someone would marry) Me, (and so I wouldn't have to live all by) Myself and (loved to be love and provide love) I.
Singing happily to the tune: 林忆莲 - 至少还有你
如果全世界我也可以放弃
至少还有你值得我去珍惜
而你在这里就是生命的奇迹
Translation: At Least You Are Here - "I may give up the whole world
at least you are here, deserving/be worthy of my treasure/cherish
while you are here, it is the miracle of life"
Many of us are not ready for a joint ownership of a house, although it is the thing most married couple would do. Is it because we want to have a place over our own to run to when things fall apart, but if you are considering marrying one another should this thought be in your mind?
As for adopting a child, we can never see raising a child as a gay couple would be healthy, however did we think of the abandon child's present future (education and career wise) and his life after adoption? And why is it not legal for a gay parent to raise the child, are we abnormal? Face it many straights are no as loving as gays, so why the biased against us? Is it because it is difficult for the child to acknowledge that he has two fathers? Instead can't we bring him up as two uncles? Then again knowing how vulnerable a relation might come to for us, is it wise to have a pet dog instead of a child?
How do we consider ourselves as married? Holding a ceremony with friends and family or having weekend breakfast with your in-laws? No matter what I guess we are considered marry, not when we can live together under the same roof but it is when we can't live without one another. Thumb of rule, hang on and learn to close one eye along the way. We do not have to worry because even when both of you closes one eye each, you still have two eyes looking, just hold on to each other tight (but if you still find yourselves falling into a hole, it shows you guys are not coordinated enough to walk together).
Coming to terms with (hopefully someone would marry) Me, (and so I wouldn't have to live all by) Myself and (loved to be love and provide love) I.
Singing happily to the tune: 林忆莲 - 至少还有你
如果全世界我也可以放弃
至少还有你值得我去珍惜
而你在这里就是生命的奇迹
Translation: At Least You Are Here - "I may give up the whole world
at least you are here, deserving/be worthy of my treasure/cherish
while you are here, it is the miracle of life"
Friday, March 09, 2007
(Booty Shaking 9) Elizabeth Hurley, Versace & the 90s
Event: Elizabeth Hurley & Arun Nayar Wedding
Location: Sudeley Castle in Gloucestershire England
Date: Saturday evening March 3rd, 2007
Exclusively designed Versace Atelier wedding gown was created in a luxurious ice white French chiffon and silk tulle (way classier looking than her well known, 1994's notorious black Versace dress held together with gold safety pins, which indirectly launched her career).
As expected, Donatella completed her British Muse lavish Wedding bash with lots of her creation from the flower girls (one of which is the daughter of Tamara Mellon, the creator of Jimmy Choo) and page boys (one of which the son of Elle Macpherson) to the bride's evening dress.
Elizabeth Hurley, actress/model/host/designer, must have retired from hosting Project Catwalk (Britain's version of Project Runway) for this lifetime event.
Designer: Italian Donatella Versace (took over her late brother Gianni Versace(murdered in 1997) Fashion Empire Legacy in 1998 with her first Spring Collection). Moving on from being her brother's Muse, to having her own Liz Hurley.
With comparison, after taking over the Medusa Throne for 10 years, her gay late brother still knows how to make a statement. For us guys, who can forget his Medusa men's underwear, which was the only worthy competitor to Calvin Klien's. I guess the crown her brother created was too HUGE to be carried off by anyone.
Or was it because no one in the Millennium had achieve the fashion hype of the 90s, with Italian Gianni Versace presence, New Yorker Tom Ford as Creative Director of Gucci & Yves Saint Laurent, British John Galliano as Chief Designer at Givenchy, Dior & LVMH Moet Hennessy Louis Vuitton, Paris legend Karl Lagerfeld making statements in Chanel, New Yorker Marc Jacobs making his own statement in 94' then moved to create Louis Vuitton First Ready-to-Wear line in 97' and British Vivienne Westwood lace-up platform boots in 93'(which brought Naomi to her knees).
Not forgetting the Real Supermodels - Cindy Crawford, Linda Evangelista, Naomi Campbell, Christy Turlington (these four also created a fashion most memorable history by appearing together in Gianni 91' A/W show in Milan), Kate Moss, Claudia Schiffer, etc etc etc.
