(Issue 20) Compromise

Learning to compromise might promise you a better relationship, and to be able to compromise is a gift from you to your partner. It is something most people take for granted, especially when we compromise in silence. However if you think those who accepts these gifts for granted and misused it is bad enough, then you might not have met those that try to push the envelope further. I hope my luck stays as it is , whereby these group of "water testers" wouldn't come into my life.

Is there a drawn line to preventing compromise to compromising (i.e. jeopardizing)? Everyone has their own limits to the term compromise and therefore it can never be compared, it is drawn by the experience and the friends he has and once had. If this is the case, does it meant that a couple it is only considered as a fair game when both have the same limits of compromise?

Why do we compromise? It is because our partners likes something that we do not like as much or maybe disagree upon. The problem lies here, to him it might not be something of a big deal because he likes it and therefore when it is back to his turn some might have a whole lot of explanations to give. And if he refuse and ask you not to compromise him anymore and let everything return to normal, is it reasonable because you had actually compromise and might have done it?

I actually got a negative feedback on Open Relationships and I come to another conclusion. For the very possessive and conservative types, their extend of an "open relation" (which is also a compromise) is allowing their partner to meet up with their other gay friends or EXs alone, but no flirting or kissing, nevertheless to mention sex. This is a very big step for them and it is not right to judge anyone unless you were in their shoes. Whatever, the case it is either an open relation or mere compromise, they ending up regretting this decision, is this a case of compromising relationship?

I do believe that it is not always a case of bad, something compromise can get you some exceptional benefits, especially the sexual fetish compromise. You never know what he is good at unless you try, haa. On the serious note, it would be good if we are willing to do some compromising to make suits his needs or interest, but it would be better if you can learn his interest and do it together, keep an open mind and heart.

Coming to terms with (compromise) Me, (constantly changing to improve) Myself and (without compromising) I.
Screaming my lungs out to: Jennifer Hudson - I'm Changing

I am changing, I'll be better than I am
I'm trying to find a way to understand



And for those who loved the show and performance, here is an Oscar moment, Academy Award Winner;Jennifer Hudson , Multiple Grammy Winner;Beyonce Knowles, Tony Award Winner;Anika Noni Rose & Screen Actors Guild Awards Nominatee Keith Robinson performing nominated tracks, drumroll....

Jennifer Huson at Oscar Party - And I Am Telling You I'm Not Going