(Issue 22) Safe sex

Is there actually safe sex? I am not talking about the physical aspect over here, but the emotional roller-coaster ride many had gone through after sex with their partners or the so called "feeling some sparks" guys. Do we blocked out all the red flags after we slept with a man? In fact many of us make up excuses, for him not even to call you after that one time so call "good connection" sex you had.

There are tons of excuses we either heard or came up with before, "He might be too busy coping with work", "He has just came out from a bad relation and need more time to sort things out", "He needs more time to talk to his present partner whom he said to lost all his feelings for", "His mobile maybe out of battery, which soon becomes he most probably lost his mobile, then becomes I think he misheard the wrong digit when we exchanged numbers", "He might be waiting for me to make a move because he doesn't know what I am interested or not" or the worst is "He is uncertain about his sexuality preference".

However, had we considered that he is simply not interested instead of making up an excuse for someone whom you do not actually known that well, just to buff your way through and not to face the rejection as a "fun affair"? Instead we belittled ourselves and then find no confidence in moving on, thinking, "What had I said wrongly? Or was it the way I acted?", and then the "Coulda, Woulda and Shoulda". Trust if he is interest he can reach you easily and everyone is just a phone call away. How unreachable can one person be with all the modern technology (example. emails) around and the great fact is that almost everyone knows anyone in this circle and there is only that few places we can be hanging around. And who can't take a minute off the 1,400 minutes we have in en entire day to call or drop a message on who sweet you are?

Then again, I do know of couples that are together emotionally over a period of time, however they call it off either after constant rejection from sex or their first sex experience (but also giving credit to those who manage to have 5 max). Also not forgetting those that will sweet talk others after they seen their profiles on the internet and want to meet them out as friends. We soon much later learned that their ultimate goal is to get into your pants and dump you after that. I am not saying that these are not a good source to find great friends or look for sex (as long as both parties are mutual on it), but how detail can a profile be on the person's personality to warn you (let alone how many percent of them are real facts)?

We are all aware that surviving in this world is tough enough, and even as harsh as words can be, sometimes we need to be said in the face that things are not going to happen rather than to have the heart, with a whole lot of emotions, and mind messed up with delusional thoughts which indirectly affects other aspects of our daily life. I thank those who are truthful enough to be straight-forward to end an one day or a short affair on the spot rather than to prolong the 'misery' by giving false hopes. I believe that the shorter the duration, the faster the healing process, the quicker we pick ourselves up and moved on.

Coming to terms with (being able to move on fast and easy after knowing that we can't move on from there) Me, (having safe emotional and physical sex) Myself and (decided to be smart from now on) I.

(Love the lyrics)
Singing in the rain to: 潘玮柏-谢谢
谢谢你的结束冷却后的残酷
谢谢你的知足告诉我别再付出
谢谢你的温度记忆留在最初
谢谢你曾让我幸福

Tanslation: Thank you - (Can anyone help me on this?)