Donatella Versace Spring/Summer 07:
Gianni Versace Fall/Winter 97:
Thursday, March 08, 2007
(Issue 25) Label Queens
Listening to my latest favourite dance track, I feel so compel to write about Label Queens. Was I one of them or a fashion victim?
I remembered the Secondary School days during my era, many would tell you how much of a "Fashionista" we were. Jean Paul rules the men school bags and wallets while Chantal and Sonia conquer the ladies. If you think that it is overspending, you are wrong as we challenge ourselves into part time jobs or our parents wallet as things starts to get more competitive. Any Fashionista who not want to be seen carrying the same item within the same breathing space.
We actually sold our two months old Junior Gaultier bags and stop carrying bags once and for all. But Label Queenies doesn't give up that easily, we start a whole new trend of carrying paper bags instead, worshipping designers from Milan, New York, Paris and London. It was like Olympus Fashion Week at Bryant Park. Those were the fun and ignorance times, but a very expensive lesson especially during the rainy seasons.
Why do we worship these designers? Is it because our designer friends are as gay as we are, or did they paint an image inside our head that we can look like their models and their spokes-person on their ad-campaigns? Could it all voice down to a status recognition, if so is it important to differentiate the real from the sea of fakes?
I had someone complain that even her closest friend suggested her authentic Vuitton is from Ohina (a new country created by imitators as they Stamp the 'C' into an 'O'). Do we need a "TaiTai" / "Ah Lian" image or stick our noses high just to pull it off? And if we are going for the Design and not the Designer, does it matter if it is a Fake, after all it is going to stay in our "Collection Closet" once a new design is out of season?
The reason why I choose the Authentic beauty over the Fake copy is when it is a classic design that doesn't die out, therefore quality and workmanship comes first. Other that that, I would buy clothes or bags from non-internationally famous but still fabulous designers closer to home. I matured after realising how much more expensive were my disposable bags in comparison to the School fees I pay during my Secondary School Daze.
Nowadays, I believe fashion is more of an individualism statement; what you wear tells a story of your inner personality and character, as lesser are following the trend blindly. Most importantly, regardless whether Pink is the new Black or whether you still need to queue for a Berkin, just remember to keep it real to yourself, because you don't look good if you don't feel good.
Coming to terms with (Brand-conscious) Me, (Thinking twice before purchasing for the name of Fashion) Myself and (Keeping it Real) I.
Shaking my booty on the catwalk to: Jimmy James - ☆Fashionista☆
Everybody line up, The show is about to start
Places, the show is about to start
You have to show a look, have a look, or give a look
Faces, beautiful, No one ugly allowed
This is a clip for those crazy Vuitton Fans "Superflat Monogram" Japanese Commercial by Mamoru Hosoda. Song name: Fantastic Plastic Machine - "Different Colors".
I remembered the Secondary School days during my era, many would tell you how much of a "Fashionista" we were. Jean Paul rules the men school bags and wallets while Chantal and Sonia conquer the ladies. If you think that it is overspending, you are wrong as we challenge ourselves into part time jobs or our parents wallet as things starts to get more competitive. Any Fashionista who not want to be seen carrying the same item within the same breathing space.
We actually sold our two months old Junior Gaultier bags and stop carrying bags once and for all. But Label Queenies doesn't give up that easily, we start a whole new trend of carrying paper bags instead, worshipping designers from Milan, New York, Paris and London. It was like Olympus Fashion Week at Bryant Park. Those were the fun and ignorance times, but a very expensive lesson especially during the rainy seasons.
Why do we worship these designers? Is it because our designer friends are as gay as we are, or did they paint an image inside our head that we can look like their models and their spokes-person on their ad-campaigns? Could it all voice down to a status recognition, if so is it important to differentiate the real from the sea of fakes?
I had someone complain that even her closest friend suggested her authentic Vuitton is from Ohina (a new country created by imitators as they Stamp the 'C' into an 'O'). Do we need a "TaiTai" / "Ah Lian" image or stick our noses high just to pull it off? And if we are going for the Design and not the Designer, does it matter if it is a Fake, after all it is going to stay in our "Collection Closet" once a new design is out of season?
