When you are alone, away from home and close friends, emptiness comes in. This is when a person is at his weakest moment and any affection towards him will seem so strong, only because it had be self-multipled by the mind.
He knows the answer to the truth, but he choose to be unwise/unlogical, only because he couldn't handle the truth. Deep inside, he constantly ask himself:
1. Should I tie him up with a relationship status, BUT not physically there for him? How emotionally or spiritually connected can I be there for him, when I can't see him face to face to tell that he needs someone at that very moment?
2. How strong/solid is our foundation to trust that someone without any doubts? Everyone knows that it is the trust that binds a couple together and it is also the lack of faith that make someone suspects about their relationship.
3. Sexual Needs, Faithfulness & Open Relationship - The difference between a straight and PLUs relationship might be at a certain point of time, we must be open enough to be in an open-relation (and this can only be achieve with trust) for the realtion to last.
Being in an open relation is different from betrayal, as your other party is honest with you on who he is with and promise you that it is only a one night affair, with no strings attached. Betrayal is lying behind your back, and having the lies snowballed.
BUT having a open relation from the begining is never acceptable, in any relation, if so you might as well be just friends. I have NOT changed(this is a compromise of mine to be mentioned on Topic2... )
4. Time - our schedule hardly meets.
5. Means of communication - Yes, you can look into each other eyes with a webcam, but nothing says more than a warmth hug.
With so much in his mind, he knows his chances for this relation to last a lifetime. Should he be selfish or to "free" the other party?
Given the other party shoes, he knows that he wouldn't step into this world of LDR.
With that should they carry on with their own lives and pray that maybe one day, when the time is right, fate will bring them together again.
Coming into terms with (the selfish) Me, (the lonely) Myself and (the logical)I...
Staring into the sky singing: 林依晨 - 孤单北半球
少了你的手臂当枕头,我还不习惯.
你的望远镜望不到,我北半球的孤单.
太平洋的潮水跟着地球来回旋转,
我会耐心的等,等你有一天靠岸.
少了你的怀抱当暖炉,我还不习惯.
e给你照片看不到,我北半球的孤单.
世界再大两颗真心就能互相取暖.
想念不会偷懒,我的梦通通给你保管.
Translation: Lonely Northern Hemisphere - I am missing your arms as my pillow
Your binoculars couldn't see my loneliness on the northern half of the globe
The tide of Pacific Ocean will follow the Earth spins back and forth
I will patiently await and welcome you approach the shore anytime.
I am missing your hug as my heater
The photo I sent to you couldn't see my loneliness on the northern half of the globe
No matter how big the world is, two true heart still can take warm from each other
My thought of missing you will not become lazy. All my dreams will be kept by you.
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Having been through once in LDR..it's defintately not easy to maintain.
Every point you made is realistic and factual, especially Point 1-3. which hits us hard. What is a relationship when you can't 'feel' him physically (a simple hug or kiss can just be as sweet) and emotionally (sorrows or happiness that you want to share with him at the first instance).
I guess time is something that can be managed as long as the time zone differences aren't big. If Singapore and U.S., one in the morning and the other in the night, just hinders your ways of communicating..
Nowadays got webcam or video-conferencing, still can look at each other and talk. What if olden days? We only have ICQ, emails to communicate. Telephone bills will shoot up if calls are made frequently.
Despite the negative points of LDR, sometimes we still see people getting involved. Is there some positive points over it?
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