(Issue 34) Law vs Mindset

I notice a similarity among us AJs, when we were new in this circle we tend to rush for love. During that phrase, we tend to go into a relation without actually knowing the person well enough as friends before we commit. Why is it that the straights tend behave more "sensible" on this issue then us? Could it be the longing to be love after hiding in the closet for almost one third of our life?

Again, since we are comparing with the straights, why is it that straights' married couple are willing to sit down and figure things out longer than we do? Could it be the things that bind them together, like marriage, children and house? Do we need Law to make us reconsidering how worthy a relation should be, monetary and emotion wise? Could it be the separation period imposed by law that makes a couple reconsider and ponder, as issues get less heated up? Do we lose out because of a mentality of "nothing to lose", that in turn leads us to rush decision to end things fast and "move on"?

I read the papers today regarding a lesbian bringing her broken relation to court because of their child. I could understand her actions and it shows that even with Law, house and children, one can never be bound, it all lies with the mindset. Life could not be as easy, as it is because of the same-sex relation, not only because of the majority mindset but also our own.

As for her case, it is never easy to determine the '1' and the '0' by the public. Someone could be a '0' in the bed but still behave the same profile as the '1' in real life. On the contrary, I think she should not reconsider her sexual preferences (and become straight) because we should never live a life based on lies. Her situation is bound to come one day to a certain person in the world, and it happened to her, therefore like every relation, we should just make the decision we are able to live with and be GAY(i.e. happy) about it.

Coming to terms with (being hopeful) Me, (being) Myself and (hope that someone could love me for life) I.

Listening and Singing out loud on my bed to: 梁静茹 - 勇气

终于做了这个决定, 别人怎么说我不理, 只要你也一样的肯定
我愿意天涯海角都随你去, 我知道一切不容易
我的心一直温习说服自己, 最怕你忽然说要放弃

爱真的需要勇气, 来面对流言蜚语
只要你一个眼神肯定, 我的爱就有意义
我们都需要勇气, 去相信会在一起
人潮拥挤我能感觉你, 放在我手心里你的真心

如果我的坚强任性, 会不小心伤害了你, 你能不能温柔提醒,
我虽然心太急更害怕错过你

Translation: Courage - I have made up my mind and it doesn't matter others' opinions are as long as you are as sure as I am.
I am willing to follow you regardless of where you are, and I am aware it would be difficult (for us).
I having being persuading my myself, but I fear most that you give up suddenly.

(Our) love will need courage, to face criticisms.
(However) with an confirmation in your eyes, my love would be meaningful.
Both of us will need courage to believe that we would be together.
I can feel you(r love) amidst the crowd with your true heart in the palms of my hands.

If my willful and headstrong ways accidentally hurt you, will you please remind me gently,
(because) Even though my heart get too excited, I fear to lose you more .