The reason why I choose the Authentic beauty over the Fake copy is when it is a classic design that doesn't die out, therefore quality and workmanship comes first. Other that that, I would buy clothes or bags from non-internationally famous but still fabulous designers closer to home. I matured after realising how much more expensive were my disposable bags in comparison to the School fees I pay during my Secondary School Daze.
Nowadays, I believe fashion is more of an individualism statement; what you wear tells a story of your inner personality and character, as lesser are following the trend blindly. Most importantly, regardless whether Pink is the new Black or whether you still need to queue for a Berkin, just remember to keep it real to yourself, because you don't look good if you don't feel good.
Coming to terms with (Brand-conscious) Me, (Thinking twice before purchasing for the name of Fashion) Myself and (Keeping it Real) I.
Shaking my booty on the catwalk to: Jimmy James - ☆Fashionista☆
Everybody line up, The show is about to start
Places, the show is about to start
You have to show a look, have a look, or give a look
Faces, beautiful, No one ugly allowed
This is a clip for those crazy Vuitton Fans "Superflat Monogram" Japanese Commercial by Mamoru Hosoda. Song name: Fantastic Plastic Machine - "Different Colors".
Wednesday, March 07, 2007
(Love Tales 1) Part 7 Competition
Exclaimer: I am not the writer to this exciting story. But I am proud to introduce a Beautiful Mind and Soul, Convan. Thanks for allowing me to re-post this article on my blog.
Written and Publish on Sep 26 2005, 09:59 PM
JD walked straight to Kai's cubicle, and found him chatting on the phone. He scribbled something on a post it note for Kai and headed to the Gents. JD was standing by the window, which overlook part of Shenton Way, when Kai walked in the Gents. JD turned around and asked, "What went wrong? You hung up on me yesterday and were unreachable the whole night! What have I done wrong? Who were you with last night?"
"JD, you have to listen to me and give me a chance to explain myself. You know I am attached, right? I was with my girlfriend, we are staying together. You have to give me some time to work this out." Kai stammered, he has never been this ineloquent. JD shot back, "You never tell me you are staying with your girlfriend! What about the sweet nothings you told me last night? What time do you need? It's her or me. Are you toying with my feelings? Are you trying to prove you are a great Casanova?"
"Please don't flare up, JD. You have to understand my predicament, I can't just break off with my girlfriend. I meant what I said last night, I really do like you. But I need time to sort this out with her. I have never meant to toy with your feelings. Why should I do that?" Kai pleaded. JD's heart melted when he saw Kai's pleading eyes, how he love those pair of mesmerizing eyes and he softened his tone, "I am just angry that you have never told me that you are staying with your girlfriend. I mean you were kissing me so passionately last night and we were holding hands on the journey back and you were saying so many sweet things to me but when you went home, you were sleeping with another person. How could you do that? I don't want to be a third party or being used as a tool, Kai, you have to decide what you want. I can't and won't be waiting for you aimlessly."
Kai stepped forward and wanted to hold JD when the door swung open, and Robbie stood in the doorway, looking at the awkward position of JD and Kai. "Ok, this is not the handicapped toilet right? Which means it's for public use? I hope I am not disrupting anything." Robbie said with his eyes wide open. "Robbie, you are such a pain in the ass!" JD blurted out before shoving Robbie away.
"Hey JD, I just want to tell you I am not angry with your abrasive behaviour in the Gents earlier and I don't need you to apologize." Robbie walked over to JD's cubicle once he is back from the Gents. JD took a cold look at Robbie and said, "I have no intention to apologize or whatsoever." Robbie leaned forward and whispered, "JD, don't say I didn't warn you, you are no match for Kai. If you need advice, I am just round the corner."
It was already 8.30pm when Robbie walked over to JD and smiled, "JD, you don't have to finish everything everyday, let's go for a drink, I buy you." JD looked up with his tired eyes and wondered what went wrong with Robbie, he said coldly, "Robbie, I am not in a mood to start a bitching war. We have never been on the same wavelength, why are you doing this?"
Robbie pulled a chair over and plonked his toned ass on it, "JD, this is my character. I know I am overbearing and have a weird sense of humour. I have never thought of setting myself against you. There's not a need for this animosity, moreover we are sisters. I just like to make fun of you, maybe a little overboard."
