I guess it is very easy and common to stereotype someone and everyone does it, however did we ever reconsider and think that it would be fair to the victim? Although I do stereotype, like any other human being, I am now trying to take everyone as a blank canvas and let them paint their own drawings to me, this was only after I was a victim myself.
Recently manage to have some decent time and think back why did most of my possible relationship became unfruitful, and I found out that most of it are my Single-hood actions. When I am single, I am carefree, enjoy my freedom of not having a lover to answer my actions to and flirt around. There are the occasional flings and ONS, which in turn do portrait me as a "club slut". And it could be the reasons why I am stereotype as a "bad lover" at the same time.
However I do not feel sorry for myself because I believed in, being both true to myself and answerable to my own actions. My stand is that everyone puts on a different hat when they are place in a different environment. A poor analysis to explain my stand would be an example of a Hooker. I believe that there are some hookers who are good mothers and teaches their children good values, it doesn't meant that all hooker are indecent and bad, as it is a job 'in demand' and it pays their rent and get their children to universities. It does not mean that she behaves the same during her work and off-work time.
I am aware that I am able to recieve acceptable testimonials on how different I behave when I am single and when I am attached. I fully perform my role as a lover and am responsible for my actions. Because I believe that when I am attached I am not one responsible to myself but to my lover too.
I feel wronged but the judges people make at times, however I also found out that actually in life we just need to be responsible to our own actions and and the people around us. It also doesn't matter what people think about you as long as the people you love understand you (including friends and family). Importantly also, time will tell. Direct explanations would just be excuses to those who have a judgement on you, therefore I learn to disregard opinions and live a life I would not regret living up (at least to my own standards).
Coming to terms with (being happy) Me, (being able to answer to) Myself and (learning to care less on others opinion) I.
Listening and singing to: Gloria Gaynor - I Am What I Am
This is a remix version, with photos of Helen Mirren. What I like most Love is the things she said before the song starts.
(It takes a lifetime to become the best of what we can be. We have not the time or the righ to judge each other. It is one life, and there is no return and no deposit. One life. So make sure you like what's in your closet)
I am what I am, I don't want praise I don't want pity
I bang my own drum, Some think it's noise I think it's pretty
It's my life, That I want to have a little pride in
My life, so it's not a place I have to hide in
Life's not worth a dam, Till you can say, I am what I am
I am what I am, And what I am needs no excuses
I deal my own deck, Sometimes the aces sometimes the deuces
Missing lyrics from the original song-
I am what I am, I am my own special creation
So come take a look, Give me the hook, Or the ovation.
And so what if I love each sparkle and each bangle
Why not see things from a different angle
One life so it's time to open up your closet
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It is a sad fact that a lot of people enjoys stereotyping others and I believe all of us are guilty of that at any one time. But I also believe that if you are answerable to your own actions and does not harm others in the process then go ahead and be yourself. Let others say what they want, it is your life you lead not others. :D
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