(Issue 3) Beginning of a Relation

How did it all begin? What is it that draws your immediate attention? Why is there a sudden rush for blood when you first hold his hand?

Was it love at first sight? The great passion: drawn to each other like two magnets, they will always have to see and touch each other. Very good sexual understanding, typically very passionate. But will it be also the case whereby the magnets losses its attraction for one another once they are not together? During this period of time, will this love will vanish and each will no longer understand what they found so attractive in the other? Or will it be the case whereby this magical bond will unite them in Perfect Harmony?

Or maybe it was the sudden rush of affection that you have not feel for a long time? The emptiness that has been lingering in your heart. Has this affection been self-multiplied? We tend to amplified the good and sweet things our "Crushes" does, and we assume that it is a hint that he feels the same way too. He can be a stranger one minute ago or a long time friend, but as long as he did something simple during your worst moment or at the right timing, he practically got your heart.

Or he only because he reminds you of the good qualities of your ex or that he possess the qualities of your ideal man?

Regardless of what it is, we should never stop finding love; love that's real, ridiculous, consuming, can't-live-without-each-other kinda love. Well, we never know what's ahead of us, so why not take our chances, make the silliest mistakes and laugh about everything at some point of our lives.

However on the other note, don't ever tend to rush to find love and have high hopes and expectations when we meet someone new. And hence, if it didn't turn out to what we had hoped, it will be very disappointing. So we have to learned to take all things easy and let fate leads the way. If a new relationship doesn't work out, at least it was a happy chapter in our life...

There are many times we were so concerned about losing the other party, we throw all our love in, whole-heartedly and immediately, to show them what they can expect from you or how sweet you can be, just to have them consider having a relation with you. But do you realize that you are placing yourself at the most vulnerable position?

He had you hook on him effortlessly and get to enjoy the joy of being loved by someone, the special things you are willing to do for him to make his day. Would he be appreciative enough to throw the same back to you? Or will he enjoy the moment while it last?

HOPEFULLY, you are attracted to him because of the feelings he shown to you emotionally and not physically, so at least you get something back in return. You wouldn't want it to be the case where he is the world to you, but you are just another person in the world to him. "Don't waste your time on a man who isn't willing to waste his time on you."

Again if you guys manage to be together, since you have given your all. Would he thinks that you had stop loving him because of the things you stop doing for him? Is it like a straight marriage whereby everything changes after they marriage, in our case after courtship?

Should it be the case whereby we should slowly know one another and understand one another, building a foundation so that we wouldn't topple so easily when the wind blows. This can only be done if the other party feels the same way and gives the same commitment, but how many times your get to meet a person with the same frequency and mindset as yours. Are both your timing set at the same pace? He might be recovering from his lost love and, if so, is it logical to push all the blame on him not to be able to be as open as you are. Its all about timing and looking at the same direction. If you really think he is the one, is it difficult for you to give him time and wait until the timing is right?

There is no perfect answer and timing to everything and there is no perfect one out there, we must learn how to love the imperfect person perfectly to enjoy true love.

After all that had been said and done, is it only practical to survey the guy before you commit to make sure that you don't hurt yourself and you guys have the same mindset? This is never practical! Therefore never stop searching for love. Your guy is waiting in line for his turn, and if you stop searching, he might never come.

Coming to terms with (confusing others and unsure) Me, (easier said than done) Myself and (hurtful and apolegia) I.

Singing in the rain to: 蔡依林 - 我知道你很难过
爱一个人, 需要缘分,
你何苦让自己, 越陷越深
别傻得用你的天真去碰触不安的灵魂,
每一天只能痴痴的等

Translation: I Know You Are Upset - "Lovers are brought together by fate,
So why torture yourself more and more.
don't be naive to go against the troubled soul,
waiting pointlessly everyday."