"Please Robbie, this is the last time I am telling you, I might be proud of me being gay but I am not your sister!" JD stared at Robbie and snared. "Hahaha, ok ok! So shall we pack up and go for a drink and get to know each other all over again?" Robbie laughed.
"Ok! You won. I will go with you and mind you, it's your treat!" JD said wearily.
Exclaimer: I am not the writer to this exciting story. But I am proud to introduce a Beautiful Mind and Soul, Convan. Thanks for allowing me to re-post this article on my blog.
Written and Publish on Sep 26 2005, 09:59 PM
JD walked straight to Kai's cubicle, and found him chatting on the phone. He scribbled something on a post it note for Kai and headed to the Gents. JD was standing by the window, which overlook part of Shenton Way, when Kai walked in the Gents. JD turned around and asked, "What went wrong? You hung up on me yesterday and were unreachable the whole night! What have I done wrong? Who were you with last night?"
"JD, you have to listen to me and give me a chance to explain myself. You know I am attached, right? I was with my girlfriend, we are staying together. You have to give me some time to work this out." Kai stammered, he has never been this ineloquent. JD shot back, "You never tell me you are staying with your girlfriend! What about the sweet nothings you told me last night? What time do you need? It's her or me. Are you toying with my feelings? Are you trying to prove you are a great Casanova?"
"Please don't flare up, JD. You have to understand my predicament, I can't just break off with my girlfriend. I meant what I said last night, I really do like you. But I need time to sort this out with her. I have never meant to toy with your feelings. Why should I do that?" Kai pleaded. JD's heart melted when he saw Kai's pleading eyes, how he love those pair of mesmerizing eyes and he softened his tone, "I am just angry that you have never told me that you are staying with your girlfriend. I mean you were kissing me so passionately last night and we were holding hands on the journey back and you were saying so many sweet things to me but when you went home, you were sleeping with another person. How could you do that? I don't want to be a third party or being used as a tool, Kai, you have to decide what you want. I can't and won't be waiting for you aimlessly."
Kai stepped forward and wanted to hold JD when the door swung open, and Robbie stood in the doorway, looking at the awkward position of JD and Kai. "Ok, this is not the handicapped toilet right? Which means it's for public use? I hope I am not disrupting anything." Robbie said with his eyes wide open. "Robbie, you are such a pain in the ass!" JD blurted out before shoving Robbie away.
"Hey JD, I just want to tell you I am not angry with your abrasive behaviour in the Gents earlier and I don't need you to apologize." Robbie walked over to JD's cubicle once he is back from the Gents. JD took a cold look at Robbie and said, "I have no intention to apologize or whatsoever." Robbie leaned forward and whispered, "JD, don't say I didn't warn you, you are no match for Kai. If you need advice, I am just round the corner."
It was already 8.30pm when Robbie walked over to JD and smiled, "JD, you don't have to finish everything everyday, let's go for a drink, I buy you." JD looked up with his tired eyes and wondered what went wrong with Robbie, he said coldly, "Robbie, I am not in a mood to start a bitching war. We have never been on the same wavelength, why are you doing this?"
Robbie pulled a chair over and plonked his toned ass on it, "JD, this is my character. I know I am overbearing and have a weird sense of humour. I have never thought of setting myself against you. There's not a need for this animosity, moreover we are sisters. I just like to make fun of you, maybe a little overboard."
"Please Robbie, this is the last time I am telling you, I might be proud of me being gay but I am not your sister!" JD stared at Robbie and snared. "Hahaha, ok ok! So shall we pack up and go for a drink and get to know each other all over again?" Robbie laughed.
"Ok! You won. I will go with you and mind you, it's your treat!" JD said wearily.
Exclaimer: I am not the writer to this exciting story. But I am proud to introduce a Beautiful Mind and Soul, Convan. Thanks for allowing me to re-post this article on my blog.
Tuesday, March 06, 2007
(Issue 24) Screen Pals
To everyone out there, each of us belongs to a different class of friends:
Class 1 (Boyfriend): The close and ideal guys, whom we open our heart to and hope that the love would flourish and bloom into a never-ending fairy tale relationship.
