(Issue 2) Open Relation

I am still the same old guy searching for a partner to spend my lifetime together. But why the sudden accpetance of Open Relation? I guess its a compromise I come in terms with. Afterall, aint we searching for a lifetime partner who is there whenever you need, emotionally and physically, looking into the same direction.

Scenerio 1:To love the person wholeheartedly, and keeping all your thoughts low. Until one day, you find out that there are some needs or fantasy your partner is unable to fulfil. You do it behind your partner's back and thinks that it will be done and over with after that one night affair, with no strings attached. But this is also when Lies starts to Snowball and a simple thing turned into a quarrelsome affair of betrayal. Then again a breakup that hurts, and the start of another relation, after months of recovery. When will this cycle will end?

Scenerio 2:To continue your wholeheartedly love for one another, while being honest about each others needs. A compromise is made, with a promise to keep (making sure that its only a one night affair with no strings attach). You continue your love for one another and stay honest with trust.

It may sound as naive as it is and it may seems like I am running towards a wall without brakes. But isnt a relation bulit on Trust? Is this unfaithfulness or being selfish to the other party?

I have not changed and I hope that my partner will not mention the need to come into an open relation with me. It will also means that I can satisfy him in all ways. But if this day comes after 3years of relation? Am I ready to forgo everything we had and start anew again?

I guess I will have to measure the situation, and see if it is a compromise to make the relation last or is it a compromise that is going to hurt the relation.

If it is the latter, I would choose to let my partner go and stay as friends. If it is a compromise to make it last, then a line must be clearly drawn to avoid getting myself hurt.

I know it does not seems as easy as what I hope it would be, but isnt life about lessons we will only truly learned after experiencing it. I thank all my friends who disagree on my preception of Open-Relation, only because they are afraid that I get hurt.

Face it PLUs enjoy the occasional attention and flirtation. And when you tie someone too tight, he will find his own way out for a breathe, this is surviour skills.

But I can never accept Open Relation at the start of a new relation, and never will. It should only be accepted after I know the person well enough to trust him and still continue my love for him, knowing that he is out with someone else tonight and not me.

Coming in terms with (the Naive) Me, (the "deny" of accpetance towards Open Relation) Myself and (the willing to compromise) I.

Humming to the tuning in the middle of the road to: Save The Last Dance For Me
The listen the lyrics (shown below) ...



You can dance-every dance with the guy
Who gives you the eye,let him hold you tight
You can smile-every smile for the man
Who held your hand neath the candle light
But don't forget who's takin' you home
And in whose arms you're gonna be
So darlin' save the last dance for me

Oh I know that the musics fine
Like sparklin' wine,go and have your fun
Laugh and sing,but while we're apart
Don't give your heart to anyone
But don't forget who's takin' you home
And in whose arms you're gonna be
So darlin' save the last dance for me

Baby don't you know I love you so
Can't you feel it when we touch
I will never never let you go
I love you oh so much

You can dance,go and carry on
Till the night is gone
And it's time to go
If he asks if you're all alone
Can he take you home,you must tell him no
'Cause don't forget who's taking you home
And in whose arms you're gonna be
So darling,save the last dance for me

'Cause don't forget who's taking you home
And in whose arms you're gonna be
So darling,save the last dance for me
Save the last dance for me
Save the last dance for me.