(Issue 11) Healing Process

The cause of a breakup is normally because both parties felt that they are not right for one another (and could live a better life without one another), but why do we still feel lonely at night, instead of being happy that the "unpleasant" relation has passed? What's more is that we even wishes to pick him from your dreams/nonsensical thoughts and hug him tight, for one last time, but we know this one last time never ends.

Why is so we chooses to see sad movies/songs or go to old hangouts just to remind us about the relationship we used have, and sometimes even make ourselves drunk the past the day by. Didn't we want to move on and let life be back to normal stage again, working and staying focus again on the immediate necessities of life.

And there are those breakups without an explanations, we spend every moment figuring out why things happened the way it is, and most of the times we even end up blaming ourselves, then putting the blame on him and right back to ourselves. But remember we didn't let ourselves down because we did loved with him with our true heart, and in front is a new path for us to bash and conquer again.

Does it mean that we miss our EXs (and could not let them go) when we mention about to our Present Boyfriend? Maybe because we want our present to relate to what we like and dislike in a relationship we had? I guess it is okay to mentioned if he asked, and not let it be everyday topic, as long as you are not comparing him with your present (love should never be compared). After all, everyone has a past and as long as we know how to treasure the present, then it should be fine. I believe that even your present also wishes to leave a footprint in your heart, and have you smile when ever you think of him.

Another thing is that, should we plot revenge or be sour grapes when we see our EXs moved on? There are no right or wrongs, but for me (not trying to sound like Mr. Perfect or Mr. Nice Guy) I actually feel glad for him and that is even more a better reason for me to move on. After all I wish for him to the same for me when I moved on too.

Sometimes we have to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one, when we finally meet the right person, we will be grateful and thankful. Let us work together and search for the new and remember the good times we had in the past instead of dwelling, see, life should never come into a standstill, ever.

Coming to terms with (past EXs and) Me, (present) Myself and (future) I (and the right guy, of course).

Singing in the rain to: 孙燕姿 - 眼泪成诗
分手伤了谁, 谁把他变美, 我的眼泪写成了诗已无所谓.
让你再回味, 字不醉人人自醉, 因为回忆总是美.

Translation: Poem Of Tears - "who was hurt? what changed the flavor of love? my tears has already been written into a poem.
i'll give you a chance to taste it again, words can't liquored up a man however man chooses to intoxicate, all because memory is always beautiful"

This is a beautiful song, and the meaning of each chinese character is so deep and meaningful, sometimes it is too hard to translate.