Class 2 (Soul-Mates): Those we open our hearts to but not our legs (Haa). These are those we love to hang out with to have fun all the time, gossip and laze around. But best of all, they will make time to hear you out and be there when you need them most.
Class 3 (Ex-...): They could be Exs from relationships, work or school. They are the group of friends that invite you for gatherings or send you a big red bomb to their wedding, which you had to practically drag yourself over. They are the group of friends that refreshes your childhood memories and hopefully they mention all the non-embarrassing moments.
Class 4 (Acquaintances): They might include to be your friend's friends, but basically they are classified into two types, either the "Hi-Bye friend" or those that call and message you just for a favor.
Class 5 (Screen Pal): They are better known as Pen-Pals during my younger years, when technology isn't that common. We either know this group of friends through chat rooms, forums or interactive profile correspondences. We are able to typed all our woes about our families and enemies, share forbidden gossips and secrets on closest friends, and revealed our darkest secrets to. They seems to be the perfect one to whom you can speak freely without resriction and feel the most closest to. But sometimes I would wonder why would such a friend disappear within time or later distanced after the met-up.
Sometimes we have create a scenario of a cold war for no particular reasons, they are in our long list of MSN friends whom we add and now both parties are just waiting for one other to start the conversation. Some would block them to avoid embrassement, some would clear their entire list by creating a new account.
Was is it because of high expectations of a possible relation, after all we seem to have the common foes, likes and dislike? And why is it easier to chat freely with a stranger? Could it be because, he who doesn't know you will not judge you and therefore it seems like a close link between you two, after all we are looking for an listening ear, and somethings are better understand by a stranger because they take us as a blank paper and fill an image of with the words we choose to say.
Words are cheap, and therefore it may not be the truth, nothing is absolute in this world and even it is the truth, we soon realise that there is both sides to a story. Sometimes what we see and hear may not connect. Some of us may be disappointed by the face of the unknown, forgot about the past emotional image and form a new first impression with the physical image. Others worried that they will reveal their secrets, now that he has a face to connect your stories with.
Was it the distance that provides us with the security to open up? Or are we timid to receive immediate facial or physical response? Could it be sub consiously we allow the the physical shell always comes before the emotion heart?
Coming to terms with (contradicting) Me, (Opening) Myself (up to everyone) and (uncertain what do others think of) I.
Singing to the screen to: You Don't Know Me - Michael Bublé
You give your hand to me, And then you say good-bye
I watch you walk away, Beside the lucky guy
You'll never never know, The one who loves you so
Well, you don't know me
Class 1 (Boyfriend): The close and ideal guys, whom we open our heart to and hope that the love would flourish and bloom into a never-ending fairy tale relationship.
Class 2 (Soul-Mates): Those we open our hearts to but not our legs (Haa). These are those we love to hang out with to have fun all the time, gossip and laze around. But best of all, they will make time to hear you out and be there when you need them most.
Class 3 (Ex-...): They could be Exs from relationships, work or school. They are the group of friends that invite you for gatherings or send you a big red bomb to their wedding, which you had to practically drag yourself over. They are the group of friends that refreshes your childhood memories and hopefully they mention all the non-embarrassing moments.
Class 4 (Acquaintances): They might include to be your friend's friends, but basically they are classified into two types, either the "Hi-Bye friend" or those that call and message you just for a favor.
Class 5 (Screen Pal): They are better known as Pen-Pals during my younger years, when technology isn't that common. We either know this group of friends through chat rooms, forums or interactive profile correspondences. We are able to typed all our woes about our families and enemies, share forbidden gossips and secrets on closest friends, and revealed our darkest secrets to. They seems to be the perfect one to whom you can speak freely without resriction and feel the most closest to. But sometimes I would wonder why would such a friend disappear within time or later distanced after the met-up.
Sometimes we have create a scenario of a cold war for no particular reasons, they are in our long list of MSN friends whom we add and now both parties are just waiting for one other to start the conversation. Some would block them to avoid embrassement, some would clear their entire list by creating a new account.
Was is it because of high expectations of a possible relation, after all we seem to have the common foes, likes and dislike? And why is it easier to chat freely with a stranger? Could it be because, he who doesn't know you will not judge you and therefore it seems like a close link between you two, after all we are looking for an listening ear, and somethings are better understand by a stranger because they take us as a blank paper and fill an image of with the words we choose to say.
Words are cheap, and therefore it may not be the truth, nothing is absolute in this world and even it is the truth, we soon realise that there is both sides to a story. Sometimes what we see and hear may not connect. Some of us may be disappointed by the face of the unknown, forgot about the past emotional image and form a new first impression with the physical image. Others worried that they will reveal their secrets, now that he has a face to connect your stories with.
Was it the distance that provides us with the security to open up? Or are we timid to receive immediate facial or physical response? Could it be sub consiously we allow the the physical shell always comes before the emotion heart?
Coming to terms with (contradicting) Me, (Opening) Myself (up to everyone) and (uncertain what do others think of) I.
Singing to the screen to: You Don't Know Me - Michael Bublé
You give your hand to me, And then you say good-bye
I watch you walk away, Beside the lucky guy
You'll never never know, The one who loves you so
Well, you don't know me
Monday, March 05, 2007
(Surround Sound 6) Remember the Titans
Actors: Denzel Washington, Will Patton, Wood Harris, Ryan Hurst & Donald Faison.
Synopsis: In the early 1970s, two schools in Alexandria Virginia integrate forming T.C. Williams High School. The Caucasian head coach of the Titans is replaced by an African American coach from North Carolina. Tensions arise when players of different races are forced together on the same football team. Many of these tensions are eased during the two-week training camp in Gettysburg, Pennsylvania. When players returned to Alexandria the players found the city in turmoil due to the forced desegregation of the high school. As the season progresses the team's success caused the community to accept the changes. After the Titans' perfect season, the team and the city were closer than ever. (Based on a True Story)
My Comments (5/5): Seen this show during my NS movie night at Taiwan, just before out final Out-Field Test. A powerful inspirational film that talks about teamwork and brotherhood, working together despite differences. I know it touched me real deep inside and tears were at nose level, but I force myself not to show emotions in front of my men, haa. It was the right show at the right moment, that relates so much to our situation then. I even remember my men humming to the tune while our long and tiring 6hrs Full-Battle Order Road March to battle objective.
Trailer:
Songs From the Movie: Steam - Na Na Hey Hey Kiss Him Goodbye
(This is the original singer version, the movie version has more soul power).
Sunday, March 04, 2007
(Issue 23) Physical Looks
Better looking guys are a constant feast for the eyes and a target for cruising, in addition we also let them get away with the things more things that the average Joe, in most real life situations. Contrary, they are also the ones that get negative first impression on their commitment level. Is it sour grapes from the average Joes or did they spoil their own market value by charming their way to get the things they want?
I understand that most of their job nature requires a certain above the average look to 'smith' or 'sweet talk' customers into using their products or services, if so could it be the job environment that molds them into their present selves? Or were they spoiled by the large variety of choices thrown to them willing as "free samples"?
For the good looking, Will they be able to keep up with the trends of good looks to enjoy their current benefits as we moved from one age group check-box to another? Most importantly, will their negative first impression image fade away together with their charm or will the bad reputation they build up during the years stick with them forever?
I am do know a handful of better looking guys that are a pleasure to the eyes with excellent personalities, and in fact they are the victims in most cases, therefore is it fair to stereotype them, or did we let our insecurities of having a cute partner get on top of us? On the other hand, are the average Joes more likely to stray in a relation because they are not familiar with the extra attention, therefore has less self control?
Beauty lies in the eye of the beholder and everyone is a door bitch to their queue of suitors or cruiser. We no longer look at the legal age limit alone for them to gain entry (into our lives, as partners or friends), and this is how nature works, initially when there is a short queue we allowed everyone in, and as the club gains it's popularity we start to have VIP excess with the average Joes wait for their turn, and as the club gets to a close full house, we set a higher standard for entry/re-entry and sometimes the ugly side of you will ignore or bitch our very first customers.
We might not be the good looking "trophy" friend everyone wants to have to boast around, and we complained about being singleton due to our lack of physical qualities, but most of us still choose to strike conversation with a guy who appeals to us physically than say, "Oh I want to know him more because he has such a good heart" on first contact.
Coming to terms with (judging and being judged) Me, (constantly improving my physical shell and spiritual) Myself and (believes that what goes around comes around) I.
Singing in the rain to: TLC - Unpretty
"You can buy your hair if it won't grow
You can fix your nose if he says so
You can buy all the make up, That man can make
But if you can't look inside you, Find out who am I too
Be in the position to make me feel, So damn unpretty
I'll make you unpretty too"
I understand that most of their job nature requires a certain above the average look to 'smith' or 'sweet talk' customers into using their products or services, if so could it be the job environment that molds them into their present selves? Or were they spoiled by the large variety of choices thrown to them willing as "free samples"?
For the good looking, Will they be able to keep up with the trends of good looks to enjoy their current benefits as we moved from one age group check-box to another? Most importantly, will their negative first impression image fade away together with their charm or will the bad reputation they build up during the years stick with them forever?
I am do know a handful of better looking guys that are a pleasure to the eyes with excellent personalities, and in fact they are the victims in most cases, therefore is it fair to stereotype them, or did we let our insecurities of having a cute partner get on top of us? On the other hand, are the average Joes more likely to stray in a relation because they are not familiar with the extra attention, therefore has less self control?
Beauty lies in the eye of the beholder and everyone is a door bitch to their queue of suitors or cruiser. We no longer look at the legal age limit alone for them to gain entry (into our lives, as partners or friends), and this is how nature works, initially when there is a short queue we allowed everyone in, and as the club gains it's popularity we start to have VIP excess with the average Joes wait for their turn, and as the club gets to a close full house, we set a higher standard for entry/re-entry and sometimes the ugly side of you will ignore or bitch our very first customers.
We might not be the good looking "trophy" friend everyone wants to have to boast around, and we complained about being singleton due to our lack of physical qualities, but most of us still choose to strike conversation with a guy who appeals to us physically than say, "Oh I want to know him more because he has such a good heart" on first contact.
Coming to terms with (judging and being judged) Me, (constantly improving my physical shell and spiritual) Myself and (believes that what goes around comes around) I.
Singing in the rain to: TLC - Unpretty
"You can buy your hair if it won't grow
You can fix your nose if he says so
You can buy all the make up, That man can make
But if you can't look inside you, Find out who am I too
Be in the position to make me feel, So damn unpretty
I'll make you unpretty too"
Saturday, March 03, 2007
(Booty Shaking 8) Project Catwalk Season One Designs
Project Catwalk Designers showing their work at London's Fashion Week. Host and Judge Elizabeth Hurley. Also judged by British Designers Julien Macdonald & Ben de Lisi and Editor-in-Chief of Elle Magazine Lorraine Candy.
Winner Kirsty Doyle, followed by Matthew Bowkett and last but not least Debi Walker
Kirsty Doyle Collection
Matthew Bowkett Collection
Debi Walker Collection
Winner Kirsty Doyle, followed by Matthew Bowkett and last but not least Debi Walker
Kirsty Doyle Collection
Matthew Bowkett Collection
Debi Walker Collection
Friday, March 02, 2007
(Issue 22) Safe sex
Is there actually safe sex? I am not talking about the physical aspect over here, but the emotional roller-coaster ride many had gone through after sex with their partners or the so called "feeling some sparks" guys. Do we blocked out all the red flags after we slept with a man? In fact many of us make up excuses, for him not even to call you after that one time so call "good connection" sex you had.
There are tons of excuses we either heard or came up with before, "He might be too busy coping with work", "He has just came out from a bad relation and need more time to sort things out", "He needs more time to talk to his present partner whom he said to lost all his feelings for", "His mobile maybe out of battery, which soon becomes he most probably lost his mobile, then becomes I think he misheard the wrong digit when we exchanged numbers", "He might be waiting for me to make a move because he doesn't know what I am interested or not" or the worst is "He is uncertain about his sexuality preference".
However, had we considered that he is simply not interested instead of making up an excuse for someone whom you do not actually known that well, just to buff your way through and not to face the rejection as a "fun affair"? Instead we belittled ourselves and then find no confidence in moving on, thinking, "What had I said wrongly? Or was it the way I acted?", and then the "Coulda, Woulda and Shoulda". Trust if he is interest he can reach you easily and everyone is just a phone call away. How unreachable can one person be with all the modern technology (example. emails) around and the great fact is that almost everyone knows anyone in this circle and there is only that few places we can be hanging around. And who can't take a minute off the 1,400 minutes we have in en entire day to call or drop a message on who sweet you are?
Then again, I do know of couples that are together emotionally over a period of time, however they call it off either after constant rejection from sex or their first sex experience (but also giving credit to those who manage to have 5 max). Also not forgetting those that will sweet talk others after they seen their profiles on the internet and want to meet them out as friends. We soon much later learned that their ultimate goal is to get into your pants and dump you after that. I am not saying that these are not a good source to find great friends or look for sex (as long as both parties are mutual on it), but how detail can a profile be on the person's personality to warn you (let alone how many percent of them are real facts)?
We are all aware that surviving in this world is tough enough, and even as harsh as words can be, sometimes we need to be said in the face that things are not going to happen rather than to have the heart, with a whole lot of emotions, and mind messed up with delusional thoughts which indirectly affects other aspects of our daily life. I thank those who are truthful enough to be straight-forward to end an one day or a short affair on the spot rather than to prolong the 'misery' by giving false hopes. I believe that the shorter the duration, the faster the healing process, the quicker we pick ourselves up and moved on.
Coming to terms with (being able to move on fast and easy after knowing that we can't move on from there) Me, (having safe emotional and physical sex) Myself and (decided to be smart from now on) I.
(Love the lyrics)
Singing in the rain to: 潘玮柏-谢谢
谢谢你的结束冷却后的残酷
谢谢你的知足告诉我别再付出
谢谢你的温度记忆留在最初
谢谢你曾让我幸福
Tanslation: Thank you - (Can anyone help me on this?)
There are tons of excuses we either heard or came up with before, "He might be too busy coping with work", "He has just came out from a bad relation and need more time to sort things out", "He needs more time to talk to his present partner whom he said to lost all his feelings for", "His mobile maybe out of battery, which soon becomes he most probably lost his mobile, then becomes I think he misheard the wrong digit when we exchanged numbers", "He might be waiting for me to make a move because he doesn't know what I am interested or not" or the worst is "He is uncertain about his sexuality preference".
However, had we considered that he is simply not interested instead of making up an excuse for someone whom you do not actually known that well, just to buff your way through and not to face the rejection as a "fun affair"? Instead we belittled ourselves and then find no confidence in moving on, thinking, "What had I said wrongly? Or was it the way I acted?", and then the "Coulda, Woulda and Shoulda". Trust if he is interest he can reach you easily and everyone is just a phone call away. How unreachable can one person be with all the modern technology (example. emails) around and the great fact is that almost everyone knows anyone in this circle and there is only that few places we can be hanging around. And who can't take a minute off the 1,400 minutes we have in en entire day to call or drop a message on who sweet you are?
Then again, I do know of couples that are together emotionally over a period of time, however they call it off either after constant rejection from sex or their first sex experience (but also giving credit to those who manage to have 5 max). Also not forgetting those that will sweet talk others after they seen their profiles on the internet and want to meet them out as friends. We soon much later learned that their ultimate goal is to get into your pants and dump you after that. I am not saying that these are not a good source to find great friends or look for sex (as long as both parties are mutual on it), but how detail can a profile be on the person's personality to warn you (let alone how many percent of them are real facts)?
We are all aware that surviving in this world is tough enough, and even as harsh as words can be, sometimes we need to be said in the face that things are not going to happen rather than to have the heart, with a whole lot of emotions, and mind messed up with delusional thoughts which indirectly affects other aspects of our daily life. I thank those who are truthful enough to be straight-forward to end an one day or a short affair on the spot rather than to prolong the 'misery' by giving false hopes. I believe that the shorter the duration, the faster the healing process, the quicker we pick ourselves up and moved on.
Coming to terms with (being able to move on fast and easy after knowing that we can't move on from there) Me, (having safe emotional and physical sex) Myself and (decided to be smart from now on) I.
(Love the lyrics)
Singing in the rain to: 潘玮柏-谢谢
谢谢你的结束冷却后的残酷
谢谢你的知足告诉我别再付出
谢谢你的温度记忆留在最初
谢谢你曾让我幸福
Tanslation: Thank you - (Can anyone help me on this?)
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